fieldworking Forum Posts (186)

RE: cats or dogs?

That is the stereotype for cats - aloof and too independent. My Siamese Seal Point (may she RIP) did seem aloof to strangers, especially if they were loud. She had an aversion for loud noises and people she didn't know well. It took her a long time to warm up to new people but she rememebered people after being around them for awhile (see them frequently). When Princess wanted you to pay her attention you knew it...it was "very" obvious. She would stare at you, get on your lap, get in your face, meow at you, etc. Since Princess' death in 2010, I have adopted another cat who is just as sweet but has a different personality. She'll let strangers pet her but she won't play with any other person but me.

I like dogs but I have grown up with cats and they are much easier to spoil. It's difficult to compare cats and dogs because they are just different. Cats, like dogs, can and do get excited when their person comes home. They just don't bark and shake their tails (well, not the same way dogs do).

RE: Advice Please ....

I don't have any advice but I have a friend that is an ex-pat there. She's from England but teaches in Abu Dhabi. Sorry for the randomness.

RE: Does Anyone from SC even use this site?

Most of the guys that view my profile are from other countries so you aren't alone.

RE: Curvy or Skinny

Just because a person isn't curvy doesn't mean that they live an unhealthy lifestyle. You can't help your genetics...just saying.

RE: it's getting harder to find a lifemate because...

There wasn't a way for more to choose more than one of the options above. There are some things that I don't mind compromising on but other things not so much. For example, I don't want kids but if the guy has a kid I am ok with that. If doesn't have full custody I'd want to know if he'd be willing to move away from where his kid lives. You know, if we got married and I get a job offer in another state would he be ok with going to the other state. If he he has full custody, then I'd want to know if there would be issues with him and the kid moving to another state for a job. I'd also want to know about his relationship with his ex (is she going to cause problems for us, is there a chance he'd go back to her, the relationship between the kid and the mother, etc.). One thing that I won't budge on is that the guy has to be a Christian and go to church.

RE: Help? Maybe?..Please? :)

Tickets to see the car races. I guess it's called Nascar. Whatever it's called. I suggested that because you mentioned that you got the book about Dale Earnhardt Jr. I guess a lot depends on how long you have been dating.

RE: Why girls do not wish to create family as for whom they wait?

That is so true. I am one of those women who does NOT want children. I like kids, I just don't like them enough to want one growing inside of me...then to spend the rest of my life caring for it and worrying, etc. I know what I was like as a kid and I am 98% sure that if I had a kid, it would be like me. I wasn't a bad kid. I was just a handful...very precocious (sp?). You'd think that was a good thing.

Even if I did want to have kids, I wouldn't want to have kids without the benefit of marriage. I know it's hard enough to raise kids when you are married. I couldn't even imagine what it would be like to be a single parent. It couldn't be as glamorous as it is made to be in the movies.

One thought is to find a women who is divorced or widowed and have children. Yes, you would be taking on a child (or children) that are not biologically yours. If she only has one child, she may be interested in having another child. Of course, you'd have to realize that she would be protective of her kid(s) and that they come first. So, she has her job and kid(s) that would come before dating. If her parents or siblings live nearby, she may be able to get family to babysit while she goes out with you. Or if she is divorced and the ex lives nearby and gets visitation, you may be going out every other weekend. I think you'd have to be patient though.

Good luck.

RE: do you believe on dating or marriage ??

It sounds like you just want to jump into marriage without getting to know the other person. That doesn't work for me. I want to get to know the guy before I marry him. I want to know his likes and dislikes, where is he from, where has he been (did his family move a lot, did he or does he enjoy traveling, etc.), did have pets growing up, does he have any pets now (or want any in the future, especially cats), what are his views on women working (let's me know how he would feel about his wife working), does he want kids (if he is dead set on having kids, then I'm not the one for him), his religious views (is he a Christian), what does he like to do for fun, did he go to college, what does he do for a living, how close is he to his family, is he an only child or does he have siblings, etc.

Besides, it's not all about the guy. It takes two to make a relationship work. I'm not going to be a housewife. I want to work and I acutally enjoy the type of work I do. So, I think that you have to date in order to find out if this is the person you want to marry. If getting a mail-order bride (or whatever the politically correct phrase is these days) is your thing, then go for it.

RE: do you believe on dating or marriage ??

If you don't date then how can you know if this is the person that you want to marry?

RE: Is there a sure way of knowing if a guy is interested in being more than just friends?

RE: ......america women and their love with visa....lol !!!!!!....

Are you talking about a visa in terms of money or in terms having a visa (and passport to enter a country)? I'm assuming that you mean money. I wouldn't say that every American and British woman is like that. Perhaps you are looking in the wrong places.

RE: Which one do you prefer?

So, that would be a good thing for me...since I tend to be on the shy side.

