Still Single
Recently, I had a group chitchat with my high school and college friends via facebook. And I noticed that they all have one common question for me. Not quite the exact words, but all implies to: "Are you still single?" They give advice like: "don't be too cold" and "be a little more open" and "be nicer" and "just try, nothing wrong with trying blah blah" etc. And just this morning, 2 co-workers trapped me with almost similar topic, this time, "why are you single?" They have almost the same things to say with my old friends, telling me to be more open to guys, be nicer to them, entertain new people for friendships for one of them might be the one for me. They even checked their phonebooks to search for a possible match. And ask their male friends of their other male friends that are single. Seriously? They're more concerned of me having a lovelife than I, myself. If it were possible, they'd surely have me go on a blind date every week.They say life is better when you have one person you can share everything to. Because they say, they noticed that I don't talk too much of personal problems and feelings to them, that I might open up to a boyfriend. That real life friends and blogging, and chatting won't be enough. I understand their concern and appreciate that they want to look after me, since I'm one of the youngests here. But they make me sound desperate and frustrated. I don't need someone else to take care of things that I lack for me. I recognize that I don't have the love life but that doesn't mean that my life is less joyful of less satisfying. When I feel the need, I'll get it for myself. I don't want to sound ungrateful, but really, I can and will take care of myself.
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The same issues that happened to me
I just keep smiling and told them I enjoy my life eventhough I am single
I do that, and they'd say, "you know, life is different with a guy around.. Even just for the romantic moments." Whatever I say, they'd always have rebuttals.
Don't let them rush you. As KN said, it'll happen when the right time comes.
Don't let them rush you. As KN said, it'll happen when the right time comes.
I bet you can be madly in love
Madly in love what?!
forget what people say. do what you think is right for you... my suggestion.
Rather alone than be with a wrong person.
too much "concerned" stuff... i would not think too much about it !
Maybe I'm too easy
But they don’t really want you to answer that question, and you don’t answer to have to answer it, unless Shakespearian monologues on the subject are allowed.
One person cannot complete you. The only person who completes you is you. so enjoy your life and forget "concerns"
i think i don't need to give them a perfect answer, only have a perfect answer for myself
Keep thinking on your friends positively like you appreciate their attention because you're the youngest. Keep good advice and forget the annoying ones from them. Keep enjoying what you have got and what you do now.
I personally understand that nowadays women in your age want to do and to see a lot of things before taking a serious commitment to live with someone else for life. Enjoy your communication and relationship with your family back home, enjoy your job, enjoy your friendships: enjoy your life!