Long Distance Relationships.. Are YOU willing to move? (66)
Polarbutterfly: "I met someone who lives 600 miles away from me.
To me,it's not considered a LDR.However,let me say
that it has indeed been very hard not to be able to
be together on a more full time basis.We're now in
the plans of moving me and my family to where he lives."
To me,it's not considered a LDR.However,let me say
that it has indeed been very hard not to be able to
be together on a more full time basis.We're now in
the plans of moving me and my family to where he lives."
Thread stealing bragger....
*just teasing* Congradulations on finding someone and I do very much hope the move goes smoothly and occurs soon for you all, may it be an example of what we all hope for.
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Vulpine: Seriously though,
I've tried it. I met a fabulous girl from Minnesota on another site over a year ago. As I'm a single father of my little eight year old son, there was no way I could relocate to try it out, though I would have loved to as there was a lot more to tempt me going there than for her to come here for. (Besides fantastic me of course... )
So.... She bravely picked up her things, and came and lived here for over six months. The chemistry was FANTASTIC on paper, FANTASTIC over the phone, and... em, good in person. Very good in some ways, and utterly terrible in other ways that we could not have foreseen on 'paper' or on the phone. Though the list of shared beliefs was just fantastic, communication and character clashes weren't...
Added to the fact that in her case she was a complete home-body, and LOVED her family to bits, and had a huge circle of friends who she just missed terribly.
We never had to chance to do the whole 'dating' thing - you know ladies, where ye go away and do yourselves up all gorgeously and THEN show up. With an LDR, you're more or less THRUST into living with the other... worth bearing in mind too, for better or for worse here.
The cold-damp Irish climate really got her down as well (apparently much colder than the dry-damp Minnesotan/Canadian climate), and between the jigs and the reels... it VERY sadly, was not to be... I still harbour HUGE regret to this day, as she is an extremely good, caring and special person.
There are just SOOOOOOOO many many factors involved in a move though. Cultural changes being one of them too. She couldn't understand the easy, laid back, lack of punctuality-style Irish culture. There wasn't enough accoutrements/accessories/facilities here, which she found hard to adjust to (and NO Petal, it's not JUST a Mallow thing!!), the cost of living just blew her away...
I guess, there really wasn't enough with the two of us though... when ALL'S said and done. Love CAN move mountains.
So...
What's my conclusion??
If it looks REALLY REALLY special, and ONLY if it IS, REALLY REALLY SPECIAL, then... one should try... Petal's right, life is short.
But I'd DEFINITELY recommend extended visits living with the person to begin with though. It's the only way you'll REALLY know.
Hope this is of help to somebody, anybody!!
I've tried it. I met a fabulous girl from Minnesota on another site over a year ago. As I'm a single father of my little eight year old son, there was no way I could relocate to try it out, though I would have loved to as there was a lot more to tempt me going there than for her to come here for. (Besides fantastic me of course... )
So.... She bravely picked up her things, and came and lived here for over six months. The chemistry was FANTASTIC on paper, FANTASTIC over the phone, and... em, good in person. Very good in some ways, and utterly terrible in other ways that we could not have foreseen on 'paper' or on the phone. Though the list of shared beliefs was just fantastic, communication and character clashes weren't...
Added to the fact that in her case she was a complete home-body, and LOVED her family to bits, and had a huge circle of friends who she just missed terribly.
We never had to chance to do the whole 'dating' thing - you know ladies, where ye go away and do yourselves up all gorgeously and THEN show up. With an LDR, you're more or less THRUST into living with the other... worth bearing in mind too, for better or for worse here.
The cold-damp Irish climate really got her down as well (apparently much colder than the dry-damp Minnesotan/Canadian climate), and between the jigs and the reels... it VERY sadly, was not to be... I still harbour HUGE regret to this day, as she is an extremely good, caring and special person.
There are just SOOOOOOOO many many factors involved in a move though. Cultural changes being one of them too. She couldn't understand the easy, laid back, lack of punctuality-style Irish culture. There wasn't enough accoutrements/accessories/facilities here, which she found hard to adjust to (and NO Petal, it's not JUST a Mallow thing!!), the cost of living just blew her away...
