What Do You Do When Your Family Is Cursed? (31)
mbcasey: Our home was damaged by fire a little over 4 weeks ago. Last night, my sister's house half burned down. Don't know the cause yet but noone was hurt. She lives 500 miles away...what are the odds of my parents house burning and now my sister's house a little over a month later? The damage to her house is extensive and the house may be considered unfixable.
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
I am sorry to hear about he tragedies in your family. I am glad no one has been hurt. Material things come and go but only people, family is important. Son't dwell on thoughts of this being a curse. To do so is to court further negative stuff in your lives. Concentrate on the good.......
------ This thread is Archived ------
"Being a person who has struggled throught my life,
the only thing I can say is..never give up,
be the couragious person that you are.
Life has a way of making us truly understand
and cherish what we do have.A life is the most
precious thing...cherish that and the one's you love.
Nice to see you post Ken,all the best."
the only thing I can say is..never give up,
be the couragious person that you are.
Life has a way of making us truly understand
and cherish what we do have.A life is the most
precious thing...cherish that and the one's you love.
Nice to see you post Ken,all the best."
------ This thread is Archived ------
gingerb: I am sorry to hear about he tragedies in your family. I am glad no one has been hurt. Material things come and go but only people, family is important. Son't dwell on thoughts of this being a curse. To do so is to court further negative stuff in your lives. Concentrate on the good.......
That is the problem Ginger...there is no good news. It isn't necessarily the material things we lost but the never ending nerve-wracking process that you have to go through to make things right again.
My family is a hard working family that helps others, have a strong Christian ethic and has never hurt anyone else. I just don't understand why constant bad things follows us around.
I think my family is about ready to check into a mental institute. My poor parents are emotionally drained already with the fire we went through and the aftermath, and now their daughter is going through it too. My sister has major medical problems and really can't handle what she is about to face. Her husband is a joke (they are getting divorced) and is never home.
When does this all end? I am just so fed up with living a life of total pain through disease and disorder only to have life throw curve after curve when we do nothing wrong. A woman I fell in love with throws me away for no reason, being diagnosed with diabetes and high blood pressure, my dad going through major cancer surgery, I could go on and on. I am so freaking tired of it all.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: Our home was damaged by fire a little over 4 weeks ago. Last night, my sister's house half burned down. Don't know the cause yet but noone was hurt. She lives 500 miles away...what are the odds of my parents house burning and now my sister's house a little over a month later? The damage to her house is extensive and the house may be considered unfixable.
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
What can you do, Ken, except "keep on truckin'"? I assume she and her family are okay? Here's one way to look at it: the laws of probability pretty much guarantee some VERY good things happening to your family by way of balancing the odds. You personally might look for a gorgeous brunette to turn up lost at your doorstep looking for a man of exactly your description at any moment. Just seems logical to me, Ken.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Polarbutterfly: "Being a person who has struggled throught my life,
the only thing I can say is..never give up,
be the couragious person that you are.
Life has a way of making us truly understand
and cherish what we do have.A life is the most
precious thing...cherish that and the one's you love.
Nice to see you post Ken,all the best."
the only thing I can say is..never give up,
be the couragious person that you are.
Life has a way of making us truly understand
and cherish what we do have.A life is the most
precious thing...cherish that and the one's you love.
Nice to see you post Ken,all the best."
Being bipolar is an unbelievable struggle in itself N. I am at the end of my rope. Our whole family (my parents, one brother, one sister) live the right way. Noone in our family drinks, and only my sister smokes. We try to be charitable, try to do the right thing all the time, but it just piles on and on.
There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: Our home was damaged by fire a little over 4 weeks ago. Last night, my sister's house half burned down. Don't know the cause yet but noone was hurt. She lives 500 miles away...what are the odds of my parents house burning and now my sister's house a little over a month later? The damage to her house is extensive and the house may be considered unfixable.
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
Ken, I don't even know what to say in the face of this new tragedy for your family, other than I'm sorry to hear that this has happened. Again, though, I will remind you that you are all lucky not to have anyone seriously injured or worse through these events. It could be much worse. Remember that, please.
It's not easy to cope with naught but negativity and pain entering your life in waves, and yet I have done so with a positive attitude, as have my parents. We have had similar situations of waves of tragedy and loss in our family, and not despaired. Happiness comes from within, and once you truly have that, nothing can shake it for long.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Ambrose2007: What can you do, Ken, except "keep on truckin'"? I assume she and her family are okay?
Here's one way to look at it: the laws of probability pretty much guarantee some VERY good things happening to your family by way of balancing the odds. You personally might look for a gorgeous brunette to turn up lost at your doorstep looking for a man of exactly your description at any moment. Just seems logical to me, Ken.
