Who Makes the Rules and Why Do We Follow Them

So, a guy lives some 37 years in the world of relationships and pursuit of love and happiness, and he gets to the ripe old age of 53, just in time to figure it all out!? I mean, why does it take so long to get to the place where you think you've got it all cinched up?

In this game of life and love, there are apparently, rules to follow. You'd think we'd have that figured out before leaving high school, but alas, we are flawed and it begs the question...who makes the rules and why do we follow them?

Alright, so I get it. Without a set of generally accepted rules which guide us in this life in the way in which we live it. Those rules include, but aren't limited to,

* You must always communicate.
* You must be open and honest.
* You must disclose the part about yourself that if you had a chance, you'd want to readily forget. For instance, all those past relationship mistakes, and the decline of each of them and why?
* You must never be too forward, nor waste the chance to be spontaneous. There's a real conundrum for ya.
* Never never talk about your ex's although, all disclosure regarding the fact that they exist, exists!
* Never wear a white shirt when you take your intended out to either a Mexican or Italian restaurant.
* No kissing on the first date, unless of course, you are kissed! Then, apparently...it's acceptable.
* Always remember that talking about yourself is only good in
balance with how your intended also reveals themselves
* Chivalry is not dead, if you don't want your date to same.
* You must never text during your date, nor stop to answer that
stupid phone. Dedicate yourself to that moment.

Here's the problem Guys. Men fall in love with their eyes, and a woman...with her ears, thus her heart. These dating rules to survival seem arbitrary until of course, you are dating. Then it all makes sense in only the way love, or the pursuit of it, can make sense.

So, who made the rules, and why do we have to follow them, these listed above and so many more? Well, the rules were made by those who come before us. A veritable plethora of experience! So, why is it human nature to want to break those rules, well, because it's human nature? Most of work to serve ourselves and family, so when it comes to this process we fall apart.

It's not brain surgery and still, we all stumble all over ourselves, trying to live by the infernal rules. It comes to me that best in life usually happens when you least expect it, and that is the truth about our pursuit of love, companionship or email. None of us are immune to the stuff, oh no!

So cowboy up guys. It's time to address the rules in your life, and to show yourself approved. That entails putting in the time to show her that you can treat her like the valuable instrument she is. Open the door for her, pull her chair out for her, look at her in the eyes when she is telling you about her life and remember you must be honestly interested. Keep yourself between she and the street, and always walk her to her door and await her safety. These rules are tried and tested, and not just gimmick to get you from hello to a breakfast goodbye. You get in this world what you put into it.

If there's one thing I know it is this...we were not meant to be alone in this world. For some of us it creates a sense of panic, for others it's more about moving on. It's of course never easy to be the one that is moved on, as result. We are, as a rule, a society of clutchers. The kind of people that seek and latch on to someone who moves us.

Why follow the rules? Because their the rules people, that's why! I know that you can take nothing from that which gives nothing to you. As result, never miss a chance to be thoughtful. Remember guys, they fall in love with their ears.