I guess, there really wasn't enough with the two of us though... when ALL'S said and done. Love CAN move mountains.
So...
What's my conclusion??
If it looks REALLY REALLY special, and ONLY if it IS, REALLY REALLY SPECIAL, then... one should try... Petal's right, life is short.
But I'd DEFINITELY recommend extended visits living with the person to begin with though. It's the only way you'll REALLY know.
Hope this is of help to somebody, anybody!!
Good Lord, youre obviously not watching the rugby...
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Shedman01: Thread stealing bragger....
*just teasing* Congradulations on finding someone and I do very much hope the move goes smoothly and occurs soon for you all, may it be an example of what we all hope for.
*just teasing* Congradulations on finding someone and I do very much hope the move goes smoothly and occurs soon for you all, may it be an example of what we all hope for.
"Thank you.I don't mean for it to be taken the wrong way.
I've never portray myself as an egotist.C.S. members,
please know this...".
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What rugby?? (I wish they had a 'ducking and dodging under a stone smiley for here!!)
Alright, I know I'm a stranger, but I can't just go hijacking NeWildflower's thread to explain. You're just going to have to take in your place in line with all the other girls who want to date me.
Can't be showing ANY favouritism!!!
(As an aside... I know the photo doesn't change, but may I say you're looking as gorgeous as ever, IF a little grumpy though?!)
Alright, I know I'm a stranger, but I can't just go hijacking NeWildflower's thread to explain. You're just going to have to take in your place in line with all the other girls who want to date me.
Can't be showing ANY favouritism!!!
(As an aside... I know the photo doesn't change, but may I say you're looking as gorgeous as ever, IF a little grumpy though?!)
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Vulpine: What rugby?? (I wish they had a 'ducking and dodging under a stone smiley for here!!)
Alright, I know I'm a stranger, but I can't just go hijacking NeWildflower's thread to explain. You're just going to have to take in your place in line with all the other girls who want to date me.
Can't be showing ANY favouritism!!!
(As an aside... I know the photo doesn't change, but may I say you're looking as gorgeous as ever, IF a little grumpy though?!)
Alright, I know I'm a stranger, but I can't just go hijacking NeWildflower's thread to explain. You're just going to have to take in your place in line with all the other girls who want to date me.
Can't be showing ANY favouritism!!!
(As an aside... I know the photo doesn't change, but may I say you're looking as gorgeous as ever, IF a little grumpy though?!)
Grumpy????
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I would be open to it..Provided I was sure of our love for one another...we had spent a lot of time together...and that I could secure a decent job....It's not something I would do on the spur of the moment that's for sure...It would take an awful lot of getting to know each other first in RL that is....
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I am not sure how far I could relocate at this point as I have a ten year old, who lives with his Mom and I already do not see him often enough. (I'd love to everyday....)
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I wouldn't relocate, my daughter has another year of school and i sure hope college and my son is with his mother but she has abandoned the mother role and has moved more towards finding her own happiness. (Hell, she didn't see either child on Christmas day!! and my son lives with her).
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the question should be.... would you really trust the other person in the long distance relationship
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lostbabygirl2008: the question should be.... would you really trust the other person in the long distance relationship
In all relationships whether they be around the corner or around the world you must have trust in order for it to work. If there is any doubts you shouldn't be in the relationship.
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Big_John: In all relationships whether they be around the corner or around the world you must have trust in order for it to work. If there is any doubts you shouldn't be in the relationship.
Exactly..
Doesnt matter how far away, or how close you are, if youre gonna cheat, youre gonna cheat..
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Big_John: In all relationships whether they be around the corner or around the world you must have trust in order for it to work. If there is any doubts you shouldn't be in the relationship.
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Big_John: In all relationships whether they be around the corner or around the world you must have trust in order for it to work. If there is any doubts you shouldn't be in the relationship.
you must be reallllly old cause your so wise....
