I've been back home about 2 weeks now but i've been sooooo busy since then.
The trip to see my lovely jenny was wonderful as expected.
Our love just keeps growing and growing.
Don't really feel like writing much today.. i've been working to hard but i did want to share some pictures with all of you.
Keep the faith..
resized the picture so should be easier to see now
i have been here over a week now, we celebrated new year together for the first time. some customs are a bit strange to me but i like it and i think i adjust well. most of it involve eating and drinking so its easy to adjust hihihi. i enjoy being so close to my beloved jenny, yet the day that we must say goodbye closer again. i feel sad because of that but its part of our life so soon we will return to our routine of chatting and talking on cam. but before that i will enjoy my last days of this stay in vietnam with her and start planning our next time to be together.
Sorry i won't be able to reply soon but i'm sure you understand i have other things to do right now. I just wanted to let some friends know how things are going with us. Talk to you all soon again. take care friends.
and happy new year
As you might recall my sweet jenny was planning on coming to belgium in just a few days. But we (me most likely) screwed up some paperwork and the visa got refused. We've gotten that news last month, and as if faith isn't cruel enough as it is... we received it right on my b-day... I assure you i've had better ones then this last one.
So whats a man supposed to do with this kind of news? We could appeal and apply again.. but figuring out what papers are missing and getting them out there to her side again would have left very little time for the embassy to make descission. And if they would have refused again we wouldn't have seen eachother, so i think we've made the best possible choice and cancelled the entire trip.
Instead of that i booked another flight, meaning i will be going back to vietnam in just a matter of days. We will have actually a few more days together then originally planned. Another benefit is that my lovely girl won't need to face these harsh temperatures, only about 4 celcius lately.. not to cold really for our winters but my girl isn't used to anything under 15 or so.
I'm leaving belgium next saturdaymorning and should be in ho chi minh city sunday morning, already got an appointment at belgian consulat there to see what actually was the problem and to get some more info about some other things we'll need in the future to get married and such.
I'm so looking forward to make her my wife, she truly is special. The best if you ask me.
Anyway, i'll try and write another update from vietnam, but guess we'll be busy with celebrating the new year and social visits. So you might need to wait untill i'm back in belgium.
Hope you all have a good time.
blogs about smoking seem to be popular these days.
So let me add one to that...
We all know how gouverments and the media tries to convince us all about how bad smoking is for our health. And from looking at the comments on these blogs .. We see they are suceeding very well at that.
They reach their conclusions by studies... What is such a study really? For easy calculation lets use easy numbers.. they select "randomly" 2000 people.. 1000 smokers, 1000 non-smokers. Then they look how many of those people get lungcancer for example. Other factors are ignored since this study only focusses on the relation between smoking and lungcancer in this case. If it shows that the smokers have more cases of lungcancer the study will conclude a connection between these 2.
Ofcourse the amount of peope involved in this study is far higher and the conclusion won't be based upon just 1 study.
A key part in such studies is the people they select... how do they select? In many cases they just use existing lists. Anything can be a list... for example.. how about we use the memberlist of cs to do a study about marriages and devorces. I am very sure the results would say happy marriages don't happen according to such a study, and 100% of marriages ends up in devorce. Unless some married people are member of cs.
We can extend our group of people and select everyone that uses blogs and forums on daily basis all over the internet. Would this be a better selection?
Not really because it is very likely that married people who have a family don't have the time (or need) to be active online everyday.
Now back to the smoking.. I've read studies that concluded 2nd hand smoke is more lethal then actual smoking. How does one reach such conclusion? Everyone is 2nd hand smoker... and the toxics in cigarettes would do more damage in mild consumption then in direct contact? Kinda strange if you ask me.
The amount of people that smoke in my country has been declining the last 10 years. The amount of people who have died from lungcancer and other smoking related diseases have gone up. Doesn't make much sense to me if smoking really is the cause of these diseases.
Their are studies available online that show smokers are less likely to develop alzheimer, parkinson and other serious diseases. These studies don't reach the general public because media for some reason ignore them. but feel free to look it up.. I'm sure google will have them for you.
Now don't reach wrong conclusions about my opinion about smoking. I'm not saying smoking is good for your health. But like with all things in life, it won't damage you if you don't overdo it. A glass of red wine a day would be good for your blood or something.. drinking 3 bottles a day will damage you.
Drinking water is considered very healthy... but drink to much water and it can kill you.
I can understand gouverments who want to blame all this on the smokers. We are an easy target and very vissible. Attacking us is far easier then exposing the real problems because then they would be held responsable for dealing with it.
Dealing with it would involve drastic changes in our current economy, our current way of industry and transportation. The entire organisation our society is build on would need to be reinvented, and that simply can't be done. So they need smokers to get away with it.
I read innocent, fun intended blogs being written by some.
I see old ignorant fools who just keep on trying finding hidden messages.
Is it so bad to have a peacefull blog?
