dragondog4 Forum Posts (3,912)

RE: How do people fall in love so often?

I never admitted to loving my wife until several years into the marriage.

Yes she was everything i wanted but i had this fantasy about love that wasn't there in our day to day relationship.

It was when i finally realised how distraught I would be if she left me then i admitted to myself I really loved her. And no that wasn't at the end that was in the middle.

We talked about it sure and i said the words, but never believed them until that realisation.

And yes I'm single now and yes i crashed and burned when she opted out.

RE: they reel you in...

Well your post is accurate there is a but.

First you will never get caught if you don't like the bait. If you Don't want to be caught then learn the art of camouflage.

Second the fishing is only done in certain areas 90% of the time. So if you refuse to be someone's catch either stay away from these areas or swim with protection.

We all fish. And we all have had a feed of fish. And we know some are more delectable than others.

So you can keep eating fish or change your diet.

Seriously It must be especially hard for you looking as nice as you do. But for all of us no matter how we rate ourselves, finding the right fish is important to us and we won't know the right fish unless we sample afew along the way. And life is boring with out a goal and a dream for us to continue to strive after.

Don't give up fishing Jodi. There is another Fisherman out there floundering around who will become a very great person because he nets you. You will fulfill that person and give that person a reason to celebrate life. And they will do likewise for you.

RE: QLD meet up!! Dates included lol

Ok beautiful how come your up so late, or up so early.

What is wrong. Daughter and family OK. Or are you on uppers and tripping.

Good to see you but you are outside your time slot and this is worrying.

I have enough to worry about Now i will stress about you as well. If only I were I could pop over and make sure your OK and make yiou a cuppa and tuck you up in bed. And Go tell your dad you've been misbehaving.

Hope it is all positive. By the way your hair looks really shiny this morning.

RE: Cheer me up.......I think I have been dumped.

How about insane, insecure, immature Kiwi.

It still beats Ugly Male Lesbian and Alien (As long as it is not vaguely humanoid) in my books.

RE: QLD meet up!! Dates included lol

Only if I win Lotto. It will be probably four years before Im international travelling.

EX, son, Lawyers bill, Still nothing settled. The thought of the bill is terrifying.

But I'm sure a deal to pay it off will be settled.

Then when that is cleared I will have some oats to sew.

I am the King of Aussie Forums.

Hey I'm a new DAD (WoW)

No its more fun taking the lid off and dragging the foilage out searching for the damn bugs.Then watching girls and guys running and screaming as the stick insects go scuttling up the wall.

Hey I'm a new DAD (WoW)

Yeah i love stick insects (Not)


You get your friends to come in and look at your stick insects. And you can't find them for looking for they look like freakin sticks.


Oh those stick insects owe me for some embarrassing moments.

Truthfully we had a couple at school at one time. And it was bloody hard to see them at times.

RE: Match's Tag and Graphics Dungeon... Place your order.

Hey Match just a little slow with lingo. If you down my photo I still keep original .

Then if I like your photo fix I copy and paste to word and then save. then upload to this site correct.

If I have that all correct.

Then please borrow copy of my photo and make me a cowboy. I love the western theme and style of dress. I'm judst a poor little country boy.

RE: Flashing back...

Wow comunication tools used at there best.

Winter. The best sport is played in Winter.

Does the science of metaphysical travel have a place in todays world when compared to a virtual reality.

RE: Anyone need a hug giving them away

No BBW it has reinforced plastic. I can collapse on top at no risk to doll.

Some risk to me.

Sometimes you get the trampoline effect. which puts the old fellow at risk sometimes when you land the second time.

I am the King of Aussie Forums.

Karen. Would help if I said I'd be the reverse.

As I heard on the TV last night.

Is there truth in love or do we just find love then seek some truth in it that satisfies us.

Your not the only one with a Quandary love. Last night I went to bridge. No one wants to be my Partner

Actually everybody came to learners with a friend or Partner. I was the only one man enough to do it on my own.

But that is all irrelavant.

Last night we got told we are going to finish up the year with a little competition. That our partners would be our partners for the three week comp. Well one of the Regs wasn't there last night so the other individual teamed up with me last night and they said before we got going that the other person could be back with missing reg the following week.

Well here is the Quandary. We were the best pair for the night. Now half of my brain is going "Its only a game who cares". The other half is going. OK who was the sub me or her. Who is going to have max points and who is going down to last place next week. See my partner next week let the others win to be nice and friendly. Will she is the instructor. Oh the dilemma. To I have hissy fit or do I just play and have fun.

Oh i will just play and have fun. hell it is only a game. And i know I am enjoying game.

Karen only you can advise you in your current situation. For none of us know this other person. But ask yourself these simple questions.
Are you comfortable with him
Does he make you feel safe
Are you happy to be seen with him at office Party.
Do you have interests that you can share or do share.

After that you really have to be honest with yourself. Do you wish to walk a knife edge or your life seeking excitement and hoping to avoid all the backlashes and pitfalls that come with balancing on a knife edge.

Or are you happy to encompass boring safe and comfortable. Sure you'll still have ups and downs, But they won't be as extreme or exciting. But you get dependability and reliability.