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then why is it that guys have a hard time dating a military girl
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petalbabe: Grumpy????
Nah just teasing!
Well there you have it NeWildflower! I think you've had a good mixture and balance of answers. Does it answer your questions?
Have you met somebody who's living a million miles away who you're thinking of?
(And don't say me, (or that other langar from Galway) 'cos you'll have to just join the queue like Petal.
)Oh GOD, I'm so funny
It's probably the heart tablets... OR the position of the moon 
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petalbabe: Exactly..
Doesnt matter how far away, or how close you are, if youre gonna cheat, youre gonna cheat..
Doesnt matter how far away, or how close you are, if youre gonna cheat, youre gonna cheat..
One thought though: It isn't cheating if you aren't in a relationship. It is just great!
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lostbabygirl2008: then why is it that guys have a hard time dating a military girl
It could be cause your still young and therefore with or dating young men and it is a bit differant when your young. Not bad but differant is all. 
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lostbabygirl2008: then why is it that guys have a hard time dating a military girl
Didnt you post a thread about this yesterday?
I guess its because you are not just dealing with the LDR thing, its also the moving around business. Your partner cant focus on one location in their mind. In a general LDR, at least you can visualise that place where your partner lives, and make a connection.
Im sorry you find it so difficult, lostbabygirl, and wish you luck..
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NeWildflower: I know there are some of us who aren't interested in pursuing relationships that would be considered long distance, but many of us are. Maybe it's been discussed to death on these forums, but since I'm a new kid, I'd love to hear others' opinions on this issue.
If you are open to long distance relationships, are you willing to move to be with the right person?
Do you think it's fair to be open to LDRs but NOT be willing to move for whatever reason?
What are your thoughts?
If you are open to long distance relationships, are you willing to move to be with the right person?
Do you think it's fair to be open to LDRs but NOT be willing to move for whatever reason?
What are your thoughts?
I wouldnt pass up an opportunity for someone so special. Distance can be a hurdle, but I believe one that can be made,,mutually. Not a foolish leap of faith,,but a well designed plan
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I've tried it. I met a fabulous girl from Minnesota on another site over a year ago. As I'm a single father of my little eight year old son, there was no way I could relocate to try it out, though I would have loved to as there was a lot more to tempt me going there than for her to come here for. (Besides fantastic me of course...
So.... She bravely picked up her things, and came and lived here for over six months. The chemistry was FANTASTIC on paper, FANTASTIC over the phone, and... em, good in person. Very good in some ways, and utterly terrible in other ways that we could not have foreseen on 'paper' or on the phone. Though the list of shared beliefs was just fantastic, communication and character clashes weren't...
Added to the fact that in her case she was a complete home-body, and LOVED her family to bits, and had a huge circle of friends who she just missed terribly.
We never had to chance to do the whole 'dating' thing - you know ladies, where ye go away and do yourselves up all gorgeously and THEN show up. With an LDR, you're more or less THRUST into living with the other... worth bearing in mind too, for better or for worse here.
The cold-damp Irish climate really got her down as well (apparently much colder than the dry-damp Minnesotan/Canadian climate), and between the jigs and the reels... it VERY sadly, was not to be... I still harbour HUGE regret to this day, as she is an extremely good, caring and special person.
There are just SOOOOOOOO many many factors involved in a move though. Cultural changes being one of them too. She couldn't understand the easy, laid back, lack of punctuality-style Irish culture. There wasn't enough accoutrements/accessories/facilities here, which she found hard to adjust to (and NO Petal, it's not JUST a Mallow thing!!), the cost of living just blew her away...
I guess, there really wasn't enough with the two of us though... when ALL'S said and done. Love CAN move mountains.
So...
What's my conclusion??
If it looks REALLY REALLY special, and ONLY if it IS, REALLY REALLY SPECIAL, then... one should try... Petal's right, life is short.
But I'd DEFINITELY recommend extended visits living with the person to begin with though. It's the only way you'll REALLY know.
Hope this is of help to somebody, anybody!!