RE: american women

If that is how he talked to his patients, then they would be screwed and didn't even get kissed.

RE: american women

Sounds like he's drunk.

RE: Girls; does size make a difference?

Amen. Average size is better when a lady has a small mouth and not much of a gag reflex.

RE: Ladies, how do you anticipate the bill to be handled on a first date?

I read somewhere that whoever did the asking should be the one to pay. Maybe that's why, in the past, men did more of the paying because they were the ones to do all of the asking. Since it seems like women are asking guys out more these days (more so than in the past; like before 1970 maybe), then they should pay for the date. I wonder how people feel about that? Whoever does the asking should pay for the date?

RE: Ladies, how do you anticipate the bill to be handled on a first date?

I would be prepared to pay for my half, but wouldn't argue if he insisted on paying for both of us. I think that it's nice for the guy to pay for the first date. Assuming we're at a restaurant where you'd tip (somewhere other than a fast food place) and he insisted on paying the bill, then I'd ask if he wanted me to cover the tip. I'd having no problems going dutch on the first date but, like I said, I think it's nice if he pays for the first date. After the first date, I have no problems with going dutch or paying for dates. I don't expect the guy to pay for every date or for us to spend a lot of money on every single date. There are a lot of things that we can do that don't cost a lot or are free. Here, it's about $2 (US$) to enter a state park. So, it would be inexpensive to go for a hike. Of course, there are a lot of other places to go hiking that are free (national parks and forests). If we went hiking early in the morning (before noon), then we could go back to his place or mine, cookout, and then watch a movie. So, the only expense would be the gas money (vary by distance), cost of the hike (less than $5 per person), and the food for the cookout. I'd be willing to share in the cost of the food for cooking out (or whatever it was that we were eating). I'm not high maintenance. I don't wear makeup and, in terms of doing things for dates, I'm pretty easy to please. I have to say that I might be a little uncomfortable if I ended up paying for every single date. It would be different if he had just been laid off from his job. I know guys don't like for women to be moochers and I wouldn't want a guy mooching off of me. Just my opinion.

RE: Girls; does size make a difference?

RE: Girls; does size make a difference?

The bigger the better? Not for me. I prefer the average size.

RE: Why nice men are difficult to find?

I can say that I don't want to put up with crap from jerks, whether they are men or women. I don't have kids. I am a cat mom. I have met some really nice guys but I know that there is nothing more than friendship. Why? Because of our current life situations getting involved romantically wouldn't work. We enjoy each others company and have good conversations. I guess, I wonder what people mean by a good guy. I imagine that it's different for everyone. For me, a good guy is someone that is respectful, doesn't do drugs (or have STDs), doesn't mind hearing stories about my cat, believes in God, and a few things. I would definitely say that I would treat a guy well but I'm not going to be a guy's mother.

RE: Who in your opinion are the best novelists, male or female?

Stephen King is good. I also love reading books by Janet Evanovich (Stephanie Plum series and the otehr series too), Sue Grafton (Kinsey Milhone Mysteries), and Shirley Rousseau Murphy (Joe Grey Series - crime fighting cats that can talk).

RE: are some women on here crazy?

I think that you'll meet crazy women every where you go (online or in real life). I have never understood women and I am a woman myself.

RE: MEN::Do You Prefer Women With Curly or Strait Hair

Leaves me out. My hair is short but it's thick. Personally, it's easier to have short hair, especially when it is thick. It reduces the risk of getting knots. Even though my hair is short, it's still healthy.

RE: MEN::Do You Prefer Women With Curly or Strait Hair

What if she had cancer (been through chemo)?

RE: What do you think is critical in keeping a relationship healthy?

I think there should be a combination of all the things that you mentioned. If I have to pick one thing that would be the most important in keeping a relationship healthy...I'd say being honest. Of course, being committed to one person and one person only.

RE: Favorite Part Of A Person's Body?

This can also be true for men. The man's waistline is also important.

RE: Favorite Part Of A Person's Body?

And by the way they smile. The smile and the eyes tell a lot, but I'd say the eyes are first.

RE: what emotion is when you like somebody more than he likes you.

Why not ask him? If you guys have been hanging out for 6 years and you have feelings for him, tell him. Or at least let him know that you are interested in him...more than just friends. I guess you could ask him if he sees you as just a friend or if he thinks he could see you as a girlfriend.

RE: what emotion is when you like somebody more than he likes you.

I don't know. If he is isn't interested because he is involved with another woman (married/dating) then I'd back off. I wouldn't want to be the reason that he left the person he was seeing or married to. If he'd leave her for me, then he'd probably leave me for another woman. If he's unnattached and he's not interested, then I'd probably feel hurt and a little embarassed...but I'd get over it.

RE: if stranded in the wilderness,which animal would you fear the most ,if you had no weapons?