Living with alcoholic
I'm a good and honest well looking man and I just recently started to live with a nice woman which consumes alcohol every night. She is very much for partying,which I am not since I hardly taste alcohol,and when she goes to dance she arrives next morning. I feel very bad about this and every time I bring up the subject she acuese me of attacking her. I love peace and harmony and all the beautiful in life.What can I do ???
I only wish to be happy in a supportive and loving relationsship.
Please advice me.
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Many thanks,
I'd suggest you offer her your love or alcohol, she can't have both because with alcohol, you cannot be happy. But tell her if she chooses you, you will support her effort to redirect her life (and take better care of her health). And only have this conversation when she is sober and relaxed. Do not raise your voice, speak only lovingly.
Good luck. And take care of yourself.
There is help out there such as AA, councelling and aftercare but its a long hard road fraught with obstacles. Unless you really think its going to be worth a try, the selfish thing to do would be to cut and run before this senario destroys you too.
Your loyal matchmaker,
Bonnie
Hope things will get better, but honestly I'd advice you to save yourself, ending all that.
This is a situation you can grow and learn from. And its not about the love of alcohol. Its just and ascape from something else. 4eva gave a good sugestion i think. Or you can walk away....but I believe that 'God' is so trustworthy that he will give you the same sort of steppingstone that you have asked for just around the next corner. I know this must sound strange but it begins with YOU. Its your gift to grow. Embrace it.The way you exit is the way you enter.
Good luck.
You might be a nice guy , well looking , good and honest.Check your relation : how does start? Did she drank the same the moment you both met? Did she start later ..and why?
What makes her to go there and drink? Why she prefer to do that instead to spend time with you? Does she has more fun there with her friends than to you? Some questions what you have to ask her or yourself.
Is not easy to have someone who loves to drink till she lost her mind but maybe you can help her.Not just for your relation , also for herself.
My mother was an alcoholic as well.And heavy smoker.She used to make bad shows of everything .She did act bad with me the moment was drunk , but the moment was in the coffin I felt enormous mercy and sadness for her.Was young , to young to live this world.And partly because of the bloody bad habbits.