TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE??? ( Archived) (18)

Let me outline something here..and get your input on this...

What if you met someone on line...long distance..you talk by messages and phone calls for 6 months...you send pictures back and forth..and everything seems on the up and up...but to be sure you have someone check his background for you...and its all legit...and you do a search on his "name" and find that he is only connected to the one site...seems too good to be true right???...

Here's the clincher...your email messages from him are very very vague. He answers all your questions..but in only one or two words for the most part, and does not offer up any more info than is necessary to answer you...though on the phone he is willing to talk more...He insists he loves you and wants to be with you, but at the moment is unable to take leave of his job (he is a high-ranking officer in the US Navy - which was also one of the things confirmed) so that he can be with you...but promises as soon as he is free to leave ship he will come....

What would you make of this whole situation?

Gigantic red flag. If it is too good to be true then it probably isn't true. I don't want to see you get hurt. You gut instinct is telling you something. Listen to it.

I would say the reason for the short direct answers could be because; he is military. That is part of your development as a soldier. Availability is also at the military's descretion. I wouldn't go head over heels until You have spent a lot of time in person.

The same happened with me.

I have a cousin who never says more than necessary in emails. It's no fun talking with him unless you need an answer to a specific question. He doesn't talk much more in person. But one thing for sure is that he's honest as can be.

My mother always told me that his mother said that she wished he would talk more because he never tells her anything about how things are going. So maybe that's a bad sign if you like the kind of man who can communicate.

On the other hand, if you like the quiet type he might be for you. But what's the problem. Just wait and see how things pan out. Why do women always have to have a crystal ball into the future? I mean, I wouldn't mind having one too, but let's get real. They just don't exist.

I personally wouldn't get too excite about anyone who claimed to be in love with me before they ever even met me in person. That's absurd as far as I'm concerned. About the best they can possible say realistically is that they everything they know about me so far. People who claim that chemistry doesn't matter are really just kidding themselves. It does matter, and if they are lucky the chemistry will be there. But there's absolutely no way anyone can tell before they meet. If they meet and things work out they were just lucky that's all.

I don't say a lot in emails. I talked to a friend tonight on the phone and I couldn't shut up. I have had family members in the military also, they can't just take leave whenever they want. If these are the only things bothering you I wouldn't make too much of it, but maybe your gut is telling something else is not right. Or else you are just scared because of past disappointments? After a few, you start to expect it, I've been there.

Ive been there,but while it lasted it was the greatest! I guess you have to enjoy the dance while it lasts.

wikked you have never met the man.....but he claims to LOVE YOU.....thats just a little....just a little....INSANE....

no need to thank me.....its my pleasure....

he's in love with the image you painted and the one he is building.....




very dangerous


we call it being infatuated with the movie...


no offense honestly...but no one can stay on that pedestal

it's a guaranteed crash and burn


please be careful


peace





alex