iLOVE in the time of algorithms - 5

[ The author tries to seek a suitable solution when stable relationships are hard to find and divorces are norm of the day. His observations and thoughts will be presented in a series of seven blogs as the system doesn't allow to post more than four thousand characters in a single entry. ]

Now - let's dissect happy relationships. What makes them successful and sustainable?

People have become disposable, lazy, and delusional. Most are ready to flee at the drop of a hat. But, essentially, the most successful couples are those who are ready to live with each other's imperfections. A fine line has to be drawn. It's always advisable to leave an abusive, quarrelsome, or an alcoholic partner who doesn't want to change. It's an arrogant individualism when you decide to leave your spouse as he promised but couldn't afford to take you to the much awaited dream vacation in masai mara. Adjustment is wise, compromise isn't. The key is not to search for the mister or miss right, the idea is to make yourself closer to perfection, by learning from your mistakes in past relationships - the way all artificially intelligent systems evolve in real-time situations. How close? A remedial course in limit and continuity would suffice i guess. And at least four credits in behavioral psychology ( with lotsa stress in reverse psychology detection ) to begin with, to heard the unheard and see the unseen, as most of the time what you see is not what you get in dating - caveat emptor! Long term dating is a serious business, to be armed with SWOT analyses, and you still think they mean chocolates and roses?! In order to save yourself from being manipulated, you really really need to know your weaknesses that can be exploited. And to be an ambidextrous artist who knows how to separate truth from lies, you're required to learn the science of body language. Guys, don't just get fixated on her curves, don't miss the wood for trees. For the sake of greater good, i won't be writing a foot note that says trees don't rhyme well with wood, 'cause you're already fixated-thus-know-what-does! Keep calm and let's not make a B-ig fuss about author's selective amnesia. And trust me, it's just the respectful acknowledgement that girls become emotionally mature sooner than boys, that prevented me from offering any advice that they already know by now. Inherited from their mothers or taught by own instincts, there'd be hardly any female who doesn't know the time-tested trick of postponing the first intercourse - to aptly differentiate between the serious gene propagators and the shoot-at-sight ( pun very much intended ) type casual window shoppers. period.

It's not love marriage, nor an arranged one, the need of the hour is iLOVE and what's that? None other than our proverbial linux. Or it's like, let's say in SDLC lingo, discarding both the waterfall and spiral paradigms in favor of the agile model.

Now - what on Earth's iLOVE? Intelligent love ie love laced with emotional intelligence. MRI scans have proven that human brain takes twenty five years to mature. In other words, realistic love will only bloom not before twenty five springs have passed, and will emerge with a seemingly infinite expiry date - be rest assured.

( The prophecy of iLOVE will be revealed in the next entry. )