Ladies, how do you anticipate the bill to be handled on a first date? ( Archived) (25)

I think if a Gentleman asks a lady out on a first date, he should pay. After that it should be shared, or take turns, or whatever the couple is comfortable with. I dont think there are any rules anymore. Its really up to the couple involved.

Usually, I'll pay for the drinks, and he pays for the food, or, vice versa. Then if there's a second date, we 'switch'.
Works well for me, as I'm not out for a free meal, nor would I expect him to be either.

Is chilvalry only about footing the bill for things? Does being chivalrous demand that a woman be complitely vulnerable and at the financial mercy of a man in order to exist? That sounds like man ego which has very little to do with chivalry and everything to do with controle.

It always surprises me how some men think that because a woman might be financially independant that means they have to forget their manners!!!

Who pays? Whatever they decide between them!!!

Treating someone to a meal has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with wanting to treat someone AND being able to do it financially ....

I dated a man from this website who invited me out on a last minute, insisted on where we should eat, ate and drank double of what I had and THEN asked for the bill to be split half/half.

I never wanted to see him again. He didn't think anything was wrong at all. Someone's parents raised their son to not be a man.

I cannot imagine any woman who wants to give their everything to a man like that.

Completely agree

I would be they type that would like to pay , particularly on a first date. I certainly think if I invite someone that I do not know well or have not met at all the onus is on me to pay.

In saying that some Ladies do not want that and like to split the bill. It differs with Ladies so I tend to feel my way on a first date and try to pay without being overly insistent.

me and you are alike Bro Vinny, I like to pay on the first date, its gentlemanly to do so. If the lady insists on the split, then i will be ok, but i would not force the issue.

I guess while we think we are being gentlemanly we can actually make some people feel uncomfortable.

Have you read the 'which country has the best looking men thread'. Belgian men are taking a hammering

I read that one mate and yes they are, poor sods i suppose i will have to carry the flag

I dont think in Belgium women are uncomfortable with the man paying they like it.

I would be prepared to pay for my half, but wouldn't argue if he insisted on paying for both of us. I think that it's nice for the guy to pay for the first date. Assuming we're at a restaurant where you'd tip (somewhere other than a fast food place) and he insisted on paying the bill, then I'd ask if he wanted me to cover the tip. I'd having no problems going dutch on the first date but, like I said, I think it's nice if he pays for the first date. After the first date, I have no problems with going dutch or paying for dates. I don't expect the guy to pay for every date or for us to spend a lot of money on every single date. There are a lot of things that we can do that don't cost a lot or are free. Here, it's about $2 (US$) to enter a state park. So, it would be inexpensive to go for a hike. Of course, there are a lot of other places to go hiking that are free (national parks and forests). If we went hiking early in the morning (before noon), then we could go back to his place or mine, cookout, and then watch a movie. So, the only expense would be the gas money (vary by distance), cost of the hike (less than $5 per person), and the food for the cookout. I'd be willing to share in the cost of the food for cooking out (or whatever it was that we were eating). I'm not high maintenance. I don't wear makeup and, in terms of doing things for dates, I'm pretty easy to please. I have to say that I might be a little uncomfortable if I ended up paying for every single date. It would be different if he had just been laid off from his job. I know guys don't like for women to be moochers and I wouldn't want a guy mooching off of me. Just my opinion.