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It's so good to see that for so many the convalescence is coming to an end and the heart shutters are opening up again. Time does it's magic I supose. I'm not that far behind you folks I think, and CS has helped greatly, to see others going through the same emotions, doubts, fears etc but turning towards hopes and dreams again.
Cheers CS
( and NO I'm not brown nosing the moderators
Cheers CS
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i was married for 20+ years & when i first divorced i said no more marriage....but if i found the right person....someone who would be by my side sharing & enjoying life together....build a relationship of beautiful memories....we wouldn't have to get married, but we would.....no guarantees, though i like the
symbolism of us belonging to each other too....
symbolism of us belonging to each other too....
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I have been married... kinda reconsidered doing it all again, a lil' while ago... But NAH Deffo not something I would do ever again. Quite happy being a Ms
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Nope I just don't feel the need for marriage, nor do I want to walk down the aisle again.
I am happy living a couple. I don't believe a ring and certificate bind my relationship.
I am happy living a couple. I don't believe a ring and certificate bind my relationship.
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SummerUK: Hey I'm not putting myself down I have tons of self esteem
I'm just being honest lol
I am in sales and pretty good at it...Just honest haha!Slimeballs!!!! yep Absolutely lol
Yeah J lo's bum is fab
I'm just being honest lol
I am in sales and pretty good at it...Just honest haha!Slimeballs!!!! yep Absolutely lol
Yeah J lo's bum is fab
OK babe well I've seen and had better than hers you've already said you have feelings for your own kind hope your doing a good job and earning loads it doesn't always pay to be too honest
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druidess6308: Hmmm...I disagree with you here, Gemini. I was divorced 3 times before I met my late husband, and we were never going to get legally married. He'd never been married at age 50 when I met him. He got very obviously sick and I had great medical benefits, so we got married to get him on those so he could get to the doctor and get treated. By then, we already knew our lives were entwined enough financially that it didn't make a difference that way.
Sadly, what he got diagnosed with was Stage IV laryngeal cancer...terminal, though we were told at the time he had a slim chance for survival. Eight months later, he died. With all that we went through, I have no regrets that we made that decision. I had rights as his wife that I wouldn't have as his girlfriend, and it was easier on me afterward as his widow, too.
Would I marry again? If I found the right man, yes. I didn't think I would until a short time ago...I had something happen to make me realize that I'm still a romantic, and still a believer in marriage. I don't need that piece of paper to show my commitment, nor my love...but it does still provide some sense of security to be a wife rather than a girlfriend. A coziness...to be able to say, "this is my husband" still resonates in me as a need someday.
Sadly, what he got diagnosed with was Stage IV laryngeal cancer...terminal, though we were told at the time he had a slim chance for survival. Eight months later, he died. With all that we went through, I have no regrets that we made that decision. I had rights as his wife that I wouldn't have as his girlfriend, and it was easier on me afterward as his widow, too.
Would I marry again? If I found the right man, yes. I didn't think I would until a short time ago...I had something happen to make me realize that I'm still a romantic, and still a believer in marriage. I don't need that piece of paper to show my commitment, nor my love...but it does still provide some sense of security to be a wife rather than a girlfriend. A coziness...to be able to say, "this is my husband" still resonates in me as a need someday.
Dru my friend which bit was you disagreeing to?Confused.com
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RobbieM: Let's say if i stayed single, i would have been a wealthy man, but what with dual responsibilities, drama, people going off the rails, parents dying at the same time and having to deal with legal matters to defend my own father against my own sister, you could say that i didn't stand a chance.
Thus now involved in another legal case this time with my sister contesting my fathers will, my kid being taken to Canada and i suspect i may never see him again, that coupled with winding up a business, being overqualified and retraining all at the same time, well you could say any woman that walks up to me and adds more pressures to my life, well...how can i put this...i just don't need the grief.
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I was married for nearly 19 years til sadly my husband passed away. So i am not looking to get married again i have been there and done that. I dont need a piece of paper to prove my love for another or them for me. For me its about our commitment to each and how we show each other what we feel and love about our relationship. If it leads to marriage well and good, but i think i need to build on a relationship before the word marriage comes into it....but i did meet a man here on cs and all i could offer him was friendship as we were not suited. But he still produced a ring and asked me to marry him and when i let him down gently he went off like a big child in a huff. Theres not alot i can say to him as he wont listen.....I do feel bad as he had high hopes about us but i never led him on as its not my nature to do some like that to another.....
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if i enjoy the company with someone i will not goin to married again,that is a small papers only..but if the time asking need to do it,i will think first hundred times...
