Both my exes attended my fathers funeral Halvo ... back in 2000, it was the first time they had ever met ...
My ex wife and I had been divorced for over twenty years when I had my 50th Halvo ... she came along with my two daughters to the do ... she had asked me if it were ok, as most of my family were there along with friends ...
Yes we had a rough break up, though we have been friends for many years since then, we had kids together, so we had to communicate ... lol
My point of my ex-wife being there is I have nothing to hide, and anyone in my life back then was free to go and talk to her, including my lady at the time, if they wanted to do a reference check on me ... .....
I should point out that I married and divorced my ex wife twice .. both times well before my 50rh ......
My exwife virtually insisted she attend my 50th birthday get together ..
we split up when I was 30, so much time had passed .. I told her my girlfriend at the time would be there as well as my at that time group of friends ...
I suggested if anyone wanted the dirt on me to speak to her as we had one mother of a break up and a few years past this ...
I have had my ex wife 14 years, ex partner 13 years and my current lady the the time together at a family function in which I admit I felt a huge tension, though they all ended up sitting together and hopefully not talking about me ... It was a family members funeral that both my exes were very fond of ...
My point here is I had nothing to hide from my current chick or anything too dastardly with either of my exes ...
You may be right re the good ones ... I'm sure like any rule there are always exceptions ... though I think the good ones are a lot rarer than any of us may think ..
As for stubbing toes, as I wrote, when I walk these days my feet are protected in shoes, so dark room or not my toes are safe ...
Even new relationships formed by old hearts are vulnerable, even if you yourself are ready to rock, chances are the person you meet may not be ..
The beauty of life is we evolve and we learn and we understand patterns and cycles ... you'd have to have lived with your head in the sand if you have not taken lessons from past relationships ..
Many people, myself as well will not hang around or stay, if we see those old familiar character traits we have learned to avoid, in a new relationship ..
If we question what we are doing with another, then I suggest we don't belong there ... and this is not about unresolved issues, negative feelings or bitterness, its more about the Oh no not you again in another being ...
Someone asked me once where are all the good prospects, the good men and the good woman ... I soon realised all the good catches were either married or in relationships ... snapped up and held on to ...
This made me wonder what had I become and what were my chances of ever becoming one of the good ones ... I have had a good look at myself, both inside and out ... Outside was easy to change ... Inside is a whole other story, and as I said earlier, trust is a huge one for me, I do not trust anyone and I seriously doubt, I could again ...
You only have to stub your toe once to know it hurts, I did it over and over again ... so I guess its now a matter of always wearing shoes ... No more stubbed toes .. << figuratively speaking of course ...
I don't hold onto the past, though I am more than aware of what the past has taught me ... Truth is there is no santa, tooth fairy nor even an Easter bunny ... things are what they and for all the reasons, is why I think and believe what I do now ...
and hey I can do more than lay in bed with a chick I don't trust, though I think this content is better posted in another thread ...
Have you ever heard of the eXpression 'Twin Souls' Halvo ..
It is where a Soul started as one, but split into two, one being female and the other male .. that are now two totally separate Souls that each have their own paths, journey's and lessons to learn ...
Once these lessons are learnt by both, they can coexist as a couple here on earth, and if you so believe, have no need to have to come back to earth after death, as these Souls have completed each their journeys.
I was 21 when I met this chick and she was just 17, and from that very first moment a life long friendship was born ... It is said if you can raise your hand and count just one true friend as you lie in your death bed, then you have had a blessed life ... Well I guess I am blessed when it comes to her ...
We have drifted in and out of each others lives for all these years, one of us always just turning up when the other needed a friend ...
I don't distrust her, and hey yeah I surely do love her, always have to be truthful, so I have no doubts here, and I know she would die to protect me, so again no doubting here ...
My cross is I don't trust people, I say I do and I try too, but people have always let me down in one way or another .. Hence me guarding myself and being prepared for the day that she may go ... because life has shown me, no matter what you do or how hard you try, for some people these efforts are not enough ...
I am at the point in my life that with or without someone, I always have me ... I can always rely on me, I guess this is what makes me wonder why I have been alone for so long, because I am someone who can be relied on ...
anyway enough of this from me, have a HaPPy .. HaPPy safe Easter ...
Wash if you truly don't want to go back to work, opt to do a tafe course, do some accounting courses, there is bloody good money in book keeping or just lodging basic tax returns through an agent ...
I have several qualifications and these have never stopped me getting lesser work ... sometimes the money is better at the bottom with over time that what it is at the top as staff ...
Just change fields I have done it a few times, currently I am studying to do it again, by changing it breathes new fire into an old furnace and can be rewarding when its done and said ...
Old abbott is only going to make things tougher so grab onto something now at school somewhere, run the course and then see where it takes you .. You may even enjoy whatever your new found profession may be ..
as they say in the movies mate ... up UP and AWAY .......
