continued ... arranged marriages ...

In response to:
"so how is it that arranged marriages appear to work is it that the couples involved are scared to walk away or maybe it just simply works"

SMOKY:
After all my explanations... you still want it explained.. .in detail? Okay, now I will tell you a true story.
Once upon a time, in South Africa, I had this friend, a Zulu woman, and she was very unhappy in her marriage to her Zulu husband, because he was having affairs all the time and hardly ever came home at night.
She was so unhappy that her hair turned pre-maturely grey.
I asked her why she doesnt get divorced from him.
She was horrified! She said if she got divorced, she would have to remove herself from the entire family.... the house, the children, all the relatives... and she would enter the world alone, leaving EVERYTHING behind.
These were a fairly modern couple, with a nice european style house, in fact they owned 2 houses, their 3 children attended a good private school, she was the head of an Education Department, and her husband owned his own butcher shop in town.
To stay in the marriage and keep her children, she had to accept whatever her husband did.
Their marriage had been arranged by the two families, and it was un-heard of for one partner to walk away.
If they did, they left in disgrace at not having the strength to stay.... they believed in the "Till death us do part" "for better or worse" part of their vows, and had taken those vows seriously.
Something that us "enlightened" europeans discard without a thought.

In response to:
"so your ans to the ? itake it is no?"

SMOKY:
Cheez.. ! "no" what? Do arranged marriages work? Yes they do cause the couple is so darned scared of the extended family they end up sort of behaving themselves which is all that is needed for the children to have the security of the entire family and no divorces and no fat-cat lawyers schneiying all the money and eventually the husband will get tired of his tarts and will be too old to go jolling around anyway so the couple will just live happily ever after and become the elders of their little tribe. End of story.

(and then the OP goes off at a tangent .....and changes the subject!)
In response to:
"smoky have a look at my profile is there pics there please and let me know please"

SMOKY:
"Hello dear, Yes your pics are all there.. just changed around a bit. Your main photo is the one you dont usually use, the one where you looking all sorrowful and full of the woes of life.
Your full frontal nude oops sorry full frontal face where you lounging in a chair looking all pleased with yourself clad in your stripey jersey with the leather laps on your shoulders and looking like Clint Eastwood is there. And the profile one where you looking all debonair is there. Is that all you wanted to know?"

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