Cyn_Real Forum Posts (515)

RE: He's just not into you...

I was describing in good meaning in one sentence... I mean, the guy who is into me will also have a lil bit of that feeling... I wrote it in puzzle way....LOL

RE: He's just not into you...

if you are the one for him, he will meet you regularly instead of texting, he will fulfill his promises, not only talk nonsense...and he has a lil bit jealousy...

RE: interested

No... but the values are indeed important... you cannot expect oil and water to be dissolved... this is not rocket science...


I used to hate smokers...when I met him for the first time, I didn't even expect more than just friends... He is so cool, not easy to turn his head over all women... People who doesn't know him will call him cold guy with a little smile...but something that I thought was a flaw is definitely his positive thing... He doesn't like babbling or talking too much... I just can't believe that one day he will turn his head over me...until now...

but it takes months until we are really in relationship and I definitely accepted him... so, its better not to rush...you cannot judge somebody just after his/her first impression or just after his/her nose picture... Don't give your heart before you know that she really can make you happy and care about you...

RE: Ladies .Most attractive guys are

after he opens his mouth will definitely define his further attractiveness... and this is genderless rule... vise versa...



I cannot judge somebody just after his/her pictures or just after 2-3 days meeting... It takes time for me to get the truest chemistry to be truly in good relationship... therefore somebody who comes from certain circles who always demands instant attraction just after 15 minutes chat definitely is not my cup of coffee...

RE: Do white girls fall for Indian guys??

They are too far neighbor IMO... India is closer to Pakistan, Srilanka & Afghanistan and they are similar to each other in physical appearance and not like African...some even have brighter skin...

Indonesia is closer to Malaysia, Philipine, Thailand, Burma, Cambodia, Brunei...and they are also similar in physical appearance and far from African (exceptional for some tribes near Papua)

RE: How much more important is material possessions to keeping a relationship?

Not sure about that... btw I often heard lots of peoples (any color) out there always talk about future, future and future... and I have never heard anyone who wants to bring their $$$ to cemetery 'till todays...

RE: How does one detect if there's chemistry, before seeing live.

common sense 100% even more than a couple of dates...


not only a couple of dates (then jump to bed too early) to get to know someone...otherwise, the other part will shrink and do a runner...

RE: Is it wrong to not want to have children?

imo, taking benefits from states is not independent action....more about irresponsible action...





Do you mean bearing kids without husbands is independent ???

RE: The secret of succes on a site like CS is:

btw, dating sites just like candy stores, so some will be confused because getting lots of candies...LOL.. and all candies are not good enough... and still looking another candy....LOL I don't believe when some say they passed 20 years only getting scammers...

RE: The secret of succes on a site like CS is:

just don't overrate the expectations... it is good when I see some who can prove their words... No Action Talk Only will never get any...

RE: Fear

a cat chasing its tails...so true... one way love...

this quote also fits well for some people who spend his/her life only waiting for 'my dream man/woman' falls from the sky and pass every opportunity that might give a better thing...probably because the ideas of the right person is way too unrealistic and unavailable...

RE: Are you a linear or divergent thinker?

both, depends on the problems and the situation...different problem requires different solution... and sometimes the situation doesn't support the problem...

and I don't make conclusion based on rumours, gossips or the clique... because the clique can take advantage from me and told otherwise (lies) to support their agendas...

RE: why is it that nice guys always finish last?

I just don't get it...if all women want badboys, we will end up in severe depression... normally, most women avoid cads... but others might think different...


good guys oftenly turn out as control freaks ??? NO... they give us happiness, protection and no pressure at all...we don't even need to worry about them compared to badboys...

RE: background check on someone

interesting.....


in adults world, we are not just after coffee, right ???
.........unless we only want to have fun & nothing serious......


btw, where has instant attraction and love at the first sight gone ??? I still believe we need something more special to get the truest chemistry...jmo...

at some points, we will pass this background check stage over someone...no, it is not paranoid.... rather normal than being reckless...