Here's one way to look at it: the laws of probability pretty much guarantee some VERY good things happening to your family by way of balancing the odds. You personally might look for a gorgeous brunette to turn up lost at your doorstep looking for a man of exactly your description at any moment. Just seems logical to me, Ken.
I guess others get the "evening out of the odds" benefit due us...we just get crapped on over and over.
I will never take my own life, but I understand why people do. There is a point that one crosses where the struggle with life is too much to take.
------ This thread is Archived ------
You realize that you're not THAT cursed as to having to stand above the rubble of your house after an earthquake with the rest of your family buried below...
In response to: Our home was damaged by fire a little over 4 weeks ago. Last night, my sister's house half burned down. Don't know the cause yet but noone was hurt. She lives 500 miles away...what are the odds of my parents house burning and now my sister's house a little over a month later? The damage to her house is extensive and the house may be considered unfixable.
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
------ This thread is Archived ------
druidess6308: Ken, I don't even know what to say in the face of this new tragedy for your family, other than I'm sorry to hear that this has happened.
Again, though, I will remind you that you are all lucky not to have anyone seriously injured or worse through these events. It could be much worse. Remember that, please.
It's not easy to cope with naught but negativity and pain entering your life in waves, and yet I have done so with a positive attitude, as have my parents. We have had similar situations of waves of tragedy and loss in our family, and not despaired. Happiness comes from within, and once you truly have that, nothing can shake it for long.
Again, though, I will remind you that you are all lucky not to have anyone seriously injured or worse through these events. It could be much worse. Remember that, please.
It's not easy to cope with naught but negativity and pain entering your life in waves, and yet I have done so with a positive attitude, as have my parents. We have had similar situations of waves of tragedy and loss in our family, and not despaired. Happiness comes from within, and once you truly have that, nothing can shake it for long.
My reservoir is dried out where I can reach down and look for the positive Dru. I know you have been through hell and back and I applaud your courage. I am about to throw up my arms and say "life, take me where you will".
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: Being bipolar is an unbelievable struggle in itself N. I am at the end of my rope. Our whole family (my parents, one brother, one sister) live the right way. Noone in our family drinks, and only my sister smokes. We try to be charitable, try to do the right thing all the time, but it just piles on and on.
There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
"You have no reason to apologize and it's totally
natural to feel sad,to shed a tear,to ask for
help.We here at C.S,care a great deal;it will
get better."
"Uvunga qinraqtuaq Ken...(I'm praying for you Ken..).
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: I guess others get the "evening out of the odds" benefit due us...we just get crapped on over and over.
I will never take my own life, but I understand why people do. There is a point that one crosses where the struggle with life is too much to take.
I will never take my own life, but I understand why people do. There is a point that one crosses where the struggle with life is too much to take.
Well, the final chapter on your life has hardly been written, Ken. This could end up being merely a blip in your life before the good things start occurring.
You know I'm not religious, but one thing I've observed is that when things get absurdly bad, something absurdly good seems to arrive at some point thereafter. You and yours are alive and well, and with that can only come hope - and the possibility of improvement.
Just take it one freaking step at a time, my friend. You're at the bottom. There's only "up" from there.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: Being bipolar is an unbelievable struggle in itself N. I am at the end of my rope. Our whole family (my parents, one brother, one sister) live the right way. Noone in our family drinks, and only my sister smokes. We try to be charitable, try to do the right thing all the time, but it just piles on and on.
There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
Have you ever considered that this is a test? If you and your family share a belief that somehow you're better than others because you live such a righteous life, perhaps this is a lesson that needs to be learned...that you're not.
Don't get offended, I'm going by what you just said in this post.
I had to sell off jewelry, guns, and other stuff that I had that was precious to me just to survive recently. I have nothing more that will sell easily and quickly, and prefer not to sell my house in the current market, so I have done what's necessary to survive. I looked for the reason with an open mind, and faced my need for stuff because I learned to associate it with love during my childhood. When my late husband was alive, I had little need for material things...that was the first time in my entire life I had so little need for them. I never even needed a diamond from him, nor did I get one. But when he died, so did my feeling of being loved, and I actually bought 4 diamond rings that I ended up having to sell for a fraction of the cost of just one of them. I took a good, hard look in the mirror. I no longer have need of material things. I still desire them, but I know that I have enough love of myself not to need to replace anything with stuff. With that realization, acceptance of my losses, and turning my life over to the Universe/God to control, my life started turning around for the better.
