A reason to be suspicious?

A married man finds birth control pills in his wife's drawer...
However, he had a vasectomy a few years before they were married.

Is that a reason to be suspicious?
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I would love to read your opinion... Do you think the husband has a reason to be suspicious?... bouquet
I'd be suspicious, but her explanation will most likely be she doesn't trust the vasectomy, so she's on birth control for a backup. Sure she's lying but how's he going to prove that? Time to GPS here car, hack her cellphone and hire a P.I. to follow her for a week or two to bring back some trust in the relationship.
Agreed and do it without saying a word to her.
Pay the P.I. in cash so she cannot find cancelled checks in his bank statements.
lightbulb

Wife claims unscrupulous gumshoe snuck into their house & planted the pills in the drawer in order to get hired by suspicious hubby ... innocent

detective

cowboy
Can the husband get a divorce without paying alimony?
That depends a lot on the lawyers.
Does she make more money then him, is he nearing retirement, joint property ownership, can he actually prove she's having an affair, etc...
I've learned not to assume anything. I would directly question then depending on the answer take further investigative actions if needed as it could very well be to regulate her cycle.
Options and assumptions....
Assuming?
Nope coz assumptions almost always are completely wrong !.

Options:

1) Honesty 100% from the start is always the best way a relationship last forever....

Or...

2) Halfway honesty from the start will make the relationship last for as long as it last,often times not very long!!!.

Option 1 earn the trust of the partner..

Option 2 does ANYTHING but Earn the trust of the partner...

Without trust a couple will last very lil i'm afraid...

wine
given that there IS trust among them:
maybe.. an indirect sign from the wife to her husband
(I mean obviously, if one really wants to hide something then do this out of reach?)
-he needs to put more effort into their ehm, seksual life or else..
or: maybe they have a daughter in teenage years and the wife was planning to have a mother-daughter talk?
just ideas
rollers
"The pill has many perks besides pregnancy prevention"

Innocuous enough. Didn't the wife mention this in normal conversation?
Chatillion
He must be suspicious cause man always suspect woman.
peace teddybear
What if she had a few late-night office meetings or a weekend trip with her girlfriends...

Would that be any reason for suspicion?
In your scenario, this marriage is doomed...because there is no trust.


You are correct. The story I read was about failed relationships and mistrust.

There is a chance that confronting her would have ended the relationship sooner.
We can only guess as there wasn't much background to the story.
It's very easy to ask a direct question - 'What are the pills for?' There is nothing inherently suspicious, they are commonly used for control and management.
Agree with you Fargo
A simple question that needs simple answer.wine
Grounds for a divorce I would say. It is like when your spouse spends an hour in a hotel room with someone else. Doesn't matter what they did or didn't do. The mere fact they were there together behind closed doors for 1 hour or more was instant grounds for divorce in NY. Back in the days before no fault. Now of course you just have to say I don';t want to be married anymore and poof, it is done.
professor
Don't hire a private investigator like an honourless pig would do. We have too many police as it is. Deal with not being reassured all the time like a real man.
And not even go through their phone. If you're a woman maybe, but as a man that's really low. It's a man's job to be open and trusting where suspicion and security is for women. You might win, you might lose. It is not a man's job to destroy everything that is good in order to prevent something that is bad. Let women do the frenemy and the spying, let them abolish love and hate and replace it with the fact nobody likes anybody anymore. Let them do safespace
And yes I can appreciate the irony of arguing online that people should be more trusting and less suspicious. The irony of saying be a man to people on the internet. A place where people don't really like each other but can't handle rejection from the other. An insulated space where making the first move is super safe, so safe that it means nothing to women. What opening message is as good as going over and offering to buy her a drink? A very clever and creative opening message just about equals saying hello in reality. Why? Because reality is a brave space.
I do believe that the longer we spend online the worse all this spying is going to get. It's so narcissistic people will forget that they do not own other people, it won't be able to compromise with the fact that they have a will of their own. These vaccines mandates would not happen in the old world with more normal human physical, looking people in the eye when you say and do things, only the internet enables to be this cowardly and disrespectful, narcissistic.
It appears you missed your dose if medicine this morning...
The ideal is for husband to rehumanise his wife so that he won't allow himself to treat her that way. Don't just assume the least amongst us, the worst of human nature all the time because you'll become that.
first thoughts are nearly always the correct one's
Plenty if i smell the gal isn't being honest...
wine wine wine
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