Bored? I have no idea what that is like! I am never bored, guess my mind is like being on the "Autobahn" going a full 200 mph! Lol! I can always find something that interests me. However, I hope, when I'm 100, I will learn what it will be like to be bored, at least once, in my life.
Oh, one more thing, I also brought money into the home, sometimes working three jobs, (when the kids were in high school), the year he decided to stay home and drink!
Well, you haven't met this woman. What do I do all day, now that I'm retired? Or when I had kids, I did all the work, cut the grass, trim the trees, fixed the plumbing, restored old houses, cooked, cleaned, did the sewing, painted/wall papered, repaired things, entertained he and the kids friends, gardened, canned what I grew, took care of the animals, and more! When my hubby got home, all he had to do was take out the trash, if asked, (rarely) and pop a beer and cook on the grill! Who had time for soap operas and bon-bons? Wait! I still do those things, even with no husband and kids any more! I hope, when I am 90+ I will have a chance to do the things I would like to do.
I was referring to Hexagon's comment, (I thought I hit the "Quote" bullet, sorry). But, also agree with Smiley's post about offensive people. Just clarifying my previous reply.
I don't see this comment as directed towards women, but more explaining why there are some individuals who like to just be mean to others, by putting them down, spreading bad & false rumors, etc.
I agree with the subject of this post, I think it is deplorable that people criticize others and are just plain mean. Usually these types of people, (men, women & some children), have low self esteem and need to do these things just to feel better about themselves. Make them look good to others, when in fact all they are doing is bringing themselves down lower.
If someone does this to you, just ignore the person, who's doing this to you. Don't give them any attention, for that is another thing they want. Just consider the source and move on. Surround yourself with positive, friendly people. In the end you will be the winner... Always!
My friend, Gary, tells me I look 10 years younger without makeup on. Guess what? I'm not wearing any makeup any more! And, once more, I'm over 30, waaayyyy over 30!
Thank you for this very funny video. Growing up with a dad and two brothers, I never learned to ask these stupid questions. Lol! But, it is nice to be reminded not to! (One of the reasons I get along better with men, than women, anyway). Here's a hug and you never have to ask for one!
I believe the word, "Love" is used too much and means too little. I see people using it on others they barely know or do not know, (i.e. a singer to someone in the audience). People shouldn't use the word, "Love" unless they truly mean it. But, it is thrown around, so much, by both men, women, teens that it has lost the true meaning. I, for one, will never use the word, "Love" unless I really feel that love, in my heart and soul for either a man, (my mate), for a friend; or relative. It is so sad it is used to manipulate a person, (both men and women do it).
I agree with Sergio, men also use their cell phones. I see it all the time, when I am out driving. I had a cell phone, don't use it any more, mostly because I'm stuck having a landline, to have Internet at my home office. Sigh.
I see everyone using those darn things. I was stuck using one, when I had my business, so my clients could stay in contact with me. But, I stopped that, quickly. Too many of them demanded too much of my time, making the others suffer more.
What would happen to this world, if all the cell phones and all the ways we depend on electronics suddenly weren't available? I wouldn't miss any of it, but then again, I do enjoy it, now. I think it is just a hazard to use them, in the vehicle, it shouldn't be allowed at all.
It is not fair to judge all Americans on our politics. Other countries have their political problems too, worse then the Americans.
Unfortunately, what the world needs, is peace and less greed, which is in all countries, not just ours. It is the rich, who are the greediest, the ones who are starving the middle class and robbing the poor, all the more. What we need is people who have suffered, who know what suffering is, to be in charge for a change. I bet the world, including your country, England, would be a better place. I see no stars on any government, in any country, so far. So don't throw stones, when you live in a glass house, yourself.
It is hard to trust, yet I still do. So many people, I've trusted, only to be let down. Guess I am too trusting. Lol!
But, then again, when does one not trust? Especially with one's heart?
I guess we all have to keep trusting, for not to trust the right person, in our lives, would only end up hurting them and ourselves.
I have been told I am always trustworthy. For honesty and sincerity, is my nature, (even though it is difficult to be diplomatic, in doing so, at times, lol).
So, with this written, I guess I will have to disagree. I believe there is someone, you can trust one hundred percent, in your life, as long as you are the same to them.
I haven't had this happen, yet, but that's not to say it doesn't. Of course, with scammers, I do stop with them, suddenly.
