growing up

Some people need to grow up. I don't just mean by acting more mature, I mean all together in all aspects.

I see a lot of people who use others so they do not have to do things for themself, or use them so they don't have to be responsible and do what they want instead of doing what they should and need to. Or, they choose to make a career out of living off of public assistance like welfare, h.e.a.p, metro housing, ect....

I understand that the economy sucks right now, and jobs are hard to come by, I get that. I understand some people have had to move back in with their parents or take on roomates to survive. I understand some need (keyword....need) some form of public assistance while they are getting through hard times and trying to get back on their feet. And then there's those on social security and/or disability, who are retired or who cannot work.

I understand these things, and I felt I needed to clarify before I go any further with this. I know there is tons of people going through hard times during this hard economic time, that would rather not accept any help but are forced to do so to take care of their families and children. These people go out each day searching for work and a way to rid themselves of assistance to provide. These people I feel deserve the help they need to get by. These assistance programs were designed to help someone in a time of need, not as a lifelong form of support.

But then on the flip side of the coin, you have these lazy people who just don't want to do it for themselves. They'd much rather make up lies and excuse why they can't find work, or they find some way to fake a disability so they don't have to. You have these kids coming out of school with no sense of direction or motivation, and stay at home living off of mom and dad. Or there's these 20 somethings or 30 somethings mooching off their folks. And the sad part is the parents either didn't do a good enough job preparing their children for life, or they are just blind to what's going on and continue to enable their kids' mooching ways.

I don't know about everyone else, but I was taught that I had to do things for myself, they will not be handed to me. I have to work hard to get the things I need and want. I was taught that I have to do it on my own because I cannot and should not expect anyone else to take care of me or do it for me. I was taught my needs come before my wants. By doing things on my own for myself, I have a great sense of self worth and accomplishment. I am not rich by any means, but I live I think pretty decent and I have some nice things to show for the hard work I have put in over the years since I have been able to get a job. Obviously not everyone was taught this or being taught this.

I do not look down on those who are on assistance, the ones who are on it for the right reasons that is. I do not think less of them, I know how rough it is because I have seen that side by growing up poor. I am glad I grew up less fortunate, because it showed me I had to put my blood, sweat, and tears into everything in life to get anything out of it, nothing good ever comes easy.