RE: background check on someone

been there, done that...it didn't take weeks to know about that...

RE: if you have to choice for a lifetime partener, which one wiil you chooce to be next to you?

what rocks my boat is my choice... not only about the matter of the one we couldn't live without but also the one we can live with... we will go through selection first unless we live alone in small island with nobody around...but it doesn't work for the ones who can easily fall in love within 0,5 minutes...jmo...

RE: men by nature are polygamous

more likely true than not...and if we realize it, now it depends on us how to weed out...it is always good to weigh all aspects before we give our heart... apart from complicated problems that might happen, men who do polygamous where all wives know each other are more honest than polygamous type men who marry 1 wife but do cheating behind his wife's back...

with all smartphones in our hands, it is much more difficult than ever... but still we will find some that aren't bad...

RE: Doing the right thing!

right... yeah....macho syndrome is far from manly traits...

RE: marriage by contrat

just personal opinion, ....


some people who aren't succeed should not force others to follow them to be in the same losers level... that's your problem... if others are better than you, then they are born to be... natural selection, some succed, some failed...

don't get jealous...maybe marriage is just not for you...if you want to bring your money to your cemetery, its your choice...

RE: no one is completely on your side...

so true... self help is my best friend... even living in a small village, you can't even trust every single one...

RE: no one is completely on your side...

Only if she has no option and getting stuck in his abusive behavior.

RE: marriage by contrat

Some people view it as way of life, the way should be, not government control and they are not going to bring their money to their cemetery too... Some people who always view it as 'what society dictate to", it could be either nobody wants them or just after broken heart or they can't do that or its their choice... Natural selection will always happens, some succeed, some failed whether marriage exist or not...


I think we should shun our ancestors....

RE: Doing the right thing!

therefore they are still single forever... just another nobody wants me club member struggling with their loneliness... probably online is a good place to throw their anger...


I knew why they are still single... not because they are ugly or jobless of course...

RE: How does one detect if there's chemistry, before seeing live.

Loans for just wedding party ?????? new thing for me...


my buddies always do cash for that...

RE: Ladies what is your preference when it comes to a man's appearance?

My priority scale :


1. Availability first... I would not chase Tom Cruise that only exist in my mind...


2. Compatibility is a must....!!!!!!!!!!!


3. Romance (I have never put romance in the first place before the existence of availability and compatibility)


not that bad result by far... LOL

RE: How does one detect if there's chemistry, before seeing live.

true....that is not instant things nor miracle...it takes time to truly in love.........imo, it has lots everything to do with compatibility....... many good guys/gals out there, but not always fit for each other......

lots of ppl are getting older just waiting for "miracle" fall from the sky instead of building it.....

RE: When a man go out with a woman how they want woman to dress?

Exactly the same with my bf said to me. I like guys with a lil bit jealousy...Guys who really care about their partners would not say like this : "It up to you, hun...do and wear whatever you want"

RE: How does one detect if there's chemistry, before seeing live.

Speaking from short distance experience, when I met my bf at the 1st time, I didn't fall in love quickly... It takes months for me to feel "weak on my knees"... Not like Hollywood movie (2-3 days fall in love meeting on the street under heavy rain while there is no more taxi around)

never had truly LDR... just 1 year but mainly on Skype and 2 times meet in person... I often giggle to myself everytime I remember experience through screen.... I gave up several months ago...

RE: Why people like to pretend as some one else?

That is life... I would prefer to call it the spices of life... Art !!! This is our job to figure out and to solve these puzzles... Do not expect finished job from life... We will get headache if we always expect money and ready foods fall from the sky...

RE: "WHAT IS A MAJOR TURN OFF FOR YOU ON A DATE?"

some guys will be alone forever because they are too pushy and so impatient to get into women's knickers and have potential to make women scared, shrink and do a runner....