PLEASE I NEED SOME ADVICE!

Wow.... This guy is persistent... My advice is to ignore or block him... No one asks for money that you just meet....its obsurd... How was he able to send you flowers?... He knows your address? If this is someone you already know, and met, have him secure the "loan" with collateral...like the title to his car, and the car itself.... and run a background check on the guy.....
Is it a small amount?... or large?

i tried to answer you by mail private... but i am blocked...

remember...never send anyone money for any reason

those of us who are lonely are targets.....and remember everyone wants something

If he really loves you, he’d respect you, and your decision. No means no, doesn’t it?

question is, why r u questioning....2 me...he would look great sitting on the curb.... move on..have funnnnnn.

I agree with easywriter Alekadeka.

I think the above comments were right on target and I just want to echo what they said...Don't give him any money...Good luck to you on your search for true love...look at this as an experience on the dating site...but don't let it make you bitter or cynical toward finding love.

Good luck!

Dont send him any cash.......Instead send me the money......I will give you MY address.....in the end i will even send you some flowers....hahahah good luck

My advice is...throw him to to wolves. Men who ask women for money are, in my opinion, not men at all. Our generation was raised on the notion that men should be the bread winners...that being said...why does he ask a woman for money. Some things to bear in mind...

1. if you lend it...you'll never get it back
2. if you have not met this man (joke) in person...then why would you even consider lending it in the first place
3. if he has money to send flowers, at the most expensive time of the year to send flowers, why does he need yours
4. run a background check on him thru intellius.com (it only costs $1.00) and see what his financial status really is...chances are, you will find a bankruptcy or worse...he has a criminal record of fraud and theft by deception
5. should you run a backfround check, you will need his SS#, which I guarantee, he will be less thank pleased about giving you.

Men who need a woman to support them are lazy slobs and should be gathered and beheaded. He's not worth it/let him go and move on.

well,you have heared so many who answered your question or blog.
now hear something from one that you can,t find on this sphere


If you are in love with someone;you have to share everything with him in life.if you don,t share or give so,you are not in true love with him.
For love itself gives everything free to the one who love.
Now if he asked for money and giving flowers,this it does not mean: that he loves you!but mean:he need your help.
whether you are friend long time or very short time as just begining with him:you are a Friend to him,if not woman for him.
Now if you want help him or not,is your personal decision and if that can be wrong or right,danger or not,is hard to know.

But to know: if man loves you or not,or if you love him or not:
you will see only from deep heart after you spent time with him
to know each other,at least 1 month when he come to your home and you to his home and be so together, then you will know if he loves you or not true.
to love true it can be from the first moment you see or talk with him,but to have that love true it need at least one month
be with him to prove;if he loves you or not !
Because there are many things in life which man or woman change the mind: after she or he said: i love you, later can say no, i can,t love you for some reason what he or she find.

greetings.

My aunt went thru this for several years.

he even had her convinced that he had a job even thou he could never produce any proof.

She loved him and you could not convince her that he as just using her. After a while she found out that he takes 50 pills a day and was just trying to get more.

I am not trying to be negative towards you but Im am sure that you must have heard your heart tell you there is something wrong.

there is a reason for everything!
Take care

Block and move on,if he has enough money for flowers,why would he need more...think about it!

I think that this kind of men are persistent because he realized that you are in love with him .....he thinks that he will get that monet anyway ....so he thinks that is is a matter of time ..... I have a friend from Unites States too ......she lost 25,000 dollars with one of these guys ...... so ...please .... don't send anymoney if you don't want to lose your money ..... my best wishes for you .... bye...

You don't need advice, you know what you need to do. Get rid of him! this "should" be about 2 self-reliant responsible adults coming together. If he needs money tell him to call his mother

Dont talk with him.And ignore him.Because Love is not measured by money.And Love and friendship dont mean Money.If somebody wants you money never believe him or her.And Remove them and ignore them immediately because they tell this many people more than You.Not only the person who they wanted money.Never Believe them...

if u keep thinking,time will just fly... best thing u go ahead n ask him how he feels for u.. all the best n always be prepared for the worst...true love is not for weak heart people..

i had similar problem, a woman told me her mother died and she needed money to take care of her sick dad ,and never had a car or phone , nothing lined up . i blocked it and it stoped , do the same .canyon71

Yes you can always see a lawyer for good advice - and its reassuringly expensive. But unless I read your blog wrongly, I dont think there is any legal aspect attached to your 'issue', just one of common sense. And by the age of 49 many people have often acquired some of that.

Dear Alekadeka,

i think you should just take him lightly and be careful in term of sharing any private n personal detail with him.As he shown his down character intentions,so deal him lightly and keep your heart n emotions in your grip.

may be there are other sweet Males you can find here! even 100 times better them him.
Regards and care
Andy

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