I have a question for the lady,s !!!!
here,s the situration!!..i met a vietnamese lady over five years ago...who asked me for coffee...ok i excepted...now this person lives in another state....form me...i,m fine with that...she spent six months working with me in a kitchen and we got on fine and started seeing more of each other...she often came down to viset her family here so ..we would catch up when she came down..now as time has gone went on i was under the impression that she wanted more from me ...so i started buying expensive gives ..she often ask me for my help ...as well...so on her birthdays i would buy for exsample a handbag...etc...and she would also buy me birthday gives as well..but notto the same exsent....now 5 years later ..after everything that i have done for her she has stop calling me ...return messagers etc...she also has said many times that we are just friends ...i,m fine with that ...as she is very warm and caring person....BUT! am i wrong in thinking ...that she would have known from the expensive gifts that i would think more off THIS situration...am i reading my feelings wrong ...am i to nice ..who,s fault is this ...i,m thinking it,s my fault for buying her attention...but when someone excepts gifts ..what AM I supose to think ...or anyone else...i wont go into to much regarding how much but if i waskeeping TAB lol...it,s well over 10,000..i have a feeling that i no what some of you will write ...what do i get from this situration ...will i learn that perhaps it,s better to not throw all your eggs into one basket...she also tells me that because her culture is so different to mine !!but even as friends i feel she is not making a effort..if you would call it that...i,m thi nking maybe i dont no how to let go of something that i have invested a lot..IN...she said many times that i need to understand her more OK...i try ...5 weeks she did not contact me .over christmas ..would a friend not say merry christmas ?...there is a big part saying in me that!! this is not right ...and feel i have done little wrong ...NOT sure !advice would be appreciated the saying it takes two to tango ...is on my mind now ....but i feel that much of this is ny fault ...thx market
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As for the gifts, I purchase gifts for my friends randomly, without an 'occasion' as an excuse... and they do the same for me. At no point have I ever taken it out of the context of friendship.
...sorry, I don't believe I am much help to you here.
With time you will put this behind you, and make new friends.
I wouldn't worry about how you appear to yourself so no need to beat yourself up over it. Things like this happen all the time. And I would be just as nice to her and everyone because some lady is going to notice that and she's gonna nab you, grab you, and who knows what else!
Just move on and be patient.
DIY yourself a gift.
...and relax.
It just was not your woman.
I promise!
But you do not care for me not to get married...
Popey...
get out of the hole ...
I herbivorous.
i will tell u what u did to her is always there and she is not answering ur call or call u back because she still care about u but try to avoid u,................she is giving new life a shot
Yes, I think Bella just about sums it up. If this girl was sincere she would have discouraged it when you bought her the type of gifts that she was not capable of returning (or not prepared to). When traffic is more in one direction it normally is a good telltale.
Sorry about how you feel, but life goes on. Ms Right will come along soon, I hope.
I had a similar experience last night with someone I started making friends with and I had made clear I am not interested in a relationship with him.
I am polite but straight and some guys just ignore some parts of what I'm saying because it is not what they want to hear and then all I get from them when I tell them: "But I said that before!" is "I didn't think you actually meant that!
Be straight with people and say what you are expecting or hoping for. As with expensive gifts, I can only talk from my point of view, they make me uncomfortable. I would rather not receive anything from someone who isn't a long time friend or partner. I do bring little gifts for friends and their kids and that is something we do from both sides.
Hope you'll find what you're looking for.
Hopefully a meet up to talk will do. Good luck.