how would i say
I have a friend of mine. We have our relationship almost 1 year
,... We have ever talked about married, butwe have no decision about yet,...
we always keep in touch by phone because we live in different place, ... but i m very reluctant to ask about married for him, when i want to talk about it, i feel bad but i dunno how to begin talking about it 
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if yes so, why you feel reluctant to talk abt next step seriously with him?
if you meet him from here, dating site, I guess from beginning you should know his purpose join the site, whether marriage or just dating. even though you have ever talk abt married, if only dating, I think not necessary to ask abt that again... let him start to talk, so that he will not feel that you are pushing him.
but if his purpose marriage, you can start anytime...
by the way.. have you met him face to face?
there is no point talking abt marriage if have not met him in real life...
that is imo...
"(His name), we have been in a relationship for a year. We have talked about marriage. I am ready and I need to know if you are!"
If he says he's not ready or if he says to let him think about then he's probably not ready. I would then move on and wait for someone who is.
Yes, he could realise that Sirait is fishing for a marriage proposal in a subtle way (really?), or he could think she's trying to get rid of him in a subtle, non-confrontational, less hurtful way (highly likely).
If it's not culturally, or socially appropriate for Sirait to ask about marriage then just asking him what he wants is perhaps the next best straight-forward communication.
Playing games is a gamble. She could lose all her chips over a misunderstanding.
hopefuly you get the best, Sirait.