I agree that is why I always said I would be open to a LDR but the final determining factor would be in the meeting and how well we got along in person, this for me would encopass much more than ONE meeting.
The eyes are the windows to the soul and also the body language is important.
There are many Gangs in various parts of the Country, JD. One way of controling an area is to have a curfew or rules prohibiting porch socialization in big cities.
They have Phones in their Barns to keep then away from the house.
They have a form of electricity to operate freezers and other appliances that have been deemed practical. This is run via adapting the appliances to conform with the Religious Laws.
They have community members that drive them in vans for work.
What can be nicer than an e-card written by soul,a red rose,a walk in the rain hand in hand a stolen kiss,nice messages by love on the phone,a sweet poem by love-romantic times I miss them,sad people forgot to be romantic.[/quote]
As I said it is the Two people that make the romance, not the gadgets...
I remember, My Grand Father and Mother saying they did not want a phone call, but a letter because they could re-read it.
We are Blessed b/c we have that again with email which can be saved or printed and then saved.
Look also on the practicality. Say there are decisions that have to be made. In the past, if a letter did not arrive in time or at all, a decision had to be made and when the other partne found out, he or she may not have been too happy but well it was done.
Today Couples a reable to make the decisions jointly through the Technology we have now.
I Love being here and now. If I found that reincarnation were real, I would chose now or the future with more wonders.
I feel the Technology has sped things up, yes, that is true.
There is no reason that it cannot be romantic between two people, though, as it seems to me the Romance of the past was in the way each treated the other and the words spoken in private to the other. In this sense, it is the same.
The distance can be harder. Yet, has it really changed all that much? Remember the Mail order brides in the last two centutries? Men and Women exchanged letters and decided to meet much as we are now.
The difference is today, we can also talk on the phone, and more, we also can see via web cam the person speakinf or typing to us, So we have a better sense of whom we are speaking to.
Most are able to read and there is still a question of genuineness,(ie our scammers of today, still not much different), but all in all, it is the same, just through different medium.
Ali, your last point of, knowing when a loved one is in the hospital or other trouble is a very important point.
How many of us have had Grand Parents or Great Grand Parents whom lost a loved one but never knew why or how?
How many were killed in accidents but no next of kin was known b/c they were working in a different state, while their loved ones were back home?
There are many that never knew and always wondered, often their whole lives, where and why.
Today, that is all but gone. Now if one is injured , the loved ones are contacted and notified weither in the same Country or a whole world away.
They do this already in infiltrating for Drugs, with youg looking officers. Too bad they canna do it on a regular basis to listen to and talk to kids AND to hear the kids talk amongst themselves.
Um, I read something that said many of the Victims were severely unhappy and or depressed. This article sugessted there could be a correlation between the Severe Depression an SHC.
Here in my State, we raise both corn for Crops,(seed), as well as, for animal feed. Then you have your Sweet corns for Human consumption, as well as, Tomatos and other veggies.
Tomatoes are my favorite pig out food over chips, dips and sweets. I just LOVE a good tomato!!!
JMHO, as well. Guns are not the answers. I think that a psychological workup/intervention is a neccessity for loners, or kids whom suddenly withdraw or completely change.
Not all Loners are going to be homicidal. I was and kind of still am a loner, and I never ever would have thought of anything like that then nor today.
Back when we were kids, it was the Class upstarts that people felt they needed to worry about, not the quiet kids.
Today, there is a fine line between the too quiet ones and the just quiet shy ones.
The ones that get picked on all the time by their peers, quiet or disruptive, need to be helped, as do the ones that bully these kids.
However, I have to say, the parents should be more involved, IMHO. Surely they could have seen something if they were very attentive, could they not?
I would, if I had children be in their business, checking what they were doing online etc. No, I would not be sneeky about it.
They would know upfront b/c we would have these discussions long before they reached the Tween or Teen years. My Parents did with us. I appreciate their nosey, dilligence now. It kept me out of trouble.
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RE: Where have those Good Old Days Gone.......
I agree that is why I always said I would be open to a LDR but the final determining factor would be in the meeting and how well we got along in person, this for me would encopass much more than ONE meeting.The eyes are the windows to the soul and also the body language is important.