Rohaan, your assumptions about me are way off. They're to do with you, not me.
I don't know anything about the trainer's contract you didn't specify, but you did specify that management said it was between you and he. Ergo, he can charge what he likes, you can turn him down, but if you've signed a contract stating a PT will cost $25 then the health club is obligated to honour that.
I was just going by the information you provided. Please don't get angry with and call me names me because I've posted a response that was different from what you wanted to hear.
I think people are welcome to charge what they like and your welcome to turn them down, in this case assuming the health club can provide you with a PT at the rate in the contract as an alternative.
Anger's a tricky one. We're taught is socially unacceptable to express anger so it ends up being expressed in other more socially acceptable ways.
A common way for women to express anger is through crying - the tears are very often not sadness, but tears of rage. Even we often struggle to recognise them as such, anger is so socially oppressed.
It's socially unacceptable for men in the West to cry as well and men are often expected to express anger through competitive sports, or thumping each other. That hardly addresses the source of the problem, either.
Most of us find it difficult to be assertive and say, "I feel angry with you because..." Even more of us find it difficult to recognise our anger is most often just as much to do with us and our personal history as it is to do with the person we're angry with.
PP, he's told you he deals with anger by remaining silent and he's brought you silence. Ergo, you've already worked out he's angry. If you end up in that situation again, try just stating "You're angry." Sometimes acknowledgement can go a long way. You might try asking, "Do you feel able to tell me about your anger?" And y'know, it's okay to sit there in silence and allow him to think in your presence. Just relax and observe.
Ultimately, he kind of needs to be willing to work on his inability to deal with his anger, though. You can't be going through the silent treatment every time he's miffed. If he's not willing to learn more productive ways of communicating you might find the relationship you have with him untenable in time.
No worries Peachy and thank you for asking after my daughter. She's fine, her and my granddaughter are moving back in with me in a fortnight and thank goodness I took her to all those martial arts classes as a child.
I think her and my granddaughter are going to need some emotional TLC for a while. I think we need to do some work on spotting the signs early on, too.
I wonder how many young men ask young women for proof of age. Some 14 year olds can very convincingly pass off as 18, well past the 16 years old age of consent here.
Can you imagine the consequences for a 22 year old man if parents were to prosecute, even if their daughter lied about her age? Perhaps young women below the age of consent need to be educated about the consequences of their actions and their responsibilities, too.
He died about a hundred years before my grandmother was born and my great uncle who was a flautist in the last court of the Kaiser, also by the name of Glinka, although not a direct descendant. Mikhail died young (40's?) and childless.
He looks like the male, bearded version of my mother so much, it makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end! I can see him in myself, too.
Mikhail Glinka influenced the work of Prokofiev and Tchaikovsky. Unfortunately, my hearing is dyspraxic and I never inherited the musical gene.
In case it hasn't already been said, if there's an 's' on the end of 'https' in the link, you now have to remove the 's' so it's just 'http' to get it to work.
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RE: The number of REAL LIFE FACE TO FACE dates i got from CS is:
It was meant as a compliment, but also feedback.I appreciate this medium is not the same as face to face contact, but here you do come across as negative and even hostile at times.
Was that direct enough? (I'm half German.)