Look for the lesson your family might need to learn. It's possible that you're experiencing a group test.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Polarbutterfly: "You have no reason to apologize and it's totally
natural to feel sad,to shed a tear,to ask for
help.We here at C.S,care a great deal;it will
get better."
"Uvunga qinraqtuaq Ken...(I'm praying for you Ken..).
natural to feel sad,to shed a tear,to ask for
help.We here at C.S,care a great deal;it will
get better."
"Uvunga qinraqtuaq Ken...(I'm praying for you Ken..).
------ This thread is Archived ------
In response to: Our home was damaged by fire a little over 4 weeks ago. Last night, my sister's house half burned down. Don't know the cause yet but noone was hurt. She lives 500 miles away...what are the odds of my parents house burning and now my sister's house a little over a month later? The damage to her house is extensive and the house may be considered unfixable.
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?Ken
Reading your post brings tears to my eyes... because I have thought this same way ALOT as of late.. It's hard.. it really is, and sometimes I think that it would be so much easier if I just didn't CARE so much, and wasn't quite so sensitive and carried everyone's troubles around with me as though they were my own..Maybe then I could finally move on and live my life for me instead of everyone else.. who, after all are old enough to take care of themselves.. Right??
Well, no.. that would be wrong because it wouldn't really be me then to be that way.. I could no more turn my back on family,and those I care about then I could well.. stay out of the pool and sun on a beautiful summer day. (you'd have to really to me to get this)
I wish I had some words of comfort for you, but all I can say is that I do empathize and sympathize with you, having gone through much tragedy in the past few years myself.. That old Elvis song "Lord this time, you gave me a moutain" seems to be my theme song these days..
Hugs to you, and your family..and I hope that things will start to look up for you all.. and thought it isn't easy always to think this way.. be thankful that you still have each other,a life can be taken in the blink of an eye, and life as you knew it, will never be the same.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: My reservoir is dried out where I can reach down and look for the positive Dru. I know you have been through hell and back and I applaud your courage. I am about to throw up my arms and say "life, take me where you will".
That's exactly what you need to do, Ken. What do you think has finally turned my life around? It's what I was fighting, too. And remember, I also understand bipolar and its challenges. I know that abyss, Ken...all too well. Leap across it instead. I finally found the answer, after being stripped down to almost nothing. (Yes, I'm a stubborn and prideful little cuss at times, so I fight what's good for me all too often.)
You're in my prayers, Ken.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Ambrose2007: Well, the final chapter on your life has hardly been written, Ken. This could end up being merely a blip in your life before the good things start occurring.
You know I'm not religious, but one thing I've observed is that when things get absurdly bad, something absurdly good seems to arrive at some point thereafter. You and yours are alive and well, and with that can only come hope - and the possibility of improvement.
Just take it one freaking step at a time, my friend. You're at the bottom. There's only "up" from there.
You know I'm not religious, but one thing I've observed is that when things get absurdly bad, something absurdly good seems to arrive at some point thereafter. You and yours are alive and well, and with that can only come hope - and the possibility of improvement.
Just take it one freaking step at a time, my friend. You're at the bottom. There's only "up" from there.
I am almost 47 years old Jeff and I haven't experienced life yet. I have never been married, have no kids, and that is all I ever wanted in life. I was never into material things and never stabbed anyone in the back during my working days. I worked hard and received many raises and promotions, only to be taken away because the bipolar flared up.
47 years of lonliness and despair...of loss and tragedy. I face a hard battle with the diabetes and people with bipolar live an average 10 years less that others. I have also had cancer and I could face that hurdle yet again.
To be honest, if the good times do show up, I wouldn't recognize it. I just think it is too late for me anyway.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: I am almost 47 years old Jeff and I haven't experienced life yet. I have never been married, have no kids, and that is all I ever wanted in life. I was never into material things and never stabbed anyone in the back during my working days. I worked hard and received many raises and promotions, only to be taken away because the bipolar flared up.
47 years of lonliness and despair...of loss and tragedy. I face a hard battle with the diabetes and people with bipolar live an average 10 years less that others. I have also had cancer and I could face that hurdle yet again.
To be honest, if the good times do show up, I wouldn't recognize it. I just think it is too late for me anyway.
It's only too late if one gives up hope completely. Only without hope is all lost...NEVER lose hope.47 years of lonliness and despair...of loss and tragedy. I face a hard battle with the diabetes and people with bipolar live an average 10 years less that others. I have also had cancer and I could face that hurdle yet again.
