I don't even try to understand a woman I just simply see them as a person and give them as much trust respect and appreciation as I can.
I stay real true to my heart doing what I think is the right thing to do given as much support encouragement and affection as I can conjure up along the way.
I believe that when dealing with people there is no way to plan it out so I just wing it daily like a box of bits and bites.
However most days it so interesting that I just feel stimulated and content.
I would have been upset as hell---that was extremely inconsiderate since you compromised yourself and sleep to give from your heart.
I think you have to say something to so and so if not for yourself but to let them know how inconsiderate that was to do to prevent them from doing it to others--we all have to grow in maturity along the line.
Sit in a dark room allow your body to relax taken small breaths as you go along tense your feet relax them do that to each part of your body slowly tensing and relaxing breathing listen to the silence picture a water falls in your mind focus bring the picture to life while tensing and relaxing each part breathing hear the falls listen to it's sound let the falls go now you are on top of a mountain hear the wind blown feel the mist of the cold mountain snow listen for the sound of a mountain climbing from one steep to another how the hoofs beat off the rocks tensing slowly relaxing slow breathing---now run your forgot to turn the stove off.....
Be careful of going out with males that don't attend church if you do attend. My mother loved going to church when we my brothers and I were children but my father did not even believe in God. He would make fun of her say things bad about the Lord tell her we the children didn't have to go to such crap--
We are told in the bible to surround our selves with fellow christens that we are to be separated from non believers. I have many non-christen friends but in my own home I would prefer another christen partner to share life with so there is no debate nor room for disapproval.
Btw the guy was worth a good christen woman like yourself---best of wishes to you!
I grew up in a alcoholic home where it was loud and brutal with much violence. Even today as a adult if someone is yelling at me or around me I freeze become quiet unable to react to it probably and have had guys punch me in the face. However as soon as I felt the pressure of the punch I have gone ballistic and the other guy got hurt.
I say pressure since when that state comes on I have felt no pain since it was the punched that brought me to alertness.
I once had a woman yelling at me I was about 20 years old she was screaming in my face at the top of her lungs and slapped me my friend grabbed me because he knew me and thought I was going to knock her out but I didn't. I got the urge to but maybe it was the grab I don't know but I went to see a counselor since I truly dislike violence. I was told that I had post traumatic stress disorder from my childhood. I did about 18 months of therapy but still to this day when someone is yelling I get quiet. It's bad when a woman is upset yelling and all I do is look at her and apparently my eyes and face go blank. AT times when it's over I have been asked if I am ready to talk and have said what about--it was totally gone.
I believe good friends to be people who see things objectively taken no sides given good solid positive heart felt advice when need be that never encourage evil behavior. I see a good friend as a trusting soul that believes in the others intelligence allowing them to handle their own affairs without given even a word except for a pat on the back. I see good friends as people who desire spending time in your yard or there's having a bbq enjoying each others company. I see good friends as people who talk about anything and everything without the slightest judgment of the other sharing their opinions in that moment even it is so different than the others without a single thought of disapproval. I could go on and on with what I see but what it boils down to is a friend is someone to feel safe being real with.
Nothing is forever all things die--so why not enjoy the moments at hand that things are going good including promises to be kept--wouldn't that be the optimistic thing to do for those that desire happiness over gloom!?
Friends are good to have for fun times but as relationship counselors they suck. They over react they will protect the person they are friends to they will degrade the partner of their friend they will convince and pressure their friend to cheat bye saying hey it will be alright the damn so and so deserves it and you need some fun. They will support and even encourage demoralizing behaviorism when playing counselors.
However to go out with for a good time they can be good company as long as one doesn't weigh them down with all their problems. if a person desires advice go see a pro who is being paid and has been educated that has no emotional attachment and truly help.
johnmarkus Forum Posts (1,384)
RE: CANADA here i come !!!
Much too far like about 2000 miles away.