tainogirl: Its a bit of a challenge to match people up if you don't know some of them very well.
This goes back to my point that if you never take a chance and start making friends, you won't ever meet anyone. No one is going to come knocking on your door without getting to know you. If they do that falls under the guidelines of psycho.
tainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago3,777 posts
Paradox67: This goes back to my point that if you never take a chance and start making friends, you won't ever meet anyone. No one is going to come knocking on your door without getting to know you. If they do that falls under the guidelines of psycho.
I agree but I was talking about matching people up from a matchmaking point of view.
Does this website have any baring on your life other than coming in here to talk to people and chat?
These are the real questions you should be worrying about.
If anyone puts all their faith in a website delivering them the life they dream of then they maybe waiting forever, obviously.
Statistically some people will click, as it's the law of averages!!
I think that is the point Robbie, why people are here and what there expectation is.
If someone is seriously expecting to find a partner for a full blown relationship, distance is a huge issues eventually one of you would have to re locate and that's a huge decision. If they are looking for a flirtaeous pen pale relationship, then i can see it may work. JMO
Does this website have any baring on your life other than coming in here to talk to people and chat?
These are the real questions you should be worrying about.
If anyone puts all their faith in a website delivering them the life they dream of then they maybe waiting forever, obviously.
Statistically some people will click, as it's the law of averages!!
I agree. It is up to us to explore and attempt to go beyond chatting on the site if we are truly interested in more. What's the worse that can happen? Someone does not respond or declines? (Hopefully politely.) That's life. I've been on a few dates that never went to the second date. I don't regret it. I found the answer I was looking for. The truth.
RobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK4,553 posts
morgan5: I think that is the point Robbie, why people are here and what there expectation is.If someone is seriously expecting to find a partner for a full blown relationship, distance is a huge issues eventually one of you would have to re locate and that's a huge decision. If they are looking for a flirtaeous pen pale relationship, then i can see it may work. JMO
Peoples expectations clearly vary! To me it's a website where i say hello and pas the time when am not doing anything else!
For instance, when i am in Malta you won't ever see me on the forums, i'll be spending my time doing something else.
I see this a a website, and i have met some interesting people through the site some who i call friends now.
Statistically some people will meet on here and other places as well, but the majority of relationships are founded in the real world.
Think of this site is the opportunity to say hello at a party, and then after the party you follow up your interst in someone you spoke to briefly at the party!
So think of this as the "Hi" and then make your efforts to meet someone on the site if you so called inclined to do so!
Robbie, I think some very good points being made and even through humor, a story is being told.
I'm going to potentially throw myself under the bus with a question.
How many women would meet me if I offered to travel?
I'm doing this to demonstrate something and I'm not offended by honest answers. I know I'm not the best looking guy and I'm not looking for women to give answers that won't hurt my feelings. I want honest answers with the understanding that this is not a real meet. This is just to make a point.
RobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK4,553 posts
Paradox67: I agree. It is up to us to explore and attempt to go beyond chatting on the site if we are truly interested in more. What's the worse that can happen? Someone does not respond or declines? (Hopefully politely.) That's life. I've been on a few dates that never went to the second date. I don't regret it. I found the answer I was looking for. The truth.
Paradox67: Robbie, I think some very good points being made and even through humor, a story is being told.
I'm going to potentially throw myself under the bus with a question.
How many women would meet me if I offered to travel?
I'm doing this to demonstrate something and I'm not offended by honest answers. I know I'm not the best looking guy and I'm not looking for women to give answers that won't hurt my feelings. I want honest answers with the understanding that this is not a real meet. This is just to make a point.
It's 'give and take' - I used to travel to meet lovely ladies and they, of course, would travel to meet me.
RobbieM: Peoples expectations clearly vary! To me it's a website where i say hello and pas the time when am not doing anything else!
For instance, when i am in Malta you won't ever see me on the forums, i'll be spending my time doing something else.
I see this a a website, and i have met some interesting people through the site some who i call friends now.
Statistically some people will meet on here and other places as well, but the majority of relationships are founded in the real world.
Think of this site is the opportunity to say hello at a party, and then after the party you follow up your interst in someone you spoke to briefly at the party!
So think of this as the "Hi" and then make your efforts to meet someone on the site if you so called inclined to do so!
I agree, to me it's part of my social network when i'm home and i enjoy the interaction.
Have made friends and met some people in real life, which was great
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