My best move is to simply be myself. Throw in a few emails, and some flirting in the process of getting to know each other initially...then see where it goes from there.
What really makes the difference? I'd say the individual.
Each person may or may not like a certain type, for example: rough, sweet, etc.
If you have communication with the person of your interest, you can then talk about what kind of man you are--then ask her what type of guy she prefers, and so on.
Discussing these types of issues with the person you fancy will most likely be helpful to you.
RE: i will be there
Thank you, to one of the most deep thinking men I know!