I have a question...And please can somebody answer
I have a friend that was in love with me, like...6 years ago maybe 5. Over the time he did try to be with me, until now that he doesn't seem to care. Every single time I've met somebody, he immediately has to know. Last time he came to PR he told me I needed to date and have fun and go out. Now I recently met a guy and he has to know. When I told him he tells me to be careful because he knows men. And he kinda seems mad.I did told him we could try dating before this last guy. I like my friend. But he said NO I just want to hook up. But if I meet somebody he doesn't seem to like the idea.
I don't know if I made any sense...but does this mean something? I'm clueless.
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You seem to be pushing your expectations pretty hard. You are still very young and as the old saying goes, "good things come to those who wait". If however, you enjoy giving him control over your mind have at him. Otherwise tell him to buzz off.
Anyways still, thanks for your opinion.
don112, Thank you for the comment! Lately thats what I'm doing, only what makes me happy and not what other people say. Thanks
Happygolucky4u Thank you very much for your comment! It helped a lot. I'm glad you enjoy my blogs!
I am presently living in LaCeiba Honduras and there are more men than I care to count who come here simply because this is a poor country and the very young girls seem to be fair game to them. The average age, country wide, for girls to bear their first baby here is 14/15 years old. You were smart enough to avoid that and you are to be commended for that. My point is that there are men who seem to have a passion for girls who could be their Grand kid. For the girl It provides a bit of control over an older man and his ability to provide for her and the baby. Your experience sounds like it was he that wanted to push things very fast. I knew one guy who married a 15 yr old and when she became 21 she was too old for him and he moved on.
You were the smart one, so do what you think is right for you. I suspect you will do the smart thing.
Does it make any sense? No.
Is it typical male behaviour? Yes.
Men who are interested in a lady often try to have some kind of control over her life. If they are not (or not anymore) accepted as lover, then they turn to "friend", being always helpful and very present in her life - up to the point where she can't be with anybody else because she is so busy with them.
So, his goal must be to be with you, although it seemed not. Maybe he is hurt because you suggested to date only now, maybe he wants to punish you etc.
Talk with him very openly, and insist on openness in return. If you don't get a sincere reponse and explanation, dump him as friend. Such games aren't nice and you can expect that if someone wants to be your friend, they should be honest with you.