Are your friends enemies your enemies??
Or do you make up your own mind about others yourself?Do you hate,judge and exclude because of what your friend/friends tell you? Or do you judge someone because of your personal experience with them?
Real life situation.
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When my sister and her husband separated she was mad at me for still being friends with him. I had actually known him about 10 years longer than she did.
And don't think I wasn't being supportive of her. She was the cause of the break-up.
I make up my own mind.
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I never like being one of the sheeple myself.Sometimes that means you lose friends though.
What to do? Go with your gut feeling. Don't believe everything you hear. There are two sides to every story. I don't always go by what others say...I find out for myself. You judge for yourself & go from there. If we always go by what others say then we're not being true to ourselves.
I agree judge someone because of your personal experiences with them,not because of what someone is telling you.
I have lost friends over not hating who they hated before and it looks like it may happen again.
I don't know the other lady much.I see her around.She seems nice and well liked,but we have never had bad words with each other and she hasn't done anything to me.
I think friends have to be loyal to each other,but there are limits.Seems like these two ladies are like oil and water.
You have to judge for your self, but if its the case of a third party ie a friends ex partner, that you probably like or have no quarrel with, then at the same time you have to show a bit of loyalty to your friend.. have i explained that any better ? I hope so !
Sorry to hear of the situation.
I would always be polite with someone... unless they can't be polite with me.
I would listen to a friend's reasons to be concerned about someone but I don't like/dislike because someone told me to. (that's immature and controlling)
Thanks for the response.Too many times people will be nice to your face and talk trash about you behind your back.You know they don't like you so anytime you are around them it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Even out of loyalty to a friend I can't do this.
The behind the back stuff... I don't worry about it... if someone tells me about it, I ask that person lots of questions (usually that person has misunderstood something and/or was looking for trouble).
I don't play games though... as people learn this about me, they tend to leave me out of them.
Loyalty - To support a friend should not require an attack (of any kind) on another.