Last week I had a 'wasted' journey across from Gozo to Malta on the ferry for a medical appointment that got cancelled.
I refused to get upset and quietly drove back to the ferry while listening to beautiful love songs on the radio. The sun was setting and the sea was beautiful and calm...... I felt a little melancholic but at peace with myself.
I arrived at the harbour too late and had to wait for the next ferry.
I went and bought myself a coffee while waiting.
At the cafe I got chatting to some cute young Italian chicks.
Then I met a more mature lady - still about a decade younger than me. She was very beautiful and had a lovely smile. She was German.
I gave her a lift in my car to her host family (she was on an English course). She told me that she was on her course with a Slovakian lady doctor (radiologist) who was very cute and would I like to meet her?
Well, for three days we met after school and went for a swim.
I took them out for a meal Thursday and invited another CS member in Gozo to come along.
Friday was the German lady's birthday, and she'd decided the night before what she wanted for her birthday......... and I was so delighted and flattered and honoured that what she wanted as a birthday present - was me!
She flew back to Germany yesterday.... but, it all goes to show that every cloud has a silver lining if you smile and be positive - right?
Thanks, judyb.......... but it may have been slightly premature.
Women deal with things differently to men.
They say one thing but, even though they care, I think they find the transition from a relationship to being merely friends easier if they have no contact whatsoever for a period of time - sometimes several years!
Whatever the gender, if one person feels totally in love with another and the other feels that they cannot reciprocate such deep feelings then it may well be for the best to cut all (or most) ties for some time.
However, even if there is no contact it is good to know in one's heart that the 'non loving' person at least cares for you and wants you to be happy.
Friends like to 'do' things for each other, apart from being there for a friend who needs to talk or share something good.
However, if the person who is now a friend but truly loves the 'non-loving' one of the two then any act of friendliness is going to be treated with suspicion and maybe even alarm!
I think I was a little over-optimistic regarding the level of friendship I perceived!
CS can be a great place for people who feel a deep need to communicate with other people.......... and the wonderful thing is that you can meet the people you've got to know if you wish to and are prepared to make a little effort!
Then you get to see the med and have a little 'fish' too!
Elley - you are a wonderfully profound man....... I hope that we meet one day and I'll buy you a case of whatever and we can chat about how ladies have made/destroyed our lives and other such 'piffle'!
Thank God for people like you in CS who try their best to be decent to one and all!
'Rusty you really should behave - the way you attack people is colourful & dramatic but at times is way below the belt - but thats who you are & people seem well able to handle it. its amusing really!!!'
I DO try to be amusing, but it's not nice to go over the top - a very funny guy in CS and I were quite good mates and had a laugh making fun out of each other......... however, sadly, it all got nasty and it's rather sad.
I haven't read the whole of your post - like me, you tend to put a lot of thought and effort into communicating and sometimes it can be rather long.
You are a very special person, and I am sure you are aware of it.
Life's a gamble; especially if you rely on somebody or something that can never be within your control.
Relationships that last a long time outside of marriage often appear to work because there is no public commitment - i.e. either partner can walk out at any time without legal repercusions (ok, you can sue a common law spouse but let's not go there!) - THEREFORE both tend to try and keep the realtionship alive if they love the other person.
Marriage, for many, equates to security and stability. A man may continue to love his wife, and vice versa, but the 'security' of the marriage can sometimes mean they don't tery so hard and take the other person for granted - once that happens it can only make the relationship go downhill.
Marriage?
I've been there. I've tried and failed more than once; I have to accept that for some people the 'ideal' of a publicly recognised formal relationship is just not going to happen. I tried. I tried again. I tried one last time; eventually one has to accept defeat!¬
'Writing on a public open forum seems to make some people transform themselves into a Grandios Maestro and they think nothing of boring the heck out of others with their long rambling excercises in prose .... Actually, if they paused a moment and considered the Blogs - that is what they are there for ... for personal ramblings and for those interested enough to go there and read their mind-matter. To use this open forum for Bashing people who cause them jealousy is just bad behaviour and caddishness.'
The truth is that some posts are subjectively interesting and some are not -
and if you post a huge quantity of different posts there is obviously a statistical probability that one or two shall be of interest to somebody............ so, it would be logical to keep posting and posting and posting and posting and posting and posting and posting (almost ad infinitum) - right?
I think we all get the general drift of what has been said.
Some people agree with antcus.
Some people do not agree with antcus.
Probably time to move on to another subject as obviously the feelings of some individual(s) could have been hurt - at least there is not (yet) a full page of 'new' scintialtingly interesting threads taking up an entire page today and ALL posted by just one person.
Maybe antcus' thread has made a few of us think.
Time to get back to our normal combination of inane, serious, funny, stupid, interesting, life questioning and varied combination of threads where we all, or at least several of us, contribute - right?
re. the University years....I miss the funky unwashed female Philosophy students!
oh yeah - and the Student Union Women's Officers (always so butch and hirsuite!)
My favourite time at secondary school was going twice a week with a busload of other guys to Cheltenham Ladies College for some extra subjects such as 'Book Keeping', 'Russian' and, my favourite of all time:
'General Affairs'!!!!!!!!!! (what a name to give to Current Events!)
and, I suppose, one could always use a 'spellchecker' in a word document and 'post and paste' if one didn't want to come across as both boring AND illiterate!
rusty_knight Forum Posts (6,840)
Silver Lining! ~BIG GRIN~
Thank You! I feel so lucky........ and I do not feel guilty to be happy!