If it was a car I know which I'd pick. If it was a relationship I know what I'd pick. But I am me and not you. Humans are so much harder to please than cars.

All you can really do as you have said is give it some time and communicate.

Question though Karen. Is he coming back to Tuaranga for you or for a work. If for you I really think you need to be just slightly more sure of yourself in your thinking. I am not talking commitment. Just a little clearer in yourself on whether your going to give him a chance or dump him and run. If dumping and running please let him know before he moves.

Karen. May your feelings sort themselves quickly for you.

Lastly as Rochy said, (And my English Teacher) just MSN back and ask for clarification on that yes. Or to expound on that no. Just so there is no misunderstanding.

It will work eventually.

What do you mean "NO". Please clarify.

RE: So..........

Just joshing with you Lou.

Being overly dramatic as some would say.

Mind you others would say playing crap mind games. And that is bad.

RE: How is a guy to know...

iNTERESTED BUT SHY WILL TAKE WHAT EVER COFFEE YOU OFFER AND SAY THANK you. Not interested will ask for the most expensive on the menu.

RE: will you marry me??

I'm not fussy if she's in my lap i'll suck her.

RE: Deep question?

It depends what was crawling over it whilst you were sleeping.

RE: Once upona time...

Pretty peckers Parrot Shop. Where all your polly's are pretty.

How can I help....

RE: Once upona time...

(a deep Husky voice answered the Phone)

Hullo.

Oh my god she thought that voice is so, is so, is so...

She realised her body was trembling....

RE: Once upona time...

Busy but he had a mate john who was single and just around the corner from her. She could ring him and see if he could help....

RE: Deep question?

Well when travelling the astral plains while Meditating. I often look out on the world we know as space. And if it weren't for the lights on ships I would see nothing.

Then I wonder at this wonder and go off to see the Dragons to seek enlightenment.

RE: Once upona time...

they both had only one arm. It each had there left arm missing...

RE: Once upona time...

But the the Female searched for skype in the phonebook and could only install MJ Skype. So she rang..

Who would like a heated discussion.

What a heated Debate.

I'm astounded at the depth of feeling from everybody. and I'm so impressed by everyone seeing things my way.

Well I guess I better go to the love thread. Don't want to get anyone banished due to hurt feelings and heated views.

Oh and Kid I am impressed with the width but what about the length.

RE: Anyone need a hug giving them away

Thanks Jean.

Its been along weekend and I'm particularly drained and lonely this morning.

RE: Sometime's kid's timing is not always good and I don't mean being sprung lol

I would love to fly somewhere. FA Cup Final next year would be grand. But I have no Dosh to enjoy myself when i got there.

So no deal here.

You could try "Trade Me". Set your Min Price and see how it goes.

But annie my house is open if you want to use it as a motel. And my photo is real. Well it is no older than two years. I can mail you my full name if you want to do a police Check.

What I'm trying to say is. If you want you can pop this way for a break using my place as a bouncing point. You can stay here for your whole Holiday or come and go as you please.

Go visit Karen and return. I'll be working but I can spend the weekend with you driving you around. If nothing else it gives you a break. Hey for that point I could hire out my car. I use a Motorbike for daily use. (You can drive like a man can't you )

And I know No one would do this unless they were certain of the person at the other end. I wouldn't do it if the shoe were on the other foot. Unless I had some certainty's.

So it is a possibilitie for you to consider. But then whats HB compared to London. I'd be in London in two shakes of a lambs tail if I had some readies.

Love to you Annie and hope the work life is progessing. And the toys getting a rest.

RE: Kearby and I.............

Congrats Goth and good luck.

RE: I really need help from somebody who's been there

Yes I did the same and lost.

But it wasn't till i lost did i finally seek help.

It has been two years and still fixing me.

So good luck. and all the best.

RE: The bottom of the barrel

Fall off of course

RE: The bottom of the barrel

You Ride a bike

You drive a car

You fly a plane

What do you do with a skate board ???

RE: I really need help from somebody who's been there

I say open Communication regularly and Honesty always.

If she is talking openly over the internet with you then keep it like that.

Tell her exactly what you are doing and the steps you are taking. But don't ask to be back in the house. Wait for her to invite you. Prove you are changing (And this will take time:Months)

Make a contract with her and live up to it at all costs. No excuses no lateness.

For example Have coffee with her at 10 and be there by 1/4 to. Don't tell her how long you've been waiting. Just have coffee and talk.

Offer to pick kids up from school and deliver them to her. Don't buy them things. Just pick them up and talk to them and deliver them to the house within an acceptable time limit that allows you to get from school to the family home.

Simple little contracts like this. Either daily or weekly. But if she doesn't say OK to them then you can't do them. Because if you do you are saying you can't be trusted which defeats what you are trying to prove.

Keep up the medication, and if councilling, keep this up to the point where they may recommend bringing in the wife. Then ask her if she will accept. if she does, then you know you have a chance.

But you can't walk back into that house until you are ready to accept you first. Accept the kids 100% second and accept her for who she is third. If she's been there before she won't willing go there a second time.

You have to show and prove you are fixing the problem in yourself. And you can't slip once for the rest of your life. If your not willing to make this commitment to yourself then stop trying now with someone else.

It is sad and harsh but true.