I scratch my head and wonder how a tribute thread to a great singer turns itself into a domestic violence issue ... ??
Boggles my mind ... seriously ....
Because you can is why you don't ... be it male or female, adult or child ...
I see such horrid acts reported on the news channels or in the papers of usually a jealous man whom has killed his children and usually attempts to kill his estranged wife ...
and all for what ?? ... because she left him ....
Some people really do need a whack in the chops or a slap across the head ... though hey ... just walk away and keep your hands to yourself, this way its only a bit of pride that is hurt ...
I grew up in a house ruled by domestic violence and I know how very scared I was for many many years as a small child ...
Its never ok for a man to smack into a female for any reason ...
if things are that terrible you need raise your hands then for every ones sake ... Get The F ucK out !! ...
any ways back to Leslie ... may she rest in peace ..
there are many super funds that will not allow access to your super until you reach a certain age Look'N ... so be careful where your contributions go ....
The reality is if want money from centre link then there is certain criteria you must meet if you are not at retirement age or are medically unwell ..
If you don't want to work then go to school or work voluntary somewhere to meet their requirements ...
This is why I am doing a uni degree to allow me to work within this area .. there is no grey area with centre link its either black or white with no exceptions ...
If you are sick wash then get a doctors certificate exempting you from all work, if this cannot be done, then you will have to join an employment provider and apply for X amount of jobs per reporting fortnight or you will be in breach of your obligations ..
Ask your doctor for a full exemption ...
OR just do as I am doing and fire up a small business of your own, its less complicated ... trust me !! ...
If they are mentally unwell, why then do you suggest punishing them ?? ...
some people just get off on lighting fires, look at the volunteer fire fighter some years back, he was lighting fires so as he could be a hero and put them out ...
We all know the risks of fire season and the madness of some people, I am at a loss at to why so much undergrowth is allowed to build up in high risk areas ...
Well I suppose I do know its the greenies and the nature lovers that object to frequent burn offs versus protecting some lizards and spiders .. to the human loss if a fire does take hold ...
Solid fire plans are the answer and if this cannot be assured then alternate evacuation plans are a must in the high risk areas ...
I hope no more lives are lost in the wake of these fires, though sadly this will not be the case ...
My year was goodly ... I found an old friend early in the year which is heart warming, though lost my mum, a week before Christmas ... so a FuNNy year for me and one I am sure to reflect on time to come ...
I start my degree in just over a week, so I am anxious and eXcited all rolled in together ...
I stayed in and behaved ... besides I was tired, so slept right through all of it ... I woke up to torrential rain about 3am and the then to stinking humidity for the rest of the day ...
One of the worst summers days I've experienced since moving here ...
Still all good ... have a great year fella and I'll check back on ya another time later into the year .....
Reading some of the posts reminds me why conflict exists ... there will always be war, soldiers and those that despise it ...
I loved the song Smiley as well as Midnight Oil, especially so many of the groups that protested the Vietnam war, some amazing songs came out of this era ...
What we never should forget are the men and woman doing their duty for their respective countries in the military ...
I detest war with all that killing, maiming and destruction ...
I hate so many innocent people are killed for seemingly senseless reasons, though I do admire and respect and person that has defended our country and way of life ...
Sadly whilst there is mankind existing on this earth there will always be unnecessary bloodshed simply because we cannot and will not live amongst each other in peace ...
Yeah I remember the auction thingy LooK'N though I don't recall her user name mate .... Gee this was a while ago ....
and re serene, if ya wanna see her without her SanTa suit, what was ya thinking, dressed up as a BuNNy or something ....... ..... it has to be 10 o'clock somewhere ........
I have never had any trouble meeting chicks, getting a date or saying what is on my mind ...
I am no ball room dancer, though I can move on a dance floor, I am a good conversationalist, fantastic company, smooth, suave, confident, strong, honest, have a fast wit and a clever sense of humour and most of all I am very, very 'modest'!! ...
If I like a woman I am not afraid to tell her so and if I am keen enough I'll chase her from a romantic point of view ...
so yeah serene, I know how to attract a woman ... at some times though I did think for a while I am just a nut job magnet, though female friends I have made from the singles groups I was in helped restore my faith in single woman ...
I know have one special lady in my life that I have known for many years so I save the best of me for her .....
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RE: What is Love
Both my exes attended my fathers funeral Halvo ... back in 2000, it was the first time they had ever met ...My ex wife and I had been divorced for over twenty years when I had my 50th Halvo ... she came along with my two daughters to the do ... she had asked me if it were ok, as most of my family were there along with friends ...
Yes we had a rough break up, though we have been friends for many years since then, we had kids together, so we had to communicate ... lol
My point of my ex-wife being there is I have nothing to hide, and anyone in my life back then was free to go and talk to her, including my lady at the time, if they wanted to do a reference check on me ...
I should point out that I married and divorced my ex wife twice .. both times well before my 50rh ......