Is it possible..

Some Dude,I feel your not alone here,I'm sure you have the ability to communicate with people as you wouldn't have posted your concerns. I'm finding the same situation with some or if not most of the emails that I'm receiving,at first people usually start off with a short sentence.

Then as the emails progress they should be more lengthy and detailed ect,asking questions about one another and starting to get to know one another if there of course is an interest between both of you.

I feel that if there is say for example,five to ten emails from the female/male and they consistently don't hold any conversation with maybe two sentences or what have you each time. I guess it would be time to move on. Some people are shy too,to begin with,but you get a feel for people after the first couple of emails. But I know what you mean,I get frustrated with it too,but there are still plenty to search for that will have good communications skills. Gosh I hope that made sense, and good luck with your search.

Good interesting conversation is a lost art, with texting, and all the other techno programs many have lost the ability to write coherently or even hold a real conversation. I like you have been discussed with the lack of ability to have good conversations. It seams that the vocabulary of todays writer has downgraded to one word sound bites ( OK, Cool, Ur, Cuz , M, Yes, No, etc.).

After a while, You just have to leave them and look for some one who can communicate.

Ooh thak goodness i am not alone.

Exotic, you were as clear as mud

Just kidding, you made your point very clear, and i have to agree with your assessment. it does sometimes become exasperating trying to draw someone out in conversation.

But, we just keep on trying

No, it is not possible, unless you don't mind writing nonsense. Most people write how they spend their days. For example: I got up at ...o'clock, I took a shower at ...o'clock, I went to the toilet at...o'clock, around ...o'clock I took my dog to walk, at...o'clock I worked at my office, at....o'clock I had my lunch............and on and on it goes........boring, isn't it? To have an interesting communication on a site you should share some common interest.

Yes Adamisk, very true...!

adamisk

Yes, indeed. You don't even have to ask them tons of questions, some ignore if you ask them only one question. I sometimes think that they have forms of letters which they just send to everyone, listed: letter No.1, letter No.2.... having no connection with the text previously sent by you.

Dude, I find that after about three or four mails the conversaions will either flourish or degenerate into little or nothing . Meeting for the first few times becomes a feeling out prossess . You have questions as to who you are writing to and they have same . I always answer the questions requested . and pose a few of my own . I also manage to put a little humor and conversation in it also . Once established a reasonable idea of who you are meeting, then you can get more personal . If I get replys to my mails I always reply, but if they stop then I do likewise . What can I say, that is just how it goes . . .. the ( somtimes literate ) tainted troll . . .

@Adamisk, I must admit that if someone sent me a mail with a ton of questions, i probably would ignore most of it. I few questions at a time would be great. Gives the respondee the willingness to answer the questions without feeling like they are being interrogated thereby giving them both a chance to get to know each other. At the same time leaving something for the next mail?

Dude - This is a filter... good communicators will stick with you... will engage you in the conversation... and the words/messages will just flow.

If they are interested in knowing you... messages will happen at any time... no need to take turns... short messages or long ones... and neither of you will worry much about timing.

Two facets ... good communicator and interested in knowing you.

I'm sort of hoping to find someone who is both so when communication stops, that's sort of okay...

Cheers everybody, I appreciate all the advice.