The "Old Fella" taught me: "The guys do the chasin' and the girls do the choosin'...." My experience indicates he was prolly correct.... I think You need to "chase".... a little for sure......
Respect is Really important, for ourselves, for each other, for the generations that went before and the ones still to come.
Some, perhaps all, First Nations People teach that, Respect for 7 Generations...the three before ours and the three after, and our own....Makes a lot of sense......LOVE, honor, respect...they travel together, with Honesty/Truth!!!
I actually listen to what people say they believe, or believe in...their stated values/views. I accept that they really mean what they've said and I remember it, often verbatim....for Years.....
Apparently many people don't REALLY mean stuff they say and it irks them when someone listens...ands remembers.....
We can meet someone in church, in a bar, be "fixed up" by a trusted friend and have the prospective partner turn out to dishonest or just plain ickky in the sociopathic sense. We do have some responsibility. We have to pay attention in our quest for "happily ever after.....or wait for the "Good Fairy"...
I don't think most people are being "dishonest". I think we tend to put what "we would prefer things to be". Any distance is fine with me.... I am centrally located among my 5 kids and 7 grandkids..... I live on an acreage that I own. I am within a 100 miles of where I was born 59+ years ago....... Any distance is fine, as long as she's into covering it...........
Seems some people are attached to the "shopping process". The word "personna" comes from the Greek word for mask. So easy to construck a mask online. The "fear" issue seems to be a big thing also... "What if!...What if it doesn't work out.....What if I commit and a "better one" comes along..."
I understand Your frustration. Wish You all the Best!!
You know what You want. You'll find Him! For sure We miss all of the shots we don't take!!!
I think You need to follow Your instincts... You can send a flower or email to some one, see what their response is or they have the option of not responding. Sometimes people don't get on line every day, so patience is a good thing. I don't think "making a move" in a thread is a good plan, not in my comfort zone anyway..... The name of the site should make our intent clear..."Connecting" is a big clue....Assertive is acceptable, I think....Rude and or aggressive are not acceptable...the Forum Rules are pretty simple... Enjoy. You're a nice addition to the forums...You've been "lurking" in a pleasing way.
Both my parents passed away in the 70's....I received a fractured skull, broke an artery in the brain cavity, emergency surgery to repair damaged the left frontal lobe...I was wiped out financiallt by the time I could get around....Had two abdominal surgeries in this millenium..one was a colon resection, the other just a look see.... Two divorces...couple of major cheated ons in serious relationships....
All stuff I needed to be where I am, who I am....
Not MY Plan.....Just stuff that Happened...nothing PERSONAL about it
I got a return ticket for this Human Experience Trip...The Ride continues...It's All Good!
There is no such thing as a "meaningless thought" I don't think anything is "typical" of a woman. Everyone resonates to individual people differently. How a woman reacts to Dustin Hoffman is going to have no bearing on how she would react to me... My thoughts create energy....if I expect a reaction, believing it to be typical, I'll often receive it....
I like to be in NOW,,,not have a script written for the woman....let energy move and have a unique shared experience, perhaps...
Mine is to separate wants and needs, acquire a swampy acreage with a (rustic) dwelling near the geographic centre of British Columbia, try to ensure that no one suffers loss that I might gain and live in the only time that is REAL....NOW I think I'll start about 2001.......
Uh huh...that will work...Planless...but functional....
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The "Old Fella" taught me: "The guys do the chasin' and the girls do the choosin'...."My experience indicates he was prolly correct....
I think You need to "chase".... a little for sure......