Why do you stay in a place where you believe to be subject of attacks all the time? Is your life so meaningless?
You've been away from these pages for a while, the events that once took place had you confused to much. Unable to handle all the games that were being played by some. Yet, you have learned nothing. Still you defend the ones that were found guilty of deception. Still you believe real people are fake, and fakes are real.
I have Always been kind to you, and I do intend to stay kind. These words i say only out of concern...
You must learn how the internet world works. Learn to understand how people are, not just in the tiny corner of the world that you call home, but in places far away as well. Learn to understand different kinds of humor, learn to appreciate different point of views, different ways to express things.
I won't mention names here.. don't think i need to since the person i refer to will be reading this for sure and this person already thinks all blogs are about him/her so the message will reach the correct person.
I sit here drinking some coffee that i brought home after my trip to Vietnam.
This drink has so much meaning to me, first ofcourse cuz it makes me feel close to my Jenny.
But also cuz it brings back some wonderful memories of my stay at her home. The care her father had for me. The first few days they served me the usual green tea, but as soon as they knew i liked coffee so much, her dad would make sure to have some coffee for me each day. It also reminds me about how her younger sister would bring home icecoffee for me as she returned home from school.
With everything they did, they showed so much care for me, each and everyone of her family. They cared so much even if i wasn't the perfect guest. On a few occasions our cultures did collide, I'm an adult guy and used to western way of life, so the care and concerns of her family did choke me a few times. But still they stayed so nice and friendly.
I miss them all so much. I miss vietnamese style of life.
waking up at crack of dawn, seeing the local women walk in group to the market each day. Every day the same group, Always talking much. I couldn't understand what they said but i can only assume that very much like here it would be a constant stream of gossip.
Watching my girl walking around the house getting ready for work, her dad inviting me to the table for breakfast and coffee.
Such relaxed start of the day. Watching the chickens walk around the yard...
Its difficult to remember how i filled my days when she was out to work. Usually after breakfast finished her little niece would wake up, and she kept me busy a lot as she was Always wanting to play. Funny girl she is, the first few days she didn't even notice i don't speak vietnamese but later she would bring her schoolbooks to teach me vietnamese language, and few minutes later she would speak vietnamese to me and wouldn't understand why i don't know what she says. The first day she was shy, she would hide behind the back of her father or grandfather.. from 2nd day she sticked to me like glue. She has written so many little notes to me, basic things like teddy loves Jenny with a little heart drawn around it. Can't count how many of those notes i brought home with me. But i kept every single one of them. My Jenny considered it a bit foolish of me that i gave so much attention to those notes and that i Always put them carefully in my pocket and suitcase later. But now and many years from now those little silly notes are such nice souvenirs. They are things that can never be bought or replaced. I will continue to save them carefully so i can look at them again many many years from now and remember my first meeting with my vietnamese family.
Well coffee is finished now... enough walking down memory lane... I might write more when i drink my next vietnamese coffee. cheers all
What a crappy month it has been.. well for me it has been at least, but november is looking better again.
311 hours spend working... Kinda feel like i've been working to much but hope I'll feel better about this when i get my paycheck. Beside this i've been very busy helping out my parents, as some of you know my dad had to undergo some brainsurgery in the beginning of october. All things went well and he is recovering now. Still so much care is needed, not only for him personally but also to take over the care of his animals. It has been keeping me quite busy but at least i'm getting some more help these last few days.
I noticed the old gang was here this weekend, sorry i missed it guys, but i haven't been able to watch this site to closely lately. Anyway i wish you all the best.
From the moment we are born, impressions and experiences shapes us into the person we have become at this moment in life.
Like most western teenagers i did my share of searching when it comes to finding a partner. I've had high standards, I knew exactly what I wanted in a girl, and later on I also find out what flaws I would never be able to accept.
As the years went by, I still couldn't find anyone that was compatible with my desires, noone would meet my high standards.
People, friends, family had told me I'm to picky. The woman I search for only exists in my dreams.
My dream of having a family was so strong I actually started to believe them. I lowered my standards and sure enough soon after that I had a relation.
However, something inside me didn't feel right. I couldn't bring myself to the point of getting married, I couldn't convince myself to have children with her. This wasn't was i was looking for. I could never be happy in that life.
I gave up on that relation, and I had accepted the fact that i would remain single the rest of my life. I would never lower my standards again, because I was sure, even more sure then before, that it could never work that way.
A single life for me, it wasn't my prefered way but the more i got used to the idea, the easier it became. I made new plans, new dreams to chase.. and then I joined CS.
So many people, so many new friends.. I liked it here. Just relaxing with friends every evening, no pressure.. just relax. Life of a single man can be so easy.
Then she came into my life, well my blog to be more precise.
After just a few words, I knew it... she is the one.
However, previous experiences made me cautious afterall my ideals were to high to be realistic. But still, this one seemed to have all the qualities I was searching for. So she really had to have some unacceptable flaws right?
