OP you asked what we ladies, think of the average man today and yet, you launch into a gamut of information about p*dophile, murderers, rapists, etc. and those are men I would hardly consider "average."
Trust is earned, seeing is believing and maybe stop watching so many Lifetime movies, just a thought.
nanners2863: As far as trusting, a person can only do that over time.
Hi Nann ....
A wee question if I may. So how much time is that exactly ? 1 year, 3,6 ? .... When do you know, when do you make that decision and decide there is "trust" and security. See what I'm getting at.
Hi R..I know you directed that question at Nanners, but I'd also like to take a moment to answer, just for myself. I will trust until a person gives me a reason not too, but I am also not a fool and am aware of red flags.
Full trust is earned over time, by both men and women, give it too soon and some will take advantage, don't give it and run the risk of never knowing how good it feels to have total faith and trust in someone else. It's hard to discern, but with time and showing the other person you are what you claim and being honest goes a long, long way, JMHO.
MerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia11,403 posts
Any thoughts on why so many men seem to be going off the rails and how does a single woman learn to trust men these days.
me thinks tis to do with stress,
People get angry too quickly and men and stress dont seem to be good marriage partners..
either stress from work, or financial, or simply that being a man does not mean much in these days of equality... Girls have learnt to do it for themselves.. and men just dont have solid roles any more..
so that equates to fear....
fear equates to anger
anger equates to ............. def not being a gentleman..
The strength of a man comes from within, not without..
A wee question if I may. So how much time is that exactly ? 1 year, 3,6 ? .... When do you know, when do you make that decision and decide there is "trust" and security. See what I'm getting at.
Hey love!! I see your point and can only say that it's up to the individual. We all have that little voice that nags us when something isn't wrong (always thought it was my moms voice )and a person has to listen to that voice. Too many people want to be in love and will over look the obvious signs. A person true nature will be revealed over a period of time, how long is again is up to the individual involved, but a person can only put on a persona for so long before cracks begin to appear and the true person emerges.
nanners2863: Hey love!! I see your point and can only say that it's up to the individual. We all have that little voice that nags us when something isn't wrong (always thought it was my moms voice )and a person has to listen to that voice. Too many people want to be in love and will over look the obvious signs. A person true nature will be revealed over a period of time, how long is again is up to the individual involved, but a person can only put on a persona for so long before cracks begin to appear and the true person emerges.
A wee question if I may. So how much time is that exactly ? 1 year, 3,6 ? .... When do you know, when do you make that decision and decide there is "trust" and security. See what I'm getting at.
I know question wasn't for me ...
My opinion on that one is that it becomes apparent very quickly if someone does what they say they're gonna do, info shared ckecks out, respect of each other and each other's space is happening, taking responsibility for one's actions (instead of blaming others) etc...
All of that, I think becomes apparent fairly quick ...
to the men on here that wrote these silly responses...I WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOUR INPUT but in true fashion you made fun of something that was important to a woman. You thought this so effing funny. Thank you. Sooooooo typical. Thanks for confirming that a lot of men are nitwits.
to the men on here that wrote these silly responses...I WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOUR INPUT but in true fashion you made fun of something that was important to a woman. You thought this so effing funny. Thank you. Sooooooo typical. Thanks for confirming that a lot of men are nitwits.
stormeee: to the men on here that wrote these silly responses...I WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOUR INPUT but in true fashion you made fun of something that was important to a woman. You thought this so effing funny. Thank you. Sooooooo typical. Thanks for confirming that a lot of men are nitwits.
The men on here didn't say anything horrible, they could have seeing as you attacked men in general, but they didn't. It appears that you have this huge hate on for most men.
stormeee: to the men on here that wrote these silly responses...I WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOUR INPUT but in true fashion you made fun of something that was important to a woman. You thought this so effing funny. Thank you. Sooooooo typical. Thanks for confirming that a lot of men are nitwits.
Actually that's where you are wrong ...
Might have come accross to you as nitwits, but the men who have responded (however you perceived their responses) happen to be some of the nicest guys on CS as far as I am aware from their contributions on the forums
stormeee: to the men on here that wrote these silly responses...I WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOUR INPUT but in true fashion you made fun of something that was important to a woman. You thought this so effing funny. Thank you. Sooooooo typical. Thanks for confirming that a lot of men are nitwits.
There are at least the same number of psychotic women out there as there are men...... The only difference is that the crimes that you refer to about men in your OP are now being reported on when women committ them... They have always happened but only now are they being reported upon... If you don't want comments then dont post a thread, as once you do it a public thread and anyone can post as they please
stormeee: to the men on here that wrote these silly responses...I WAS NOT ASKING FOR YOUR INPUT but in true fashion you made fun of something that was important to a woman. You thought this so effing funny. Thank you. Sooooooo typical. Thanks for confirming that a lot of men are nitwits.
Before you put up a thread ,expecting a discussion ,you have to be prepared for all kind of responses
What if you were categorised as a great guy and a genteman? Would you hate THAT category?
On here it doesnt mean much
I see the OP has signed off. Pity , while I found the opening post to be offensive, I would have liked to hear more from her as regards her selection process
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