Leave. Nothing worse that kids growing up seeing indifference in people who should love each other, or worse, fighting all the time, or sarcasm, or long silences.
I am not a person who gets off on being cruel, in any way, shape, or form.
If, as you say, I have to be where someone I don't like is, then I excuse myself, and if asked, I will say plainly that I do not care to be in the same room as someone I have no respect for, or do not like. I arrange another time or place.
I don't have to tell that person that I don't like them. They would know that already in no uncertain terms.
I do not smile sweetly and pretend to like anyone. Never have and never will. People who know me, know this, and accept that that is who I am, and what I do.
Having said all this, I find it difficult to dislike people. They'd really have to deliberately piss me off for that, and not over something trivial either.
I would never, for instance, dislike someone for something, or some chacteristic that they have, that they cannot help, nor can I ever hope to understand anyone who does that.
It hit me really hard about 10 years ago, for the second time. (First time at 31). I got really ill, to the point where I couldn't function on even a basic level, day by day.
My oestrogen had depleted itself, so Doc put me on a replacement. Not HRT, just Oestrogen. I went back to the way I was before. I am still fine 10 years later, exactly as I was in my youth.
I know it usually depends on the person and what they find important or deal breakers, but for me, a lie is a lie, blatant or by omission. I lose respect straight away.
We are all entitled to be hormonal now and again. It's not like you are depressed or anything. You have genuine reason for feeling bad.
Sounds like you have been building up your list of grievances for a while though. All that probably wouldn't have happened with just one date, or one person, I am thinking. You just let it build, and get to you, even maybe took on some of it........
My suggestion for not letting all this get to you in future, is to throw rocks at something, and use your choicest words, just as soon as you feel bad about something someone has said. Don't let it build, or you will doubt yourself.
The way you are feeling, (besides hormones), is internalised anger. Let it out. Don't harbour it. Break something. You will feel much better, and even laugh again.
I have been writing mine as and when the notion strikes me, but beginning to think it might take a few volumes too. I am not being big headed writing mine. I was asked to.
Quiche with onions, mushrooms, tomatoes, and broccoli in it. Apple and cinnamon pie, jam roly poly. All of which I cooked for my brother and his wife. Pear and apple bakewell tart for my house, for visitors.
Just by dint of the fact that someone says that they don't want emotional bagage, means that they themselves are carrying baggage, because if they weren't still in fear of repeating past mistakes, (which they must be keeping fresh in their minds), they wouldn't even be mentioning it.
One recently had that on his profile. Even mentioned it to me in conversation. Turns out he wasn't only carrying it, he was living with it.....as in......he was living in the same house as his (not yet) ex-wife. How's that for carrying baggage!
The people who say they have no baggage are liars. Everyone in the world has baggage, if they have lived beyond two years of age. Carying crap around from past experiences, is what makes us individuals, and human, and keeps us in touch with our emotions.
Like someone said to me recently, everyone is on their own path or journey, (even if that is self destructive for them), and who are we to put them off it?
GingerBe Forum Posts (3,106)
Thanks for the vote of confidence.
RE: stay or go??
Leave. Nothing worse that kids growing up seeing indifference in people who should love each other, or worse, fighting all the time, or sarcasm, or long silences.