So many times have i read posts, ads and online dating searches... and it seems people have the wrong idea of what they are really looking for. Now i am sure in their heart; they know... yet when it comes to visual appeal it becomes a different entity. So often have many women stated they are looking for a good guy who has a sense of humor, can cook, carry on a conversation, knows what he wants out of life... correct... i am sure you have or posted such ads along the way. Not saying it is wrong to be superficial... yet there should be something said up front about looks as well. I know people see first and that is what entices the senses... even while trying to decide on what to eat... if it looks good... it is good? how many times have you seen a dish of food that just looks absolutely amazing... but when you taste it... just plain awful. same can be said for most people. Not all the "beautiful people" are beautiful on the inside. So is it easier to accept a good looking guy who is a total ahole and could potentially just be wrong for you over a more unconventional man who looks like Shrek and Sasquatch had a love child(lol)... yet has the qualities you are looking for? Let me give this poll a try and see where it goes. Thanks, Re@32
I would need more options. I don't think ALL women think that way. Besides most men think or say or believe, they are a "Good Guy". They certainly say it more than women say "I am a good woman"
When I'm out grocery shopping, I choose a product based on what's actually inside the package and not on how it's packaged or the mouth watering pic decorating it....same goes for people I choose to relate with in life. It's what's inside that counts because beauty fades but a kind soul lives forever.
2intrigued: When I'm out grocery shopping, I choose a product based on what's actually inside the package and not on how it's packaged or the mouth watering pic decorating it....same goes for people I choose to relate with in life. It's what's inside that counts because beauty fades but a kind soul lives forever.
2Int , you are a much nicer person than me
I do have to fancy them physically too.
It doesn't have to be a 10 every time, but I can't date anybody I find physically unattractive.
mollybaby: 2Int , you are a much nicer person than me
I do have to fancy them physically too.
It doesn't have to be a 10 every time, but I can't date anybody I find physically unattractive.
Luckily, I haven't met one of those in years
In my youth, I always went for the handsome dudes and it was rare to find one that was also handsome on the inside so if you can find both in one package, consider it a bonus Molly.
2intrigued: In my youth, I always went for the handsome dudes and it was rare to find one that was also handsome on the inside so if you can find both in one package, consider it a bonus Molly.
I do
But to me, they do not have to be handsome in the conventional sense, just attractive to me.
But to me, they do not have to be handsome in the conventional sense, just attractive to me.
Of course a man should be attractive to you and there are so many variables as to what is considered attractive to each of us. One might see another and think wow, this man or woman is so attractive and someone won't see them that way....same goes for unattractive peeps.
2intrigued: Of course a man should be attractive to you and there are so many variables as to what is considered attractive to each of us. One might see another and think wow, this man or woman is so attractive and someone won't see them that way....same goes for unattractive peeps.
I agree.
Just as well, or only a few people would ever get laid
It's one thing to say you go for the "nice ones" if you meet them at work or through friends where you have more of a chance to get to know them before you date them. But when it comes to online dating, how are you going to know if their nice or not unless you actually date them. So are you going to be more likely to take a chance on someone online who is less attractive or someone more attractive?
I love hearing and seeing what other people are attracted to. I find it very interesting and intriguing. I know I have changed over the years in my tastes. Some things haven't changed but others have.
Looking at it from another viewpoint, I wouldn't want a man to find my mind or personality attractive, but for him not to be physically attracted to me as well.
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