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In response to: I was talking to a close friend the other day and also reading another thread this morning on Marrage. And I was wondering , how many would marry again? And if you have never been married,would you? I used to say up till maybe 10 years ago that I would never marry agian( I have been married only once 25 years ago)But I have changed my thinking, if the right girl came along and wished to be married I think I would. But it is not something I would require. Just wondering. Oh and sarcastic remarks are welcome and expected as well are real ones.
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It would depend on many factors. I can't sit here right now & say yes I would or no I wouldn't. It's just not that cut & dried. 
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I believe in never saying never, but damn, it is very hard for me to trust a woman and her sense of committment again. At this point in my life, I settle for a occasional date and friendship. Anything that requires a woman to make a committment, I stay away from. jmo
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I would never marry again. I've been divorced 39 years and am too independent and set in my ways. It would be a nightmare to him and probably to myself.
Plus, I don't need a piece of paper to be faithful to a man that I love. I don't believe in alimony under any circumstances so there is no advantage to marriage at my age.
If he cares enough about me I will be in his will whether married or not.
I personally think marriage takes the romance out of the relationship.
Plus, I don't need a piece of paper to be faithful to a man that I love. I don't believe in alimony under any circumstances so there is no advantage to marriage at my age.
If he cares enough about me I will be in his will whether married or not.
I personally think marriage takes the romance out of the relationship.
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RobbieM: just don't need the grief.
Nuff said .... we need room and calm in our heads to make it work.
One day eh
Yer a young man mon 
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Snuggs09: I personally think marriage takes the romance out of the relationship.
Hi Snuggs, hope are felling 100% again.I think just the longevity of a relationship can take it's toll on romance sadly, not necessarily the marriage element.
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RDM59: Hi Snuggs, hope are felling 100% again.
I think just the longevity of a relationship can take it's toll on romance sadly, not necessarily the marriage element.
I think just the longevity of a relationship can take it's toll on romance sadly, not necessarily the marriage element.
Hey RD....Saw my doctor this morning and he said I had a very bad bronchial infection that took it's toll on my body so it will be awhile before I really feel well again.
I think it's difficult for some people....men and women....to be monagamus to one person. I've never cheated on a man but I know of many on the single sites who say they are divorced and I find out they are married. So why does someone get married if they know they want to play around with more then one person?
I think women get married for security and men get married to know they have the little woman at home.
Last night Elizabeth Edwards was on Larry King. The only thing she asked of John, her husband, was to be faithful to her. He was weak and destroyed his marriage.
How does a man whose wife has cancer find it in his heart...or in his case....his pants, to cheat on his wife????
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I was married one time for 20+ yrs up until my husband passed away 2 yrs ago.I have no plans on getting married again cause heaven for bid something should happen I don't think I could go through losing someone I loved all over aagin.I'm scared to death.
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I was married for 36 years and my husband passed away 6 years ago this coming Sunday. Thought it would never happen again. Met a man a little over 2 years ago. He is Native American. I moved in right away, 4 months later we were married by the pipe, no papers to sign. I thought it would be forever, he thought differently. He remarried after I we were apart 4 months.
Would I take that step again? In a heartbeat if we both wanted it. But if not there would be no pressure from me. Take it from an older lady
marriage is a very nice sounding word and when the vows are exchanged and the rings on the fingers and that fantastic husband and wife kiss, everything seems perfect. Let me tell you, it takes a lot of work to keep a marriage together and to keep the romance alive. But it is all worth it if you truly love someone whether it be marriage or relationship you still have to work together to keep it alive.
Would I take that step again? In a heartbeat if we both wanted it. But if not there would be no pressure from me. Take it from an older lady
marriage is a very nice sounding word and when the vows are exchanged and the rings on the fingers and that fantastic husband and wife kiss, everything seems perfect. Let me tell you, it takes a lot of work to keep a marriage together and to keep the romance alive. But it is all worth it if you truly love someone whether it be marriage or relationship you still have to work together to keep it alive. ------ This thread is Archived ------
jessejess47: I was talking to a close friend the other day and also reading another thread this morning on Marrage. And I was wondering , how many would marry again? And if you have never been married,would you? I used to say up till maybe 10 years ago that I would never marry agian( I have been married only once 25 years ago)But I have changed my thinking, if the right girl came along and wished to be married I think I would. But it is not something I would require. Just wondering. Oh and sarcastic remarks are welcome and expected as well are real ones.
I've never been married so I've never experienced some of the jadedness that can come from being divorced. As to whether I would ever do it - I honestly don't know. I suppose it would depend on whether I found someone who I felt I could spend the rest of my life with. If I did, then why not? However, I would like it to be a mutual decision. I don't want the man to feel like I am pushing him into anything.
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I could Not have said that better....I absolutely agree