It is better to have loved and lost than never had

It is better to have loved and lost than never
had loved at all.

I don’t know about this. I have known people who early in their adulthood have been severely heartbroken. The pain of loss definitely changed who they were and how they saw life. I think having never loved at all at some point, also starts to feel like an unusual form of being rejected and heartbroken.

But I don’t necessarily think that one form of heartbreak is greater than the other. Being vulnerable with someone in a romantic love that you invested your time, your future, and your life in, and having that all thrown back in your face is a devastating experience. when you’ve never loved at all, you can’t claim to know what this feels like. Perhaps, your pain is that from where you’re standing, it seems no one will even give you the chance to invest your life with them.

Loss is painful, having never had, is also painful but I speak from experience when I say, you can’t miss something you’ve never had. love pains aren’t better or worse than each other; they’re just different... #Jt

Comments (4)

wallops1964●Wakefield, West Yorkshire, England UK

Jun 7, 2015●24 Blogs●2,327 Comments

The deeper and stronger your love and time spent together and love shared = the same depth of heartache. You cannot escape the pain. Is it worth it? For me that would be yes!! For all the joys and treasured times together a very resounding YES!

nonsmoker●Waterford, Ireland

Jun 7, 2015●282 Blogs●8,720 Comments

JJTau143,

Carpe deium.

I would think that the problem is not with falling in love or the heart ache of falling out of it,
Perhaps the resolution lies in the moving on to new loves.
live for the day. be happy now. look to tomorrow. And fear not losing love again lest you hold it so tight it will suffocate.