Dating at 50
Dating at 50 is rough. It is sure not like it was in my younger years. People are harder to get along with and please. People do not want to compromise. Most of us at 50 or older have been married and had kids and are set in our ways til it makes it harder to compromise. I am just looking for a good man to share and enjoy all the little things life has to offer. Life is short and I just want to live life being loved and loving someone. Would love to hear your stories.
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It is really an interesting Blog to me ,I tried to write u an email but couldn't due to your setting , To be Honest Venessa ,there are different type of people with different attitude ,Point of views and natures , we rarely meet our Match , sometimes we have to be patience and sometimes we have to listen others and we try to compromise
You are absolutely right that Life is short ,and it should be full of love and happiness
I know what i want now, and don't date just because they ask me out
Second you might be right to feel that way, I mean more difficult to date as we grow older.
I've not truly experience dating for the sake of dating. I'm very exacting in my choice and I don't deliberately make myself open to any dates. When love finds me and can't resist then I'm in a relationship. That's after weighing and factoring all my options. So far I've had two from this site. One lasted over two unforgettable years and I'm in the fourth year of a very exciting and interesting one.
All in all, this site works and I'm grateful.
Good luck in your search.
But to your question i found it easeir at 50 than now 70
Good luck in your searching but keep coming to blogs and commenting it passes the time whilst you looking for that one time love
You are absolutely RIGHT, is rough and demands more honesty (with yourself and others) than before, why? simple, we don´t have as much time to amend our mistakes, we are tired, experienced (best & worst), we are full of chains (kids, a house nearly-full paid/or any, our neighborhood with our friends we don´t want to miss, blah blah blah) and besides that ....men prefer young women, but he, he, he, its still a market, as it always has been.
You are looking for a good man, ok! I have news: a lot of women too, most men are looking for a good woman themselves, some of them (at least) ....there is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs, before you ask what you want I would suggest be clear about what you have to offer, I have so many "mantras" for myself, this is one of them:
Treat me right and I´ll treat you better. "Show me your money (metaphorically speaking) I´ll show you mine, and we´ll see.
Being 50 is a perfect age to be honest, with everyone, with life.
Welcome to CS. It´s not gold everything you see, but could be a right place for you.
My Best wishes, may the odds play in your favor.
Note: Nice pic and nice profile.....you didn´t need my words
all they want is to get rid of their student-loan, they want no kids
but who can blame them. life is what it is.
Short term marriage-still sounds better than dating
It very much is a case of having to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince/Princess, however, sadly, in most instances the "one" is never found.
Likewise, it is not a case of having to compromise, if you have to compromise you are not equal in the relationship and eventually all will end in tears.
The key to success is in finding a person of similar character that walks the same path and sees the future as you do. The drawbacks of course are numerous. For example, you may find that this person is not physically your imagined ideal, or, has exactly the same values, however, over time as the relationship matures you will find the shared common goal is what is ultimately important in the relationship along with the ability to "grow" in tandem
That said, relationships are not a walk in the park, each needs to pull their weight when it comes to maintaining the status quo and remind themselves regularly to appreciate the things their partner does for them whilst continuing to enjoy doing things that they know their partner likes (if that makes sense)
As a point of note, took me 59 years to find my "one"