LIP Service...
LIP service....Lying In ProgressYou know what's really sad...is when a person reaches out and helps people out, of the kindness of their heart no matter how different a lifestyle they have, never judging them and they show unconditional love and respect for them never forsaking them.....and they literally either go out of their way and or make sacrifices of their own personal life, day/s or gifting them or helping them in any capacity they can. The people you are there for will even say how thankful they are. And then you have to realize they're willing to take all you give whether it be materially, spirituality and or physically for their benefit and then verbally say they love and care for you. But when you are in need of exactly what you've been FOR them, those you helped and/or were/are there for them through their bad times they say they don't have time, ignore you, have time for everything and everyone but you and claim they don't have time or recourses to help you through your difficult times....but they have time and recourses for everyone and everything else but you :-/.
The world is full of people like this. There is no discrimination for a race, a religion, a sex, or a nation. What they are really saying is...I can tolerate you enough to get what I want and need because I know you'll give but I don't really like you much less love you so don't ask and don't expect me to be what I want you to be for me.
I've never understood how the mind processes that one will take all that is offered from anyone they don't like. Yes...for a time and a season they reap benifits for it. Then there comes another time and season they'll remember and maybe laugh at you and/or scoff about you. And they'll say, "l just don't understand why so-n-so changed".
Truth is...we actually have to accept the fact there was never any honorable intentions and you have to let them be about their ways. It's free will...free choice...and everyone is entitled to that.
As sad as this can be when you awaken...you simply accept words are meaningless and you shouldn't listen to words. And once a person or people show by thier actions...always believe them.
Be joyful your eyes are opened and celebrate your freedom. Know you'll go through withdrawals from the habit of giving and loving. It's not easy giving up what we are created to be and love being. But it's better waking up from an imaginary dream and facing reality than to live in a state of mind you shouldn't be living in. And now rejoice you're opened up to recreate with those who show with their actions as little as they can show...or as much as they can show by their actions. Staying away from Lip service.
Know this...just because you show people you truly care about them in spite of differences doesn't mean they can or even want to tolerate you. Keep your eyes wide open ;-)
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Ekself, you are so right, Jesus teaches us that we are to give without expecting anything back in return from the person to whom we have given. The thing is, God never sends that person back to return to us, what we have given to them to help us, although some do return. But by spiritual principles, He always has others waiting in the wings to help us out when we have a need.
Giving out of love from our hearts is to not expect payback from the person we have given to, but with great expectations we do wait for God to repay us for the giving out of love in our hearts, some 30, 60, 70, 100 fold as He has promised to repay us for giving,and it most always comes when we are in need.
We are to be thankful to God we are in a position to give of what we have been abundantly blessed with in order that we MIGHT unconditionally to help our brothers and sisters out of our blessings to whomever they are. Its call passing it forward in love. The person we help may not return back to help us, but they may be there passing the blessings forward down the road to someone else we know nothing about. Giving out of a heart of love without expectations is the reasonable work of a true Christian...
No good deed will go unpunished.
I don't say it means you shouldn't. It does mean go in expecting the worse possible outcome. If it happens, well you knew it would. If it doesn't, then you had a really good outcome and a nice surprise.
I know a woman of 20 years acquaintance who called her 28 year old son and told him she needed $900 to avoid foreclosure on her home about 5 months ago. She asked him to help. She was told he had no money. Three weeks later she heard from his neighbor the son had just put $14,000 down on a new sports car. The poor woman was crying on my phone today because she has been forced to yield her home and has no idea where to go. Needless to say she will not be sending anything as a gift to her son this year. So what you say, after all she had done, her own son. Sad.
If anybody in my family needs help, everyone will pitch in to help!
Proverbs 18:24
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
John 15:13-15
Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.
Proverbs 27:17
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
Deuteronomy 15:7
“If among you, one of your brothers should become poor, in any of your towns within your land that the Lord your God is giving you, you shall not harden your heart or shut your hand against your poor brother.
1 Timothy 5:8
For if a man does not take care of those who are his own, especially those who are members of the household of faith, this one has renounced the faith and is worse than those who are unbelievers.
@Ken...that friend of yours I feel so bad for.... It reminds me of my siblings with my parents. However my siblings are now suffering.
Truly feel for that dear lady.. I do. How sad for the son that he did not feel in his heart to help his dear mother, that his heart was not filled with love and compassion for his mum.. so very sad. To me who is the saddest here? The woman loses her home.. the son lives with the thought that he put his mother out of her home by his lack of kindness. Very sad story.