Yaya248 Forum Posts (218)

RE: Funny who you run into online...

RE: Funny who you run into online...

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One...I do not 'take swings'....I may miss the point, but delivery has a large part to play. Like many who have responded, I did want to be constructive, but it it hard given you have made it clear you seem to not understand WHY it is oyu have been contacted by these 'white supremacy types', - considering you as much put out an invitation on line to say 'Hey look, - I'm just like you guys!' quote: (sadly, not looking possible).

However, I can see that you will require some humouring, since your request for comment has clearly not gone as you expected.

On the question of your black friends being surprised to learn that you would prefer that NONE like 'them' contact you via any of these sites, somehow I find it difficult to believe they would not feel just a little insulted.

AS for understanding why black men in certain cities in the US particularly, would feel a desire to send you less than constructive comments, only you can answer that! In order for you to suppose some sociological demographic you would have to gather similar evidence from hundreds of women in these areas with the same experience!

Think about what you are REALLY saying, please!!!




Could you possibly consider that it may be YOU who is missing the point?

RE: Funny who you run into online...

Well said Cherokee Moon. I don't know you, but even so I ca say I value you being here on this planet with me, and would very much appreciate it if you should ever make contact. I don't guarantee ever wanting to date you though....I actually prefer men!

I'm born Scottish of Irish farmers and French Gypsies...what does that make me? (available.)

RE: Funny who you run into online...

I've been reading through all these comments with some interest...(Tommmm's surreal invasions aside), and still feel that although I do see the truth in the fact that we all have personal preferences in the type of - what we imagine - is our ideal partner, surely none of us want to be seen as so shallow and small minded as to have to 'politely' request that those who do not fulfill our 'ideal' should NOT contact us! This, to me, is completely absurd.

Two points here,
1. you mention you have an 'odd situation' for ehich you are requesting comment. And yet, your 'situation' has evolved entirely due to your OWN PREFERENCE! So what, exactly. is it you need 'comment' (or were you hoping 'assurance' about ???? )
2. quote...you "seem to attract rancid comments from 'them'" - even 'before' - you post your preference that 'they' do not contact you. Just why do YOU suppose this is....exactly?

Now, although I do find you actually posting this thread (question?) as being as surreal as 'Mr Tommm' ...I do agree that we all as natural human beings have preferences in the type or style of potential partner we may be hoping to find here.

However, can you not relate to the basis of human compassion and empathy, by NOT stating to the world at large, and openly INSULTING perhaps hundreds of very lovely valuable black men and women - who may just be interested in you as a fellow human being - even friend, - that you'd rather Not know them.

I feel so very sad for you. It is your loss.

As it happens, I would say I'm not physically attracted to very thin men (black, white, yellow, brown, green, blue), - with a view to 'enjoying' a potential partner, but I would never NOT want to get to know any of those handsome thin men who may take the time to consider me as a friend. I'd just appreciate them. It may not come to anything, - but then who knows, I may be very pleasantly surprised.

So, are you joining your white supremacy clan then? Hope you don't need a reference........

RE: has anybody read any good books recently ?

I don't often read novels, but fairly recently read 'The Life of Pi'...about a young Indian lad surviving at sea in a life boat for 8 or 9 months...with a full grown Bengal Tiger for company! It really is fantastic read...so much so you just want it to be true. I really loved it.

RE: Hiya everyone.

eeeeeee....you are naughty! ( )

RE: Hiya everyone.

'beasties' even....

RE: Hiya everyone.

Isn't it just the worms, maggots and other 'beaties' under rocks?

RE: do i need to change my deoderant or somat?

Aaaww Coleen honey, maybe you just don't have a 'singing' voice

...only teasing....sing your lungs out....I'm hearing you!!

RE: how do you get on with your next door neibour?

I once lived upstairs from a group of 'Moonies'...no, not peeps who liked to share a vision of their backside to the neighbourhood (! ), but a 'religious' order, headed by a Rev Moon, Chinese I think, and he used to marry hundred of people all at once into his 'domain'!!

Aanyway, downstairs was a regular meeting place, and they were forever jumping out at us coming up the stairs and trying to draw us in!

My flat mates and I were only about 18 at the time, and we went in once thinking it would be a cool Hare Krisha 'doo', - but promtly made excuses once we realised we'd have to be married to join the party!

RE: Nuala

I prescribe lots of laughter (unless it hurts!), and an occassional mug of strong sweet tea.

Oh, and I understand a bit of nookie here and there does wonders...

Love and prayers Nuala

RE: am i the only one on cs that gets crazy mail

I've come across some strangely weird 'Males'.

Does this count?

RE: descibe how your feeling use as many words as you like

REALLY IRRITABLE Grrrr!!

(the hormones must be on the advance - or it's a new moon, - or something...else.)

RE: wish me luck

Have you made a list of everything you need Debs? I've no idea why you're having an op, but if possible I recommend EARPLUGS ! Between the WRVS Trolley Dollies, and the student nurses rabbiting on about their latest date, trust me, they're an absolute MUST! Aaand you can put them over your MP3 earphones!

Hope all goes well and you're back home soon.
Karen x

RE: The love of your life.

Where's you smile Travolta?....all we see is a fuzzy hat and vest!

Show yourself to the ladies, please!

RE: why should anybody become a buddist ?.. and what's with all this chanting ?

Ah well, there's only the one Buddha, though represented in different forms depending on the origins, such as China, Thailand etc. However, I think you refer to the Bodhisattvas, which are the Disciples or even 'Angels' if you like, which each have a different aspect of the Buddhas teachings to pass on. Each Bodhisattva will have an individual representation, - which highlights their role and teaching.

