The problem with international dating sites
Sooner or later in every relationship comes the question ‘are you prepared to relocate, to leave your family and friends to live in a strange country where you don’t speak the language etc etc ... ?'Are there really ladies out there who would put everything on the line for their new man? It’s a tough one and it’s asking a lot.
I think that this is a question that should be asked right up front, it could save a lot of heartaches later. We're not on this site to chat and make pen pals.
Unfortunately when you ask a lady in your first mail if she is prepared to move to outer Mongolia it might sound a bit presumptious!
Alternatively a profile note ‘within 2 ½ miles of Lesser Baggington’ would be helpful.
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However distance dating ain't easy and I'm trying to find someone who at least lives in Spain now! So if anyone messages me from another country and they seem rather keen I tend to tell them the truth from the off!
Yes 13y ago I made something "crazy": I was 30 and happy but a spark was missing in my life. I put all my things in a container, the container on a boat, I left France, my family, my friends, a good job in a bank,and I crossed the Atlantic ocean and 10 000 km before to marry my Mexican boyfriend, even if I had known already Mexico on holidays.
My marriage lasted 10 years only, but I never never regretted my decision:
I have my home here, a wonderful son, great friends, an interesting job. And I am perfectly fluent in Spanish, of course!
I disagree with: "We're not on this site to chat and make pen pals". Why not??? the point is just being clear in the profile section.
I started a special friendship 8 months ago with a great Irish guy...after the Thierry Henry's handball!!!
Anyway good luck to you all.
Billy it's true Ireland is close, but it is still a flight away and not a driveable. I've already emigrated once and so not unreasonable to do it again, but I like all the romantic tactile mushy stuff and you don't get that with the distance thing!