As far as distance, love doesn't always come in your backyard. If you find the person, you are interested in, is too far, then don't bother to write them in the first place. It isn't right to bring someone's hopes up, after starting to like you, to just drop them. Distance won't be a challenge when two people actually fall in love. Not with fast transportation, these days.
I met someone on another site who was convinced we are going to collapse. He sent me many links and told me how he had prepared and wanted to come live with me and take care of me and mine. Of course, I didn't take him up on it, not wanting to use him, but just wanting to remain friends, until he started criticizing the way I write. So, I ended it, as quickly and nicely as I could.
However, it did make me think. Yet, I'm praying, as hard as I can, we will all be safe. For I think our government always has checks and balances to prevent that, don't you think?
I would like to know, if anyone thinks the same, if there are checks and balances in place? I also think the American people, ourselves would make sure that doesn't happen. Now, if we can get those lousy rich people out of congress and the senate, perhaps we would all be better off. For, I think they are trying to rid the world of the poor and the middle class, wanting all there is for themselves. Making sure the lower and middle class will just die off.
Yet, still, I remain hopeful. What are all your thoughts?
I think it is rude for those who do that. I always reply to everyone, including scammers. It's just the right thing to do. It is a shame when someone does this, but don't be offended, dear. Just take it as that person wasn't worth your time, anyway.
I wish there were more considerate people in the world, if everyone cared about the feelings of others, maybe we wouldn't have wars. But, it does happen, and I'm sorry it happens to nice people, like you.
Also, if you aren't getting any luck on this site, it wouldn't hurt for you to try another. Sometimes, the one you are looking for, is somewhere else, and fellows, remember, if she's not in your backyard, that doesn't mean she's not worth meeting. Please, everyone keep an open mind, when you are searching, you'll find you might have missed the very one you are looking for. The saying, "Love looks not with the eyes, but with the heart," from Wm. Shakespeare says it all. Don't just use your eyes, use your heart, as well, and look into others.
That's my take on it and I wish you all the very best in your searches for that special person, you seek...
I did not bullet any of the answers, because non of them fit with what I feel, when I say that to a fellow. First and foremost, I am completely honest, I get into trouble, sometimes, not thinking before I say something, but not always. When I say "You seem like a nice guy," it means that I'm not sure, but what you say and what you wrote, (in your profile, for example), makes me think you are a nice guy. When I say or write, "You are a nice guy," I truly mean it, you are a nice guy. I don't mean you "won't get laid" or that there is no chance with me, I'm just saying exactly what I see, read or hear. You are really a nice guy. Period. I don't see anything wrong with telling a fellow that. As a matter of fact, I do compliment people, with their personality, what they wear or how they wear their hair. I will go right up to someone, I might see in the store and tell them how nice they look. If a fellow talks to me, I can tell if he's a nice guy. I will tell him, that too. Just like if a lady talks to me, I will think and tell her how nice she is. The trouble with this world, is everyone is in such a hurry, and second guesses what another person is thinking and saying. So, if you are in doubt, don't assume, just ask, you might find you are really the nice guy and maybe she wants to get to know you more!
Havlo, I agree with every point you make, except one. True love can be found through a computer screen. I found it once and am using my laptop to try and find another. You see, my love, I found in 2000, I would have never met, or even bothered with, if I met him in person. I am somewhat shy and don't easily talk to men, behind me in the grocery store, one of the few stores I go to. I met my fiance', Scott, while working 24/7 in my graphic design business. I had no time to go out and meet people and didn't want to go to a bar and do so. So, I went on a paid match site, and he found my profile. He loved what I wrote, and he messaged me. Well, long story short, he was only 7 miles from me, living in a secluded place and when we eventually met and dated a few times, we fell in love, deeply and happily. I wrote a little about this, in my profile. If it wasn't for my going online, to that match site, I wouldn't met him. We were so happy, until he passed away from lung cancer. Then I met another, the same way, was engaged to him for 6 years, only to find he left me for a younger, rich woman. I heard from neighbors and his old customers, how he told everyone I was his mom and so much horrible things, it broke my heart. He bragged how he was using me, my house, my truck and my income to build his successful business, using it to meet other women, and then left. So, the moral of this story, is just like on these sites, you have the good and the scammers, online and off. But, will I stop my searching, no, for this, I feel is a safer way to get to know someone than just going out with someone, you just met, in your town. You never know if he/she can be a slasher, until you go out with him/her and end up the victim. This way, with a computer, you get to message a lot, get to know the person, instant message and eventually talk on the phone. Then you can meet somewhere in public and you can be sure you pretty much know about the person then. Otherwise, all your points are dead on. I would like to add one more thing, love is patient. If someone meets another on these sites, and the person is in the rush to tell you he/she loves you, quite soon after starting to message you, I would suspect that person as a scammer. There's no rushing love. Friendship should come first, then falling in love. Just another suggestion. I wish you all the very best in your search for the one you love....