To be honest, if the good times do show up, I wouldn't recognize it. I just think it is too late for me anyway.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mbcasey: Being bipolar is an unbelievable struggle in itself N. I am at the end of my rope. Our whole family (my parents, one brother, one sister) live the right way. Noone in our family drinks, and only my sister smokes. We try to be charitable, try to do the right thing all the time, but it just piles on and on.
There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
You never have to apologize here, and you can always cry here.There are alot of other personal factors I won't discuss, so there is so mucch more to the undercurrent of the utter crap my family has put up with for decades.
I know others have problems too...guess I am venting and crying. I apologize.
------ This thread is Archived ------
druidess6308: Have you ever considered that this is a test? If you and your family share a belief that somehow you're better than others because you live such a righteous life, perhaps this is a lesson that needs to be learned...that you're not.
Don't get offended, I'm going by what you just said in this post.
I had to sell off jewelry, guns, and other stuff that I had that was precious to me just to survive recently. I have nothing more that will sell easily and quickly, and prefer not to sell my house in the current market, so I have done what's necessary to survive. I looked for the reason with an open mind, and faced my need for stuff because I learned to associate it with love during my childhood. When my late husband was alive, I had little need for material things...that was the first time in my entire life I had so little need for them. I never even needed a diamond from him, nor did I get one. But when he died, so did my feeling of being loved, and I actually bought 4 diamond rings that I ended up having to sell for a fraction of the cost of just one of them. I took a good, hard look in the mirror. I no longer have need of material things. I still desire them, but I know that I have enough love of myself not to need to replace anything with stuff. With that realization, acceptance of my losses, and turning my life over to the Universe/God to control, my life started turning around for the better.
Look for the lesson your family might need to learn. It's possible that you're experiencing a group test.
Don't get offended, I'm going by what you just said in this post.
I had to sell off jewelry, guns, and other stuff that I had that was precious to me just to survive recently. I have nothing more that will sell easily and quickly, and prefer not to sell my house in the current market, so I have done what's necessary to survive. I looked for the reason with an open mind, and faced my need for stuff because I learned to associate it with love during my childhood. When my late husband was alive, I had little need for material things...that was the first time in my entire life I had so little need for them. I never even needed a diamond from him, nor did I get one. But when he died, so did my feeling of being loved, and I actually bought 4 diamond rings that I ended up having to sell for a fraction of the cost of just one of them. I took a good, hard look in the mirror. I no longer have need of material things. I still desire them, but I know that I have enough love of myself not to need to replace anything with stuff. With that realization, acceptance of my losses, and turning my life over to the Universe/God to control, my life started turning around for the better.
Look for the lesson your family might need to learn. It's possible that you're experiencing a group test.
No offense taken...it is the opposite Dru. We are a very humble family. We want to help others and never want any fanfare...it would humiliate us. There have been threads about charity and what you have done to help others. I never post in those threads and never would. And I never preach to others about faith. It is a personal decision for others to make so it is none of my business. I do express my faith by saying God bless you to others, and tell others I will pray for them. But that is the extent of my prostheletyzing (spelling?).
I am glad you found what it took to take your pain and can cope with it so well. I have tried so hard myself to find that formula, but to no avail. The therapies, treatments, medications, prayers, natural homeopathic remedies...tried all of them with no success...the bipolar just keeps getting worse and worse. It has robbed me of my intellect. My memory is just about shot, and my physical body is going downhill.
------ This thread is Archived ------
This Thread is Archived
This Thread is archived, so you will no longer be able to post to it. Threads get archived automatically when they are older than 3 months.
« Go back to All Threads
« Go back to All Threads
More Threads
I'm a 53 YEAR'S YUNG MAN that lives back in the 80s
biggest lie
The GOP Representatives owned by Vladimir Putin
your favorite topic?
The weird and the random facts around the world
Who will be The Last Person To Post... VERSION FOUR
Ladies
One week of the most outrageous GOP leadership!
who shaped your life?
Democrats destroyed America
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
Stats for this Thread
1,076 Views
30 Comments
in CS Lounge
Created: May 2009
Last Viewed: Apr 22
Last Commented: May 2009
0 Likes
Related Forums
- I'm a 53 YEAR'S YUNG MAN that lives back in the 80s
- biggest lie
- The GOP Representatives owned by Vladimir Putin
- your favorite topic?
- The weird and the random facts around the world
- Who will be The Last Person To Post... VERSION FOUR
- Ladies
- One week of the most outrageous GOP leadership!
- who shaped your life?
- Democrats destroyed America
What does a family do when tragedy just piles on and on? Those who know me have learned of my problems. How can one cope with nothing but negativity and pain constantly entering their lives?
Ken