Some people may just need a break from loving someone. It can be hard work maintaining an awareness of another person's emotions, wants and needs, being in a constant state of consideration, keeping the relationship fresh, dealing with the groundhog-day-like routines..... Perhaps some people want to get away from all that's involved in a relationship. Maybe not forever, just for a while.
I was reading recently a story told by a 140 IQ mensa dude who went shopping for a new suit which had to be bought within a very strict budget. An hour later the 140 IQ mensa dude realized a young shop assistant had got him to spend three times the amount of money he had been determined to stay under.
Not only am I OK with it, I much prefer it. It's a misconception held by many that EVERYONE wants or needs a mate. Or, if a person isn't interested in finding a partner, their relationship history must have wounded or scared them into singledom in some way. Nope, some of us are actually happier (for many different reasons) to be single. Really.
I'm interested in the idea that our intellect as a species is evolving beyond our physiological or biological urges.
Not for love exactly, but I was flying from Kathmandu to Perth with an eight hour stop over in KL. I had been chatting with and had become infatuated with a CS member who lived in Singapore and on a spur of the moment decision flew to surprise her on her lunch break once I arrived in KL. Suffice to say, she never made it back to work.
If those previously banned that are here now under new identities were to be banned again, CS blogs and forums would run the risk of becoming a veritable desert full of fundamentalist, conspiracy theorist tumbleweed nutjobs rolling around uncontrollably bumping into and sticking to each other until the place was forced into a slow and painful "the shy is falling, the sky is falling" asphyxiation (there are many previously banned members back here and without them it would be very quiet indeed)
Added to that, those who maintain numerous profiles with the intention of creating a little mischief are much needed so as to ad a bit of color to the overall CS fabric. I don't see any real nasty types about, and if there were, they'd be sorted out pretty quickly, I'd say.
I've heard of alcohol being referred to as a social lubricant. A psychologist friend once explained social lubrication as the predictable questions one generally encounters when in new company such as "What do you do for a living?" "Where did you grow up?" etc.
Your capacity to blow and the use of your mouth would surely expand the largest of expandable or inflatable objects. I now believe YOU would be the greatest asset to have on a deserted island.
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RE: Married women.
Some people may just need a break from loving someone. It can be hard work maintaining an awareness of another person's emotions, wants and needs, being in a constant state of consideration, keeping the relationship fresh, dealing with the groundhog-day-like routines..... Perhaps some people want to get away from all that's involved in a relationship. Maybe not forever, just for a while.