What's in a name anyway?
It's mind boggling how much weight is put into the word 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend'.Take me, for example. In theory I have a 'boyfriend'. I say this because a nice guy that I had gone on a few dates with was pushing for us to be 'dating' and 'boyfriend/girlfriend.' I didn't want to agree to it then and I'm still of the same mindset now but for whatever reason I said okay.
I also said that I was an extremely busy person and wouldn't have time to see him a lot. He told me he would wind up being busier that me once the semester started. Fine. Okay.
In the last two weeks (almost) I have seen him for an hour and a half. He texted me once, and I called him once. That's it. And yet, when I go about my daily life I feel weighted down by this title that I don't honestly believe I fit. We've labled ourselves, and thus must modify our daily actions to account for it, and we hardly even speak to each other!
And busy is busy, sure. But he still finds time to hang out with his friend and I find time to hang out with mine...yet we can't find time to see each other...we're too busy.
I want this lable to dissapear. It is totally inapropriate for our situation and doesn't really apply. I just need to figure out how to bring it up in a way that makes him realize that I still think he's a great guy...I just don't want to be someone's gilfriend when I never see them.
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What if someone you really liked and wanted to pursue on a romantic level came along? You make time for your friends, you will make time for a real romantic interest in the same way, so why add another entry to your "to do list" by having to explain to someone else later, that you both are not really girlfriend/boyfriend material? JMHO!!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do!!
So don't beat around the bush, get him on the phone or talk to him in person and find the level you two can enjoy being on, whether its good friends or dating each other, perhaps just being good friends is a good start if you don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with him. At least you can get to still know him and who knows where it can go from there, at least you are still friends then and on the same level of communication.