advice from friends

Usually, I am the one being the voice of reason and giving advice to family, friends, co-workers, or acquaintances.

Why it is so easy to do so or why I seem to have people come to me is sometimes bewildering. I know I take a sensible, logical, and realistic approach to things, but I seem to have a grip on situations and know what should be said.

Sometimes it's not always what someone wants to hear, but I will only give my honest opinion.

On the flip side, I usually don't ask for help or advice. Part of it is my hesitation to bother someone else with my dilemmas, and I think the other is my stubborness and pride gets in the way. For the most of it, I go at things on my own, and I am determined that I can find a way without having to reach out.

Now with the dating thing and my search for someone, I've had people put their thoughts out there for me to hear. Some of it does make sense, and some is just nonsense or something I would not do.

Of course I've heard things from the guys such as "I need to just go out and get laid" or" you're not married, so why not go after more than one". Those are not me and never have been. I'm not one for a one night stand, and I am not a player.

I've had some say I should step outside of my "comfort zone" for a change and see what might come along. I've also been told to try going out with a youger or older woman than what age range I am looking for. Then there's ones who have said I should try online dating sites unknownst to them I am already trying that, lol.