Someone nice and polite I can have an interesting conversation with.
While I still exchanged messages with men on CS, the only thing that mattered about their photo was that they were not half-naked on them or that they didn't have some fake photo of an actor or a model. I gave a chance to any decent-looking man.
I was living with my grandparents until they both died and I know how stubborn old people can be. Sometimes they just don't want your help, even if they need it and you quarrel about that all day long and sometimes you just give up and say: "OK, do it alone if it's so important to you!". This is the first thing that came to my mind when I read your story.
However, we don't know the real story behind the event - we can only imagine.
Make two separate forums to choose from, the way you can choose Articles, Blogs, etc:
1) Serious Discussions - political, religious, cultural, social and similar topics.
2) Entertainment - funny threads, chatting, film, music, love, relationships, etc.
That way people wouldn't even have to click on Serious Discussions EVER and they could just open Entertainment and have fun. After all, who reads Articles, Recipes, etc? They can be replaced with this forum division. I think that this would be good for CS, because it would definitely attract more people of both types and everyone would have their place.
This endless political, religious and similar discussions on the first forum page only repel most CS users.
When I met some people from one forum I used to be a member of - they always addressed me using my nickname from that forum. They also talked about others in the same manner. Almost nobody called me by my name. Even on Facebook, where I had a profile with my name and surname - they still called me using my forum nickname. If I had had a relationship with someone from that forum, he would have probably continued calling me that way.
Like - speaking your thoughts out loud. You are not alone, you don't speak to yourself, there are people around (virtual, thousands miles away from you) and it feels like talking to someone, while you actually resolve some things for yourself or sort out your own thoughts. Something like that.
RE: Pillow talk.
I sleep on two pillows. One doesn't seem to be enough.Have your pillow changed so far, Harbal? It's been several months since you started using it.