I am quite the same. I mean I wouldn't really care about some randomer but I would be very eager to make a good impression upon meeting those that are important to someone I find important. I used to be incredibly self conscious, I would dumb myself down in situations at times so no-one would ask for my views in a debate/discussion but I am well on my way to getting over that. Life's just too precious and short to give a damn, if you don't have to.
That's ace, I would be well up for fun like that! Sometimes we forget that we're all just human and reaching out in such a way can receive a great response. =)
I mainly log in when everyone else is asleepin' in their leabas. Sucks but I do have great affection for this site, quite addictive and have made a couple of super good friends/drinking buddies. Would feel very isolated in Dublin if it wasn't for James Pond and Blipper. =)
I love lots of music. From Johnny Cash, Dolly Parton, Pearl Jam to Queens of the Stone Age. This song, if you're into heartfelt music WILL change your thinking and interpretation of love. Kinda gay but I speaketh the truth. Trust me.
But a loser that looks good without a shirt. In fairness, I can understand the defensiveness. This place is a bit intimidating if you don't run with the pack. Just saying and it's been 5 years since I first discovered this place. I will agree on some level however, to say to someone "you don't know the life I've lived" is incredibly ignorant, as if you can presume that the other party has had a less difficult life. I'm guessing the vodka and red bull upon finishing work is impairing my ability to make sense. Anyway, I understand what I'm saying.
I would be a bit freer with the way I post here to get my point across, this is a discussion forum. I would be much less formal in language in person but I reckon I'd be quite similar. In fact, all the folks that I have met in person from here (male and female, not that I swing both ways!) have been very like they are on here but in a real life social setting, the atmosphere is bound to be different. It's natural to be shy initially in person, but I think if you spend some time with the folks it does wear off, especially if there's a few adult beverages involved. In some cases, others will find it a breeze to communicate online and be barely able to hold a conversation in person. I must say though, aside from two people in all my online adventures, most have been like they are online.
That's ridiculous. Sure I'm seeing a lad for nearly a year now and I'm always on, chatting here, he is well aware of this. Only for meeting up with a few of the gang on a couple of occasions since I moved to Dublin, I would have felt incredibly isolated and friendless. The banter makes my boring days so much less so. Sounds a bit jealous, if I'm honest.
I would love a husky, but again Mr. Know it All reckons they're very ill behaved. Oh and how are things going with the rotties? (Yes I'm hijacking briefly, everyone else does it)
King Charles were bred purely as bed warmers. That's the reason I'm not allowed to get one when we move house, as apparently there is nothing else consequential about them. I don't know what he expects me to want, a dog bred to frickin kill? As for the O.P, can you be a virtual couple with someone yourself? It it's just virtual then surely no harm can be done!
I am writing a book, the adventures of Hess and JP, wading through a sea of penises. The Book Thief by Markus Zusak is an awesome one. Very odd and charming.
Ah I'm grand! Any craic with ya? Wish there was some mischief we could make on here but as always, fresh outta ideas. I miss going on actual dates myself!
I think I may have told you the ins and outs on one of our drunken nights. He's an awesome guy but from all that has happened, the girl has had trouble letting go and is only aware of the fact that I exist recently, despite the much longer duration of our relationship. I think he was being a nice guy, minding her feelings, she is no threat to me, she's in another country but I'm wondering if the visit idea transpired when she knew he was moving on. I have no worries about his intentions at all, I will grin and bear it if I have to I just really don't understand why it has come about.
Ah he's sound and I am mad about him. But the daily level of contact at the start was concerning and maybe in fairness to her, she wants to see if he has moved on, maybe a form of closure for her I just really don't want any part in it. I am completely at ease with his side of things. On hers and I am a woman, I see it as her recent gathering of knowledge that he is now in a serious relationship and then the decision to visit to be a little odd. I'm not a two faced person, I would be totally civil and polite but I know I wouldn't know what to say, it would be tense and awkward and I see it as pointless to be fair.
Oh Gosh, it's such a long story I can't share it on here but in short, as far as she's concerned I'm a new addition to his life, she's abroad and is planning to visit with family in a few months. When we're actually a year together in September, I think in his defense she was the delicate/fragile emotional type , I definitely shouldn't be saying it here but I have no-one else to ask if I'm being unreasonable about this.
Oh Gosh, it's such a long story I can't share it on here but in short, as far as she's concerned I'm a new addition to his life, she's abroad and is planning to visit with family in a few months. When we're actually a year together in September, I think in his defense she was the delicate/fragile emotional type , I definitely shouldn't be saying it here but I have no-one else to ask if I'm being unreasonable about this.
I think it's too cut and dried to say one of the parties just gives in. From my previous experience I found I was always very submissive to the blokes but I've learned that in your gut, if you feel you are right stand your ground, if it is really worth it. At the end of the day, sometimes we are all unreasonable, I think the most important thing is to look at something you feel is something to fight about and really establish if it's worth the fight. I think moreso than anything, lack of communication is more toxic than constantly throwing out exactly what you feel and are unhappy about every time it enters your head. I'd nearly prefer a good fight to a poisonous silence.
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RE: Paronoia.....
I am quite the same. I mean I wouldn't really care about some randomer but I would be very eager to make a good impression upon meeting those that are important to someone I find important.I used to be incredibly self conscious, I would dumb myself down in situations at times so no-one would ask for my views in a debate/discussion but I am well on my way to getting over that.
Life's just too precious and short to give a damn, if you don't have to.