All of us want to be with someone who possesses great qualities physically, intellectually and emotionally and yet many of us have a very difficult time dealing with the consequences or the downside of being with someone who is so wonderful.
Some examples: A person who is highly successful and independent will most likely be a bit less grateful for what you may have to offer materially along with the fact that there will be many other people who see this person as a great catch . This person will most likely have a much more active social life outside of just the two of you.
A person who is very attractive and physically fit may get a lot more attention from people other than yourself...can you handle that? along with the possibility of your friends, co workers and family becoming a bit envious and perhaps even distancing themselves from you. This does happen and though we may want all of the good things in a partner we must also keep n mind that with every gift there is always a price that goes along with it therefor perhaps it would be wise to ask ourselves, can I handle it and do I want to?
I have seen a few profiles that were worded in a way that wasn't very tactful or polite in regards to what a guy is looking for physically I am not sure if the same thing happens on women's profiles (I don't look at those)
but as far as setting standards and limits as to what you are looking for physically do you set limits on how much a person you would be interested in dating should weigh? and if so what are your limits?
Also are there any attributes which would make up for a person being overweight and which would make you look beyond their physical appearance and still be willing to consider a relationship with them?
Me personally ...I admire and respect a man who has enough discipline and drive to keep himself in good shape but if I have to chose between a man who may be a bit overweight but genuinely nice or a man who is in great shape but arrogant and full of himself I will chose the overweight man.
Sometimes experiencing the world from the perspective of a mouse makes you much more alert to the "hawks" and much more experienced at how to avoid them
I see many different people from many different backgrounds and walks of life during my busy day and the one thing that I have noticed is two distinct groups.
One group lives a rigid, isolated lifestyle which usually consists of a lot of self discipline, certain strict rules and regulations which can be extreme even to the point of depriving oneself of simple harmless pleasures in life.
The other group lives life with no rules. Living on the edge, experiencing as much as possible and doing everything excessively until they become numb to the reality of death , as if they are bullet proof.
But isn't balance the key to living a happy , full life?
It seems that everyone agrees with the fact that being alone is no fun but when we are in a relationship do we still appreciate the fact that we have someone special to hold?? Or do we begin to feel "stuck" at some point?
Do we forget how precious it is to have someone special in our lives or does a part of us begin to admire those who are single and seemingly "fancy free" after a while?
Do you find yourself looking for flaws and imperfections after a while of being together as if you are subconsciously yet purposely sabotaging the relationship and are you aware that you do this but do not know why?
Are you a "grass is always greener somewhere else" kind of person or do you cherish what you have while you have it ALWAYS~ even in difficult times??
We all have dreams and goals that we hope to accomplish one day . Some are more easily and realistically attainable while others are a bit more distant and harder to reach but with the right person and when TWO people are both eager to share with one another their own unique gifts then the two can make each others dreams come true.
Relationships are chemistry, magic & romance but they are also work, determination and desire to make positive things happen within the relationship from both people involved. Seeing yourselves as more than just lovers and friends.....you must also see yourselves as a team. A powerful team with the potential to move mountains and to build an incredible life together.
Two people both bringing their own unique gifts into the relationship who are willing and eager to share , give to one another and to build a dream together can do what one million people alone could never dream of doing.
Hey its been a bit slow here on the blogs so I thought I would liven things up a bit. I know what you're thinking , oh God what are we in for?
Well first of all I would like to say that I have been sitting back observing and reading some pretty interesting thoughts. feelings and ideas. I have noticed a few things during this time. One a lot of guys really do have feelings and NO they are not all in their pants ladies.
Now, with that being said, I think that we the sexes view things quite differently and yet do we not both hurt? Do we not feel pain? and do we not both cry sometimes.....ok men usually do not break down and do it in public places and they don't get all choked up over a card and stuff like that but they do have feelings so lets acknowledge that and keep it in mind.
I met my good friend who I haven't hung out with for a while today for lunch and she was glowing...haven't seen her that happy in years so I asked her what was new? She said that she has met someone special.
You see she like me has been divorced for about 4 years now and has been dating the past two years ....she has so much to offer the right guy but has not had much luck finding the right one. This week however had been different she said.
She has met a man who she said is different than any guy she has ever dated. I asked her to explain. She said: "He is from the south where it is still ok to be nice to your date."
I had to laugh at hearing this. I had never heard this before.
She told me that he was a true southern gentleman. He brought her roses a picnic basket filled with her favorite foods, home made pecan fudge that he made from scratch (is he kidding?)
fruit, cheese , wine....he even gave her a long massage. Unbelievable
I said are you kidding? She said "No! This was the best date that I have ever been on in my life." and she went on to say "He is not the best looking guy in the world but his personality makes up for everything! He is incredible!" She said that he was just so genuinely nice and considerate that it blew her away.
I was really happy for her and I could tell that she is , finally happy. She does deserve it.
Southern charm~ Southern hospitality......is there something to that, really? I wonder.
The dating scene has always had its positive points and negative ones even before the internet there were questions of safety when first meeting someone that you do not know.
There are a lot of nice , wonderful people out there and yet as we are all well aware there are also people who may appear to be nice and normal but may have some serious emotional or even mental issues.
This is probably a bit more of a concern for females than it is for males when one watches the news and sees the cases of rape, missing person's reports ...ect therefore it should be most understandable to see a woman approaching a new possible meeting with a man with a certain degree of caution .
I have heard about women who are willing to travel long distances alone to places they have never been before just to meet a man for the first time. Is this wise? or is it in a way like playing Russian roulette with your safety and health? I personally would be very uneasy and nervous in making such a move and taking such a risk not only for myself but also keeping in mind that my children need me....
What are your thoughts on this topic?
I don't know if any of you have ever had the experience of being out with someone who was totally hung up on outer appearance, money and superficiality. Well I have and one thing that is usually and generally lacking is....fun!
People who may not be as "pretty" or "rich" tend to not care as much what others think and they for the most part are more themselves making the whole date such a more pleasant relaxed experience.
I have gone out with some guys in the past that were far from what most people would consider "handsome" or even "successful" mostly for this reason and I have had guys ask me things like: "What the heck do you see in him?" and I would simply smile and say "I think hes hot."
The popular thing to say to one another in today's world is I DON"T NEED YOU
thats right. Romantic ? uhmmm...probably not. Do these words make you melt in his arms? Not really. So, could it be that we are talking about different kinds of "needs?"
If a man says to you "honey I need you because I love you and cannot live without you in my life." is that wrong? To me it would seem like a very romantic thing for a man to say and I would not see him as "needy" or "desperate"
If he said "I need you to cook for me because I don't know how." or "I could never figure out how to do the laundry without you." that would sound needy and desperate....does that make sense or am I missing something here?
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so eat your hearts out while I have a ball all by my great self! Haaa!
I'm having too much fun all by my self!
I don't need anyone ....but I may want someone because uh...well I don't know why yet but I will think of a reason soon and it would not have anything to do with me needing anyone! 