I couldn't see them, how could she hide them so well?
emails back and forth... she is so amazing, so wonderful.. sure she flaws, I see them clearly... but noone that i find unacceptable. Could it be?
She lives so far away, its going to be hell to sort out all that paperwork... Will I let some paperwork stand in my way of being happy? Will I let fear leftover from previous experiences steal away my chance of being happy?
These questions were with me quite a while, I couldn't fight it anymore, I wanted to be with her. I had to tell her how i feel.
How would she react? I don't think she realises how i feel about her.
I told her... enough time wasted, write an email tell her how i feel. Then days waiting were my share, she hadn't been online a few days, my mail was still unopened. That moment seemed to last forever... Notification in my email.. I got a message from her on Cs. oh my God, what have i done.. I might have been to direct.. Maybe i should have taken things slower.. I don't dare to read this message. Get a grip, you got nothing to lose...
A few mails later we were planning my trip to visit her. She is everything i could ever wish for and more. Right now we are planning her trip to visit me. I look forward to seeing her again. I miss her so much.
My fellow bloggers, never give up on your dreams, it might take many many years, but the perfect partner is out there, no matter how high you set your standards. Don't let anyone make you settle for less. Someday you will meet him/her... just like I did.
The last few blogs i've made were all dedicated to my lovely Jenny, and yes i do feel she deserves another blog dedicated to her...
Ever since the very first day i met her here on this site, i started to change. Its impossible to explain why or how... but i knew she was special from the very first word i saw from her.
I started talking with her, but she was definatly far out of my league. So i just kept it friendly, no flirting or anything.
This went on for quite a while, and then at some point i realised if i didn't speak up about how i felt, some other guy might come and steal her away.
So i gathered all my courage and told her how i felt about her.
Turned out she had been interested in me for a while as well but since i never made a move she tought i was just being nice and didn't want anything else.
Now so many months later, I've been to her home, i feel accepted by her family and i see them as my own family. We are doing paperwork to bring her to Belgium for a visit first, but step by step we are building a future, our path in life is getting shaped more and more. Small steps, but we will get there. Our love grows day after day.
My wonderful lady, the feelings you brought into my life are so overwhelming, so beautyful, so wonderful.
You brought meaning to my life, you brought happiness into my heart. A happiness stronger then i could ever imagen possible.
Thank you my dear, I love you.
I arrived in paris last sunday, Lucky for me a friend came to pick me up because i hadn't anything planned to make the trip from paris to home. Came home around midday, unpacked my suitcase and then family started dropping in to see how my trip has been. So after the endless stories and showing of my pics it was late night. I did manage to squeeze in a few hours of cam chat with my girl, her entire family was there to see me. They are all wonderful people and I love them dearly.
Anyway the next monday i was back at work, Me and my girl are back on our routine of daily chatting and cam on the weekends.
The chats have reached a new level, simple things as when she says she goes to see her sister mean so much more since now i actually know where that is. But it is quite an adjustment after being in eachothers presence for 3 weeks. I miss her so much, her touch, her smell, even just seeing her walking around the house or garden.
It's a strange feeling and I guess i underestimated it. But we already booked the flight for her visit to Belgium and that makes me feel a bit better. 182 days left untill we are together again.
With all the plans we are making i think i will be able to keep myself busy, reading all legal issues to prepare for our marriage and her moving towards Belgium will require quite some of my time and attention. But first things first, gotta make sure she gets her visa, she will require some documents of me for that as well so better get started and see how and where i get those documents, and mail them to her.
I believe I will be even more nervous for her trip here then that i was for my trip to Vietnam. So much depends on this next trip. Since we are planning on living in Belgium it is very important that she feels home here, so i really hope she will love my family and my country. Things are a lot different here as I have noticed.
But i'm sure that with my love and support things will work out as we have planned.
it have been some busy weeks for us, doing a lot of sightseeing, meeting people and all the basics. Me and my girl have really hit it off, seems so natural to be together. Sure we encounter some cultural differences as was to be expected but nothing that we can not handle. My last week in her country is starting now and it makes me very sad. Soon i will be home again and i will miss her so much. But we are planning her trip to my country already so i have something to look forward to. I am curious to see how she will react to my world. Anyway its time for breakfast now in this beautiful country vietnam.
talk to you all shortly.
After a long exhausting trip I finally arrived at can tho airport, the place where I would meet my Jenny for the first time.
Like most people would I had kept in mind that maybe she wouldn't show up but I was very confident that she was waiting for me.
The first moment I saw her I just knew it. Everything we felt, everything we shared was real. I know that this is the girl with who I want to spend the rest of my life.
My advise to anyone who is chatting/interested in someone here is to be completely honest. Don't pretend to be better then who you really are. We all have bad qualities, some more then others. You can hide those behind a screen but once you meet they will show. So if you want the love to grow into reality, you must be yourself on the screen as well.
Goodnight all
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