Your Words vs Your Actions - Part One "Your Words"

Dear Bloggers

The title is self explanatory! Most of us come to places like this to meet interesting people. A large share of those interesting people are seeking a long term or marital relationship to be fostered. Now, I've done this committed love, this marriage thing, before! I doubt that too large of a percentage here would disagree that, at best such relationships are hard work! A future topic may include Wedding Vows and the insignificance they seam to have in so many people, But, it relates to this journal entry.

So, what has happened in our country today that divorce and breakup percentage in all relationships sought by 18 year old's and up, has reached a staggering 70%? I mean, does the intent of the word commitment mean so little to us? If is true that, Love...a great Love, is something rare and beautiful then, it makes sense to pay it it's due. The stats agree, but, we don't need stats really. This is a microwave society that wants all the good stuff, and right now! But, here's the bad news gang. Casual love, the kind which has been committed to, yet, not really heart checked...it is a dangerous thing. The heart you hold becomes your responsibility by default, at the moment when your words promise something your actions or your history suggest you can not deliver.

Many of us use our words to get what we want. What I know about my ability to turn a phrase is this, if you can with your words alone elicit a response from anothers heart, then, yours is a gift. For those missing "Spiderman," here's a thought. "With ultimate power, comes the ordination of ultimate responsibility." For the right person who is considering dating me, if the words are the catalyst to a relationship based upon them, I had better have been accountable for the impact of one trusting me. I once had a "friend" who admitted to having been "with" more than 300 women! I mean, I'm no prude readers, yet I was staggered by that. What emptiness may exist in the heart of one who can not, or will commit? The commitment I'm speaking of is the kind that gets you to the second and tenth dates. Not in the front door on the first.

If there is a greater mis-justice in this world of dating, I do not know what it is. What you say and promise is recorded in the heart of an individual open to love. It becomes a programmable disc played in the heart of the one you tryst!

...Here it is kindergarten like language. If at some point in life you were hurt by it, then, DON'T DO THAT to someone else. Live and learn they say. But, for some of us out there, living and repeating seems to be the task of the day. I've been told that the pure definition of the word, "insanity," is to "repeat the same mistakes over and over again, expecting a different result!" It's not rocket science people.

Do you have an obligation to someone you date, to always speak the truth in an upfront and uttermost way? Well, that's for you to discern. Human nature is to seek out a partner. It works best if you give all of yourself to the quest in the right moment! Failing to do so leaves a lack of concern for another. That other might just feel differently than you do and before you thought about it, they have become that statistic. Be careful with you words. Your promises are even more definitive in committed relationships, so, if you are not careful about what you say, then light shines and what you do. We'll talk about that, in the next segment.

By the way, those notches you think about on belt, well, imagine how they will nourish and share your life with you at the time in your life. The result is wisdom and ability to forewarn anyone who considers the possibility that being alone at a time in life where decades of growth into one another should be the rule, that, if you go this direction you will regret some, if not all your actions in life when they are all you have to keep you warm at night.

Do better!