For my Chinese Sweetie …..

It’s because somebody very dear to me asked me to write something on anything. The way she asked it was quite endearing and without having to bear the complications and the subsequent analysis of relationships I have been reading on the blogs lately. I always wonder why people make things so complicated and in doing so they bring out that true reflection of their personality which made the relationship to not work and be healthy in the first place. One needs to always remember that the ability to think, reflect, and then actually be bale to write all of it down may make them look to have possessed profound insights into the nature of things, but then the question must be asked if you really need to think that far ahead and engage in such deeper understanding of each other. To me, if you keep omitting certain important details of your partner and their habits from your memory, it will help the love boat to continue to float without having to carry the extra weight and the survival becomes more prominent. For example, never try to notch up the level or the quality of conversation if the current way of communicating is serving you well. Sometimes trying to infuse extra intimacy in your relationship can actually hurt you more than it can benefit you. Keep things simple. If you find yourself imbuing with new ideas and tricks to improve the quality of your conduct with your partner, get into a discussion with yourself alone to discern if the actual presentation of such ideas could convolute things or confuse any one of you. Always remember it’s not just you who can keep coming up with smart one liners or something that you believe would intrigue your partner so much of your bright mind and intelligence. Learn to disengage from extra thinking and try to be able to discard what sometimes appears very funny or a smart thing to say. In the end, it’s all about having to spend your mundane days with your routine and then the next morning the same awaits you. In between you have someone who happened to have found you and is trying to work out the right dynamics to keep yours as well as their mundane routine alive and working. Leave profound thinking, the thought that you have reached a new milestone in your inner development, a new awakening, and the similar stuff up to the philosophers who are more apt to deal with such issues and are more suitably mostly single. You ought to pay the price of having a company of somebody by letting go of your own company, your mind, and its daily gyrations. It’s a tradeoff and you are the only one to decide if it’s worth having one.