That's right. The scammers will avoid answering your questions, even though they ask questions of you. If they won't answer your questions, then beware. Start suspecting. Especially if your questions aren't so personal as to what income they make, their account numbers, online passwords, their ssn number, etc. I would never ask these things from someone I met online, no matter how long our relationship is, no matter how much they tell you they love you. Especially since I haven't met the person, in person.
I, too, know there are honest fellows out here, on the Internet, it's too bad we all have to go through the heartache of meeting a few scammers along the way. But, I won't give up, don't you either. I, truly wish you all the best in your search for your person you seek.
I agree with you, "bungamekar", 100% all joking on this site, aside. I just had a horrible experience, please read my post, on this site, to see why I agree with you.
I do with you much success in finding that special person for you. You look like a beautiful lady and sound very wise, so I believe you will find the one you seek, truly I do.
No, there are some things, at some times, one shouldn't hand out, that's personal. Here is an example of what I mean:
I met someone online, several months ago. He was from another state and claimed he fell in love with me. Sent me poems, songs and love messages, calling me when he claimed he could, but at odd hours of the early morning, (3 a.m.). Finally, I said I opened a small savings account, with only $25. Right away, he wanted all the information regarding the account; my online password, and so much more, personal info. I became suspicious, because he didn't tell me why, just that he was having problems with his bank in the U.K. Before that, I had asked him some personal questions, like his address, since I had given him mine, but he avoided them. Only answered what he wanted.
So, for the heck of it, I found his name, (I think it was his name), on a scammer's site. Same name, from same state. Naturally, I didn't reply with my information, but questioned if that was him, being mentioned on the site. Not that I really thought it was him, but "if" it was him. He became really angry. Calling me, leaving angry messages, emailing and instant messaging me, all calling me a "stupid woman" and how I didn't trust him and I didn't love him.
I tried to explain to him, as I had in the past, about a man who had just taken advantage of me, after living with me for 6 years, claiming he, too loved me, but only used my finances, to start his business, my house and my car. I also told him I didn't want anger in my life, because of this previous person. Yet, he became angry because I didn't give him information on my $25 savings account. He kept emailing me, insisting I give him the info. So, I closed the account, not wanting that to be an issue of our breaking up. Now, I haven't heard from him.
The moral of this story, is this, ladies. It doesn't matter how long you know that someone. Six years, living with him or a few months online, I truly don't believe a man who claims to love you, wouldn't get upset if you refuse to give him very, very personal information about you, or one of your accounts. Especially if people you love, your own family members, who really do love you, don't ask you for that information.
I guess I learned the hard way, falling in love with this man. Thinking he would be much different. But, that won't stop me from looking for my true love. I will go on. I will survive and so will you.
Fellows, the same holds true for you. If a woman, who claims she has deep feelings for you, doesn't understand your hesitation about giving her your information, but would rather be angry and call you "stupid", well, you know what to do.
No one should give out that information, no matter how many love letters, poems and songs, photos, etc. they get from their online love, unless the love gives a explanation why they need it and will be willing to prove they are not a scammer, instead of calling names. These scammers are very patient and are becoming more and more clever in their tactics. So PLEASE, BEWARE!
But, don't give up, don't think every woman or man online is like this. Just mend your heart and know there is someone out there for you. I wish you all the best in finding the man/woman you seek, truly!
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And, once more, I'm over 30, waaayyyy over 30! 
Here's a hug and you never have to ask for one!
RE: How Bored Are You?
Bored? I have no idea what that is like! I am never bored, guess my mind is like being on the "Autobahn" going a full 200 mph! Lol! I can always find something that interests me. However, I hope, when I'm 100, I will learn what it will be like to be bored, at least once, in my life.