There are too many to mention here, but it might be worth noting that many Buddhists adopt a Bodhisattva as a personal role model, to help them practise the aspect of their own life which needs the most work, or because it's an aspect they wish to emulate the most.

A favourite of mine is Green Tara. Bodhisattvas are neither male or female, but are often related to as one or the other. Tara is something of an 'Earth Mother', - she is associated with a Ferry or Raft and the crossing of the river of Samsara, - the journey between life and death. Quite simply, her role is about helping others to help themselves on this journey.

Seriously, there is an abundance of material that is easily accessible, and it needn't be complicated with lots of academic referencing. Hope this helps.

with Metta, (loving kindness),
Karen.

Imagine it's your 90th birthday.

Not a BullDog ??

RE: three in bed or more

Please change the subject someone....now I have this 'image' of Glenbo 'wagging his tail behind him'.....

RE: smoking ban

Well said that woman!

I've never smoked, - never saw the point of stinking like an ashtray and being skint!

There were all the same arguments when the ban was brought in here over a year ago, but they faded fast. The hardenend smokers are usually the first to admit they are glad to be smoking less as they don't just light up without thinking (auto pilot made redundant), that when they do make the effort to go out to smoke they think about it first and question the real 'need', and besides which it's such a money saver!

Pubs actually have a new trade...they have to make more effort with food because smokers can taste their food better!

It means families can go in and enjoy a drink and a meal without having to work hard at avoiding the reek of cigarette smoke.

And for those of us with 'sensitive' lungs, we can Paartaay...much longer

Besides which, we don't smell half as bad...and that's got to be twice as good!!

THIS IS A SMOKE FREE ZONE....

Imagine it's your 90th birthday.

You're 90. 90 people have gathered together to recount to everyone how they knew you, how you impacted on their life, and on the kind of life you led.

What do you think (just now) they will say?





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RE: why should anybody become a buddist ?.. and what's with all this chanting ?

I might be able to help a little, having been a practisng Buddhist for several years now.

The philosophy of Buddhism originates through the learning and awareness of Siddhartha (The Buddha) while seeking pure enlightenment through meditation. (rather than via 'synthetic' means such as drugs or alcohol).

There are various schools of Buddhism, because the Buddhas teachings (courtesy of 'awareness') were adapted by many of those who learned from him, such as Sages and Gurus, and took the lessons far beyond northern India and Nepal, to throughout South East Asia. A similair scenario originated with Christ, as his followers travelled with his lessons through the middle east and europe.

There are fundamentalist schools of Buddhism just as ther are fundamentalist schools of Christianity or Islam for example. And like all fundamentalists they claim to 'KNOW', beyond question,any question, THE 'truth'.

There are others, (lowly ones like me!) who strive daily to recognise, accept, and adjust their own human and spiritual failings. The path to enabling this insight is through meditation, discussion, reflection, support, and most importantly, the daily CHOICE and PRACTISE at being the very true Essence of the human we really can be. The basis of this is in practising kindness, humility, and gratitude.

It's unlikely many of us ever reach the Nirvana we seek, but by trying to be a living example of what is most important in human existence i.e. awareness of ourselves and others, we can at least know we were oon the right path. The practise of Buddhist philosophy is known as The Path to Enlightenment.

We're not all tetotallers or vegetarian, - it might be disapproved of by some Buddhists if I admitted to enjoying wine, but 'I' know it's a choice I make in full awareness of the consequences (effects), and a decision not made without questioning it myself first. So long as I'm harming no-one, not even myself given the little I take, nor even my ability to practise being a sincere human being, then it's OK with me, and I pay no attention to anyone (of anyorder) who may choose to criticise.

As for chanting, this is all part of ritual, but is also well known as a natural opiate (drug like) which creates a mindful place - not unlike those repetative 'house' (or is it 'garage') tunes - or even hymn singing!, - almost a hynotic or trance like state which enables you to cut out external distractions and concentrate on whatever thought you choose. Very potent.

Buddhism is a choice of a happy, fullfilled style of living. Simplicity is the key, kindness the door, and ourself the maker.

Thich Nhat Hahn said " When we live in awareness, - it is easy to see miracles...everywhere".

What's the best thing that happened to you today?

Oooooo-er...should we know more?

No! no...never mind, - we can imagine...(lucky sod).

RE: WHAT'S THE FIRST 5 IMPORTANT THINGS YOU WOULD DO IF JUST YOU HEARD WORLD 3 WAS JUST ABOUT TO START ?

I was in the military during the 'Cold War' and we were always convinced that if the Ruskies ever actually saw inside any local pub in this country - they'd very quickly evacuate!

In truth, if death is on you doorstep, greet it with gratitude, just as you should have done, - EVERY day of your LIFE.

RE: for everybody who wants to argue!

...DITTO...

RE: for everybody who wants to argue!

Aaand Chriss,...what's this 'Chris's Club' Thingy? Is there an initiation ?

RE: for everybody who wants to argue!

I'm lost...the best I can make of this thread is that someone is being accused of arguing with another about hanky panky.


Am I close?

What's the best thing that happened to you today?

My son let me sleep till 8.30 brought me a box of cornflakes in bed !

Are you so scared of Loving that you're not really LIVING??

Hello Pete, if you looked back on personal history, - might you see a pattern of 'backing off'?

I understand this, but can it be identified as 'protective' or 'defensive' ? mmmm...

What's the best thing that happened to you today?

Sorry about that....got hiccups!!

What's the best thing that happened to you today?

Good luck with that one...I wished for a house load and it never happened! Suddenly I was 40 and was blessed with my boy, but still his father decided not to take part. You just never can tell what's ahead of you. bummer.