It's a long story, just feeling so alone right now, man, did I just say that? i'm sorry, never mind me.. damn, I don't even know what to think any more..
No you're not biza.. but I do know how you feel, I feel like myself sometimes.. I wish I could say things will be ok, but only time will tell that.. until then sweetie, here's a flower..
The problem is though, when we try to show just how human we are the ladies run off, and othere men not strong enough to show how human they are call us weak..
God Gave this gift to me during a time when I went through the most terrible time in my life, it gave me a way to let out the way I was feeling, and feel now.. thank you for your kind thoughts.. (((big hugs))) Back..
It works both ways.. I do try to be sensitive though.. and notice when someone is hurting, and at least let them know somebody cares without having to be asked..
No need to apologize Anna.. just trying to let the ladies know us men are just as human and frail as women are.. we don't like to admit it, but it's true, another thing I think is worth saying, is a lot of the strength of a man comes from a womans love for him, it's that love that gives a man the drive and motivation to walk the burning the fire of hell if need be, if for nothing else but to show his lady how much she is worth.. even to the point of giving up his own life just so she can have hers.. at least that's how I am.. even my ex-wife would tell anyone that... she knows from experience, when I was alone and stood against many...
Naw, don't think I need to do that.. not miserable, just sometimes lonely.. but hey, that's life, I have decided some things I am going to change, means I won't be on the forums as much, but sometimes that's just how it has to be..
Lol, i'll have to give that a try.. seems like I remember the nothing from the never ending story.. and the rock man sitting there looking at his hands saying... these used to be good strong hands.. anyway, i'll let you know what I come up with, which will probably be nothing..
I soppose that's one way of looking at it.. but being single and alone sometimes isn't a good thing for me, because when i'm alone in my thoughts.. it can get pretty depressing.. however, life goes on..
There have been lots of questions on this subject, so I figured I would post something to answer some of those questions.. so I will try to give you ladies as much insight to what men are like on the inside.. or at least some of us men.. so here goes..
If you ladies ever really wanted to know.. then I here is my perspective on this subject..
We like to be appreciated for things we do that we are never asked to do...
We like to get a call if for no other reason but to say, hey I was thinking of you.. things like that really go a long way, at least for me it does.. sometimes it nice to hear a voice instead of getting emails all the time, and it shouldn't have to be us that does the calling all the time. kinda makes us feel like it one sided..
We want you to know that even we have feelings and can hurt just as much as you can... Deep down inside we really do have hearts..
We want to be loved, and for you ladies to be sensitive enough to know when we are hurting
Every now and then we need someone to lean on just like you do
A few kind words and a little love, motivates us to move moutians for the one we care about...
We like having affection returned in kind..
We need to be comforted and held close too not just in bad times, but good times as well..
We like to be appreciated for getting up early in the morning and heading off to work, and putting in those long hours because we care enough to do what ever it takes to support a family..
We like to know that we are thought of...
The bottom line is.... we want to be loved, just like you do..
Well, there you have it.. hopefully now you ladies will understand us men a little better..
Woody, your daugher loves her mother, and i believe what she is doing is trying to preserve the sanctity of what once was.. but she should also understand that her mother, your wife is no longer here, this is something that has to be handled very carefully.. I suggest inviting her over, spend the day together and talk about how you feel to her, and I believe your late wife loved you enough that she would want you to be happy, and wouldn't expect you to be alone the rest of your life, also get her to understand that you loved her mother, your wife, and that no one will ever replace her, and the memories of her will always be a part of you, at the same time Woody, when this new lady comes into your life, remember she is her own person, so don't campare her to your late wife... Be ready to accept that she will be different, and love her for who she is.. I hope that helps..
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anyway, i'll let you know what I come up with, which will probably be nothing..
About men, for the ladies
Yes Arlene you are.. shows you are a strong woman..