is it great to marry a somebody with kids?
is it good or not to marry someone with kid ?some men who contacted me, had kids. n thats made me scared. mayb u think that its bcos of mayb in the future it could made me in trouble at money problem when devorced or when my husband died. no, its not bcoz of that.
i hv sist with one daughter, she got married again. though her new husband i a very good man, but smtimes my niece still assumed that the one who bcame her father is only step father n he cant love her so that much, though he always threath her well, she still jealous with her new baby brother.
she always said that her mom n dad didnt love her, n sometimes she made some trouble to took attention from her parents.
i really dont know how to accept the guy with kids after i saw what happened with my sist's family, as sometimes, that happened in front of my eyes n i heard from my sist's stories. i think thats scary.
IF i take someone without kid, its also cant give me any guarantee that i will hv a happy live with him.
im confused. pls anyone outside there, pls help me to open my mind. thx before
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You cant be the mother, the father or even the friend. But if you work hard, you can become the person who taught them tolerance, and understanding. If you are interested in someone with children, it is best to have this discussion with them.
Find the reason you want to be with this person. Its not for the children, but ultimately, it is them that you will be with also.
I have seen extreme cases were, some divorced parents when exchanging their children have no consideration for their children's well being and spend allot of time using them to get back at the opposite parent. They also spend allot of time poisoning their children's minds about the opposition parent. These people have no business having children at all. Look for these extreme signs.
If your unsure, don't do it.