I have no enemies never wished to harm anyone in my whole life but have had fights. I would get so angry when someone hit me and hit them back with a vengences saying look at what you have done now. I know I had the choice to walk away or turn the other cheek but for what to get hit again.
I will stand my ground speak my peace with the best of them but never even think violently toward them.
I have disliked what others have said but I have gone out drinking or partying with that same person afterward. I may not see eye to eye with someone in some areas but have great times in another area.
I read people using the word enemy and I was just wondering what they thought a enemy is.
I think of wars where people die as what a enemy is!
My dad was 15 years older than my mom to but my mom was in her late 20's when they got together and they both raised us so I take it they were ready in some ways.
I understand what people mean bye age doesn't matter but there are a lot of sickos out there that take that to heart---I believe they are called molesters and pediphiles.
I know 40 year old men who say as long as she bleeds and can say yea that's good enough for me.
I guess if a 15 year old goes out with a 38 year old--it's all in how they feel about each other and get along---I wonder why school teacher keep getting charged than.
You are 38 and he is 31---bye that time one can pretty much assume both are on the same page heading for their security.
It's more like when a 38 year old goes after someone in their teens to early 20's that I see as wrong.
First and foremost someone shown interest in a child is not doing it for the right reasons and are just into it for their own like trying to be younger than they are.
To me a person in their teens and early 20's doesn't have a clue where they are headed yet!
I know people that I don't like things about them but I never consider them enemies. I see enemies as someone that will go out of their way to hurt another steal from them slander them make fun of them get violent with them.
Many truths are nothing but judgments when dealing with another human being therefore the proper thing to do would be to at least hear the full picture from both sides.
The mature thing would be not to look at it as a game of competition where there is a winner and loser but a way to grow broader in understanding and heart.
Getting the last word is a matter of timing.
Personally I just keep going till I run out of stuff to say and than it doesn't matter who has the last word I am done.
I knew a woman that would say dumb things trying to have the last word--she even told me that in her head she is saying stuff while the other person is talking not listening to anything being said from the other.
I told her one day that she was the smartest person I ever knew and she smiled from ear to ear like she thought I was for real.
I think I may have a better term: immature. The idea that someone will come to a relationship with no thought of what they can contribute but only what they can get.
That is so common place these days but so sad!
I think here in Canada life is too easy and people don't mature as fast! If it wasn't for the heart aches we receive along the way in relationships would we even advance mentally and emotionally or in spirit!?
I mean getting the physical materials like a home furniture and the like is so easy to do that we would just take it all for granted feeling happy and excited never understanding other feelings at all.
johnmarkus Forum Posts (1,384)
Just because one isn't liked does it make that person a enemy??
Just don't call me late for supper---other than call me anything you like --well within friendly gesture that is.